Tired of being a mom

There are times in my life when being a mom is really overwhelming and there are a lot of things that I would really like to do but know I probably never will because it just doesn't fit in with being a mom. I just try and take a few minutes to my self and remind myself of all of the bonuses that came with motherhood. The lady who wrote in may have been just venting a temporary emotion,or so I hope.

When my kids where little I got tired of being a mom but I still did my job it did help to complain to vent out all the flustrations and lack of sleep. As the years past and the kids have grown I actually miss the days when they where babies and safe and sound in their little beds at night. Not all women are cut out to be mommies and if this lady (not sure of her age) is really seriously looking for a way out she can always put them up for adoption and give the children a chance to have someone who does want to be a mommy.

I think every mom feels a little burnt out from time to time and needs to take a little time away to recharge and refresh -even if that means simply locking the door to go to the bathroom alone.

I think you are right that we each are tired of being the mom and those of us who are raising/or raised our children on our own, even more so. I was very lucky since my family was a big help and offered much support to me. They were willing to watch the kids for me so I could get out and do things for myself. I was able to bowl once a week during bowling season and I belonged to a women's group......a sorority that is not college affiliated. I was also very involved with the things that my children were doing...sports, Girl Scouts, PTA, etc. But even with the time for myself and out of the house and my family to help out, it wasn't always easy and there were times when I wished that I could just walk away. I knew that I never would or could because I loved my kids too much and couldn't figure out why their dad could just walk away and not want to be a part of their lives. I believe that this woman was looking for help of some kind whether it was a sympathetic ear or someone to help her to figure out her life and how she could better handle being the mom when it is such a hard thing to be. Many times our friends and family just tell us what we want to hear or don't help at all.

I think the lady just needs to take a break and learn to realized that when you vowed to be a mother it is a 24/7 with no benefits, no overtime, no holiday and no pay job. Many of us have those moments but soon realized we signed up for it and should not complain to make it public. But again, if the kids are 21 and over, then she need to tell her kids to clean up their act and start behaving like an adult.

I've noticed here that most people that have not felt this only has 1 child. I felt this too when my children were at home. I had a boy and a girl. My boy was 5 years when my girl was born. So he was used to being the only 1. He was okay with his sister until she learned to crawl to the toys. From then on it was war. My children are thankfully grown now with their own children. My daughter now feels the same way. She has three. There is relief from this. The first time i heard someone say it i thought they were crazy but now i know how true it is. "It is much better being the grandparent than the parent".

there are times that I wish I was not a mom and that I had taken a diffrent path and when I start feeling that way I literally give myself a time out in my room and think about all the wonderfull things my children have brought to my life. Then I start to feel better about being a mom. I also think about how I would feel IF I didnt have my kids and realise that basically my life would be empty. No matter what the way I look at it I need my kids just as much as they need me.

I don't think she was looking for a way out of motherhood. I mean, there really isn't any, unless she signs over her rights to a court. I think she was looking for ideas on how to deal with it, heck she could have wrote in, in hopes the radio station would feel sorry for her and give her free stuff for her. A mom wouldn't really be sane, if we didn't have those days or moments, where we wished that our kids would disappear. That's where schools comes in handy.

That is true..Almost every mother feels tired at a time or another for being a mom. That is human nature. I have atoddler.He never sits at a place. I would be totally exhausted but still he would have all the energy..Sometimes I would be very tired of him both physically and mentally. At those times, what I do to get a relaxation is to call my friend. She is a mom of twins. we discuss about the naughty activities of kids, their behaviours. we enjoy the kids attitudes and activities..that is all...My mind will be very calm and relaxed. I also visit blogs of moms..All these helps to share my views and thoughts and thereby overcome the thought of getting tired.

I guess I'm wondering what she thought a radio station could do about it - did she think that the would provide her with a full time nanny or a free day away from the children? I'm thinking that she was just looking for someone to feel sorry for her and to give her something for free. Is she playing the martyr and actually doing things that cause her children to depend on her rather than to let others (the ex, the grandparents, aunts and uncles) help out? Sounds to me like she as "Poor Me Syndrome"! I think there are a lot of people who don't think about what being a parent involves before they have children. Then things get a little tough and all of a sudden they don't want the children that they have. Who pays the price - the children!

There are times when I wish that I had finished college before having a child, but now that she is in my life I would never even think about not wanting to be a mother. If she doesn't want to be a mother then she should have thought about that before she brought them into this world to have a mother that doesn't want them. That is her duty as a mother to take care of them. That is just rediculous.

I don't think that I could ever write someone and complain about being tired that my kids depend on me. This person sounds like my ex-husbands new wife. I have a son that has a variety of special needs (ODD, ADHD, autism, and other issues) there are days hard such as I just want to go to bed until my husband gets home, but I can't and don't. I believe that your children didn't ask to be here and if you are too selfish to take care of them give them to the other parent or find a family that will take them.

I am seriously considering dropping my child off at his father's house and letting them sort it out. Yep, I took on being a mother and I knew what I was getting into. Except I didn't know that my child would be a brat despite my 100% best daily efforts, have constant troubles at school (private school that I pay for by myself), possible learning disability, needs medication, etc...and I get no help whatsoever from any family member. Not one. I think a little dose of reality for both my child and his father is in order. He can pay for everything for a little while like I have been, my kid can learn to appreciate what I do and listen to me while he is with his father...maybe they can both come to realize life is not about them frolicking and doing whatever they want to do while I pull my hair out to try to make things right. If not, they can stay living together. Either way, I'm done being Mother Teresa. Next time I get a call from the school, he is going to his dad's. Does this make me a bad mom? Too bad. You come get him and take care of him by yourself for 10 years and then tell me how you feel!!

I think she has no one else to turn to . I don't know why, but I somehow feel that she is very lonely . Being a single mother can be very challenging. In fact, the role of a mother is to take care of kids , educate them, etc. Not to earn income. Earning income is the father's role. Earning income and take care of kids , i can say Wow , is indeed challenging. P Perhaps, she want a solution whereby she's hoping for someone to come to her to help raise one of her kids or something. As for me, being a mom is a blessing. Ever get tired? Yes tired at the end of the day after all the playing, housework, etc. But not tired of being one. When I am tired and need a break, I would ask my husband to take over for some hours or a day. Then I will be rejuvenated . :)

I agree with you. SHe is making it public that is tired. There is something odd there. I am a full time stay at home mother. I am with them 24/7 and rarely get to even go grocery shopping by myself. So I understand how she can be tired. I think every mother does. But to announce it to the entire world...i dont think that is right. I do complain to family and friends something...but you need to just vent sometimes. It helps....

I love my kids but I need a break from them from time to time. I am with them 24/7 and somedays are better then others. When I do have a bad day I ask my hubby for an hour alone time in the tub. The bath water has always relaxed me and to have an hour of no one talking to me about I want this or that is so nice. Its something that I need and take them as much as I can. I am a SAHM so they are always with me and then they sleep in our bed with us. Like I said I don't get many breaks but you need them. Alot of times when I go shopping with my mom and the kids stay home I start to miss them even though I was happy to be by myself. That womens husband needs to help out and take the kids unless they got a divorce for something he did to the kids. Then she needs to hire a babysitter but if shes crying out for help then someone needs to help her before she does something crazy to those kids.

It is awful to announce our family problems to the public. But also it is really something to say a person is tired of being a parent. I think that is awful. I have two children who are now adults, and no matter how hard things got I was never tired of being a mom. But I do know someone who says the same thing. She says if there was a way she could give her kids to someone she would. Her kids are now 14 and 15 years old so it isn't as if they are babies anymore, but still. She says if she knew it was this hard to be a parent she would never have had them. I can see these kids leaving home as soon as they turn 18, because she tells them too, how she feels about it. They know they aren't wanted and so they just stay out of her way and don't have much of a relationship. I think it is so sad. My kids, now 25 and 33, have always known they were loved and wanted no matter how hard it got for me.

I think that a single mom needs to enlist the aid of her family or friends to help so she won't get burned out. she was probably really just plain tired and that can translate into thinking you dont want to be a mom any longer but all she needs is a bit of help now and then so she can recharge her batteries so to speak.

I understand you. So when my boy was born, I was 31 years old.I think about to be pregnant for a long time, I desided to be a mother, only one childred's mother. Now, I'm not tired of being a mom

hello!i am not tired of being mom!if we have patience we really enjoy being a mom and its a normal thing that sometimes kids drives us nuts but its our kids.all we have to do is patience and need sometimes of ourself.