poor people and children

Indonesia
May 30, 2008 2:13am CST
i just don't understand (depend on people in my country) most of poor people have lots of children rather than people who have better income. what i seen most of poor people have children more than 2 children. it can be 3,4,5 or even more children the sad things, lots of news said that mall nutrition desease commonly happened in poor people and again what i see in here thay have lots of children. it just came in my thought, why does it can be happened? don't they think about the future of their children which means giving their children better food, better education, better health inspite of having lots of children? due to some my college research previous time ago, most of poor people have sterotype that every children bring their own prosperity so need not to worry that the children won't be able to eat food. oh, c'mon how could they have those kind thought? don't they realize their own economic condition and feel pity if the children not have nutritious food as they should deserve? in this matter, i have thought perhaps poor condition is not always like destiny, but cause they want to have those condition cause if not, they will more concern to have at least 2 children and arise them very welll rather than having more than 5 children on those circumstances please forgive me if i get wrong opinion in here but this that i want to share with all of you in here
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
26 Jun 08
In my personal opinion, the reason why most poor couples are encouraged to make babies is simply because they have no diversion. If they have good income, they they could find other ways to spend weekends and evenings rather than stay home and make love LOL. One other reason is that they are unaware of family planning. If they are aware of it, they may not have the finances to buy contraceptives. It's just a thought.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I am poor, and I have 5 children, but they are all very well fed. Food is our first purchase, bills get paid after that. I think you are referring to a typical stereo type. The type of people who don't really care or think about things like that. They don't really prevent getting pregnant, and don't really think much about the child's future because it's an unwanted child. Then the child is neglected and mistreated. I believe poverty may also lead to the fact they have more children because they can't afford doctor visits to get on birth control. But at the same time, in my neighborhood, all families have 4 or more children, and many of those families do have a lot of money... Each situation is different.
• Romania
21 Jun 08
people can be very stupid. they tend to think about themselves rather than other people and of course their new unborn child. it's indeed very sad. but not just those people have trouble. my mother works in a hospital with children under the age of 1. and the people who came there are... i can't even find a word. stupid is little said. they feed potatoes and carrots and meat to children just 3-4 months old. i don't know why people don't think about other persons, especially their own children.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
26 Jun 08
After living in the Philippines and India; and now being in Egypt I have always wondered the same thing to be honest. The only reasoning I can come up with is a lack of education and a lack of available resources such as access and understanding of birth control and basic information. Maybe its is a mindset of "strength in numbers" as well? I am not sure. It is quite an interesting scenario when you think about it as the "elite" or very rich tend to go the complete opposite way. It is very rare to see a very rich person with a multitude of children! I may be mistaken but this has always been my observation anyway. Whatever the reasons it is most definitely a concern as the gap between the rich and the poor is widening more and more every day.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Jun 08
yes, it is really true. it is also a common situation even here in our country. people who can't support their children for food, shelter and education bear a lot of kids, while those who can afford raise smaller number. i think it has something to do with their education, and the kind of situation they are into. busy people are those successful people. they don't own their time to make a lot of kids, and they have more priorities in life than getting their wife pregnant. while poor people are those that are not so busy, living in poor areas of the country with doesn't have musch something to do than making children.
@fatima07 (169)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
yeah your right. People do not think before they do a one thing. Haven't came in their mind about the future of their siblings. I hate those people in the very young age commited to early marriage it's just because they get pregnant.
@alienstar (5142)
• India
7 Jun 08
Strengely what you are saying here has many true facts and i have also never noticed it and now even i have to ask the same question of "why" and also i have seen some beggars who are physically strong and not willing to work isntit? this is on emore thing which does show laziness of that person who has adopted to easiest of them all to begging instead of working
@alienstar (5142)
• India
31 May 08
If one is rich, then he should also get involved in activities like helping out poor peopel around and these dyas' politicians are earning in the name of povertya nd also they becoem rich without helping any poor one's is a very bad trend.All are human beings and if evryone is happy how nice the world will be isnt it?
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
31 May 08
I have noticed here that if the poor have lots of kids it is to get more food stamps and check for them but then they get food this way some poeple just like lots of kids I wouldnt need to have just enough to take care of real good
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
31 May 08
I never understood how people who where poor just kept on having children, they must know they can not give them the education, or all that they need through the years to grow up and be productive, I see where people live in what looks like cardboard houses, in some areas, little food on the table, I used to belong to a program where you sponceried a child overseas and that bit they took out of my check each month gave me such a good feeling, maybe I was at least helping one child. I Think it is a lackof education, and women in some places are there for how ever the husband wants to treat her. The programs that feed the children, it seems to me they would get farther if they some how stopped them from having baby after baby.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
31 May 08
There are many directions this discussion can take. Many times those with no economic resouces have no way for birth control methods and it is their way not to worry about not having more children since they cannot pay for ways NOT to have them. They aren't always concerned with the free methods that are provided for them. Many times they are also wanting to have more children to get more money from the government. Many years ago there was a family at the school where I taught and the mother as much as told one of the teachers that she was happy that she had daughters so they could have babies so they could have more money coming into the home. I think that this is ignorance, but they see it as the way to live their lives. It is the accepted way in the environment they were in. They do NOT think of the future of the children just as the older children do not think that things can be different for them than they were for their parents if they make changes in the way that they live their lives. They only know what they have seen and don't always necessarily know how to make the changes to do something different with their lives. I am not sure what your country is, but I am in the USA and it is so easy to get help with food and living expenses if you have a larger family that it is the easy way for some families with many children. Even if you are working you can sometimes get money for rent and food from the government if you have a large family. These people don't think about the children growing up in a large family and eating with this money and being dependent on the government and chances are these same children will make the same life for their own families when they are grown. These same families don't always PLAN their children either but just have them as they have them. I also think it is a sad thing.
• Philippines
31 May 08
The marginalized sees having many children as their "saving grace", they believe that if they make more children, the more likely these children will save them from their financial status. Little do they know that they actually have to raise these children in a good environment, with good education and good nutrition before they are able to eligible to be their "way out" of poverty, and that needs require stable job and money. That's where their ideology fails.
@aswinbio (174)
• India
31 May 08
they think that giving birth to many children will reduce their poverty. They think if all the children go to work they get more money
@jakesun (100)
• China
7 Jun 08
friends,i think it's to choose the deffirent way of life.they have a few children and they are poor ,but at the same time ,they are happy.why we thought like this ,besause we have our own glasses.
@Jemina (5770)
30 May 08
Because poor people have more time to make babies. I read somewhere that these people who come from below poverty tend to think that having more children means more people to help alleviate the family's financial condition. It's sad to note that they sometimes or most of the time fail to look at a different angle like more mouths to feed and things like that. It's really exasperating, I know.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
30 May 08
I have often wandered this also. The only thing I could come up with, it that they have alot of children so they can get government assistance. Most of these people have been poor all of their lives and they know how hard life was when they were growing up. I don't understand why they would want to have alot of children and make them suffer also.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
30 May 08
I totally agree with what you have said plumwish, It is very sad and part of the reason many they don't know about it. Lack of education tends to limit their thinking and because of that, they also can't afford contraceptives. I hope the government will start organizing any group to share with these people the value of birth control. teaching them the advantages of having a small family. SOme will just think that it is better to have many children so when they grow up, they will look for a job and help them in their lives. And sad to say,these kids will also be doing the same and problem will be endless.
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
30 May 08
You have an interesting and thought-provoking poser here. My own theory about this phenomenon is the following: It is a vicious cycle for those who live a poor life. Being poor and more deprived, they probably are more poorly educated and have low level jobs or are jobless. They have more time on their hands to procreate. They are not likely those who plan their financial future and just keep producing babies, without thinking how they can give them a good life. So their children end up like them, being poor and deprived. When these children grow up, they will be like their parents and continue this vicious cycle. On the other hand, the rich will be better off being educated and end up in higher skilled and higher-level jobs. These people will be more career-minded, and work hard to earn a living to the extent that they have less time to socialize, get married and start families. They will be so caught up in their jobs or stressed out in their careers that they don't have time for children, so limit the number of children they are prepared to have. Some will marry later or not marry at all, so end up childless. I think this scenario I have painted is a problem that is plaguing many countries today, and the countries which are rich are probably those where their citizens have falling birthrates. On the other hand, the poorer countries tend to have higher populations, and hence many poor people as a result.
• Brunei Darussalam
30 May 08
Most population in poor countries still practices in farming and other primary sectors..so most families thought that by having more children,there will be less burden in the farm for a family as their kids tend to join to help cultivating the land.
• India
30 May 08
Well, I myself come from a developing country and although I live with a well to do middle class family I share my locality with many such families that you have mentioned. Well in most cases it is due to labor, More children means more can go to work when they grow up earning much more income. Although child labor is illegal some families just don't have enough earnings to prevent that. Let me give an example. In my locality the construction workers ( women too ) get 1 Dollar for an hours work ( I know it is a sad thing ). So if they had around 4 kids they can earn a hell lot more since children usually work more hours. Well I know the example I gave above is pathetic and the sum I mentioned they earn is actually a little above the actual value they earn. They are so poor that they live in houses made of flattened tin sheets that is salvaged from tin cans. Secondly it is male dominance situation. They have lots of kids in other cases when the first few are females.