When I found I had liked my boyfriend's good friend, how should I do?

Hi how old are you? if you are young then don't worry about it being quiet is probably a good choice as you and your boyfriend wont last forever anyway. However if you are older and you and your bf are serious and your having doubts, you need to talk to your boyfriend and be honest with him, whatever you do keep your integrity.Don't cheat on your bf with his best friend cuz above all else you should be true to your self, and you cant do that without having a good heart. I hope it helps. Goodluck!

Hi, In my opinion, you should follow your feeling. If you only like your boyfriend's good friend, it would be a very complicated problem. You should follow your feeling. If you really like him very much, then you should be honest to your boyfriend. It is not fair for your boyfriend if he don't know that you don't like him anymore. You should let you boyfriend know about it. Maybe you can try to talk to your boyfriend about it. It would be much better to solve this problem in harmony. If you do it wrongly, then your boyfriend will become enemy with his friend. So, be honest and follow your feeling. Not to rush and solve it carefully. Maybe you can ask both of them out and then try to talk about it.

its an awkward situation,,walk away and leave them both,therel always be other boys

Do you think this relationship will endure? Suppose his best-friend also mentions to you that he loves you, oh wow you're so happy. Then you proceed with the relationship. What a wonderful life you have. Now... Who'll fall and at the same time be struck down by the ladder, heavily? The 'had-felt' guy will face two pains at a time, he lost you and along with his best friend. Do you willingly see him badly in his despair condition? Even though you may think your boyfriend may granted your wish, but their friendship would be cost heavily, it will be faded by time. It's up to you. Personally it's heavy for me...

How old are you? I'm not trying to judge, just trying to get a better idea of where you might be coming from :) This is a totally natural thing to happen. Often, when you have a really good time with someone, you end up thinking about them a lot, or maybe even get crushes. But if this has only been going on for a short time (less than a month) then I would say keep it to yourself for now. It may be that it's just a reaction to getting close to someone. Do you have any male friends besides your boyfriend? If not, then that's probably a large factor in why you're feeling this way about your boyfriends friend - that somehow any male that gives you attention and enjoys spending time with you is a candidate for romance. If, after a while, it doesn't stop and you don't go back to normal with your boyfriend, you may want to give a bit more thought to your relationship with your boyfriend, and why you're attracted to his friend instead of him. What's different? Is it just his appearance, or the way he treats you? Think carefully about what makes you happy and what you want in a mate.

I think the first you should confirm if you still love your boyfriend? If the answer is that you do not love him,I think you should separate with him.It is not fair to your boyfriend if you cheat him. The second ,you should try to know if his friend love you?If he loves you,tell him,if not,keep it a sceret forever.

well, i think honesty and trust are two very important elements in a relationship... you have to talk to your boyfriend and let him know... it is not nice having to lie and pretend in front of your boyfriend everytime... if you feel that you don't love him anymore, then tell him honestly and may be you should break up with him... that's what i would do... just my opinion... take care and have a nice day...

First of all, I think you should ask yourself if this is just a crush or not. Many a times, I think this is quite naturally mistaken for love relationship. Being familiar and on good terms is natural as time goes by but we should learn to draw the line. In any relationship, as much as we need the other party to be committed and faithful to us, it is natural that we do likewise for our partners. On the hindsight, I assume that the both of you had some conflicts recently, so there will be some wane of feelings between the both of you. However, let me just add that in all relationships there will always be differences, quarrels and bad patches and we do not try and work things out then we will always fail the test of time. In everything, it is always better to give and take, sliding even towards either side will not be conducive to either party. I just hope that you will just slow things down and have a little time alone and think seriously about it. I am sure all these years with your boyfriend is certainly not a waste and will be worth your while to reconsider.

xianyang_ I made the mistake of marrying my ex-husband after I realised I had feelings for his best friend. I tried to ignore the feelings and I never saw his friend again. I made a big mistake. If you have any doubts about your current boyfriend and the feelings you have for his friend, step back and think what you're doing. You can't be in love with someone and have feelings for his friend at the same time. You have to choose. If you are worried about destroying a friendship then you need to walk away from both of them, or talk it out with one of them. Don't make the same mistake I did. Find out if your feelings for the friend are real before you destroy a true love you might have with your current boyfriend. You'll be fine.

Anytime this feeling comes on i think you should try to focus on something else like call a friend or do some exercises. I would suggest that above all things you stop going out with you boyfriend and his friend together.

You just don't love any of them. If were in love with your boyfriend first, you shouldn't have been looking for anybody else. So tell your boyfriend, and get out his way, he don't deserved you; and his friend less.

Same thing happened with my girlfriend and her friend. Only, we both liked each other. Needless to say, it didn't turn out good. My gf found out- relationship over (no longer even friends really). And me and her friend tried to make it work, but it just couldn't. It was too weird being around all of their friends with my ex's friend 'cause i had been around the same people with my ex. Just, not a good situation.

In my opinion,you should think about your feeling carefully.Which guys do you really like?Your boyfriend or that guy.Maybe you are just tired of your boyfriend and that guy let you feel fresh.So you should distinguish them before your final decision.Once you get your point,i think you should tell them.I think it is better for all of you three.I hope it is helpful for you.Good luck.

Its rather a tough sort of quagmire, the more you try to solve it, the more you get deeply entangled..

For how long have you been seeing your boyfriend's friend and how long have you been with your boyfriend? Come on, think There are times that our emotions fooled us, sometimes, we mistakenly defined infatuation, friendship/companionship, (whatever you may want to call it)to love. I think right now you are just confused about how you feel. You need to stay away to things that you obviously know will hurt others and will hurt you at the end. You may invest emotions to your boyfriend's friend but it doesn't mean that he can return the same emotions you feel. There is also a possibility that your boyfriend's friend, when he founds out what you feel towards him, will choose to stay away from you, this is out of respect to his friend- which just happens to be your boyfriend. Men, sometimes, never trade girls, for friendship.