is it cheating?
By chechuva
@chechuva (1275)
Philippines
May 28, 2008 10:02pm CST
my boyfriend is in Dubai right now, but we don't have the communication to continue the relationship. yesterday, i dated a guy. he's kind and direct. actually his attitude is like my boyfriend.
we both understand that we don't have a relationship. its just a date. but i enjoyed the day with him. through out the date, i have this thought in mind that im cheating my boyfriend. im having mixed emotion. i want to see this guy again. i just don't know yet my status with my boyfriend.
am i cheating? 
4 responses
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Not yet but before you do i would find out whats up with you and your boyfriend . And if you know that you still want to see this other guy even if your boyfriend says you all are still together then you should let you boyfriend know so that noone will get hurt.I think the worst heartache is to know that the one you love is spending time with someone else. I have been there before and it is not a good feeling.But i hope you figure it out. And remember what goes around comes around what you do to someone another person could do to you even worse.Good luck
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jun 08
your feelings will answer you for that. if that dating will lead to something more serious, then it is obvious that you are cheating your boyfriend because you haven't have a formal breakup with him yet. i think you must do first thing first. settle your relationship with your boyfriend before getting into another dating relationship with another man.
@angepange (123)
• Australia
29 May 08
hello
i remember another post you did. your 'boyfriend' took your money and went to dubai and hasnt contacted you since. that was like a month ago.
if that is still your situation then go for it with this other guy who sounds nice.
its not cheating if the other has left you and wont contact you. i believe you are single so do what you feel is right.
but, if you feel as though you are cheating, then dont start a relationship. relationships need to be built on trust, and that would not be a good way to start a new relationship with this other guy, he may think you will do the same to him one day or he may do the same to you. you need to set the standards from the word go.
build with trust and go from there.
i think the other guy is an idiot for what he did. contact him, dump him and go for this new fellow. then it will be guilt free love :-)
goodluck hun
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Before involving yourself with a close acquaintance, settle your relationship first with your boyfriend.
It doesn't matter if you've made an agreement with that new guy that you will not be involved in something emotional with him, the fact that you agreed to meet him alone although not totally cheating, that would pre-empt the guy that you're giving him the motive. It will also open or lead to opportunities of temptation especially now that you have this ill-feeling with your far-away boyfriend.
Just a suggestion... Good luck!
