long distance relationship (LDR)
By eccentricmoi
@eccentricmoi (206)
Philippines
May 31, 2008 10:26am CST
anyone out there who have been there, done that? did you manage to survive, if so, how? would you care to spill some thoughts? or if you didn't manage to pull through, why did you decide to end it? is LDR really worth doing? if you haven't gone through it, can you and/or will you do it?
2 responses
@bontheka (65)
• Hong Kong
1 Jun 08
I was in at least 2 long distance relationships. The first one, I knew was heading nowhere as it was always me who made the effort to keep in touch. When he finally decided to end it because he felt it was difficult to maintain it, I was upset but relieved at the same time and felt like a huge boulder had been lifted off my shoulders.
With the second guy, we both made the effort to keep in touch through regular emails (that means a few times a day), phone calls and it helped that I was a flight attendant at the time, so I manage to see him every month or so. Well, he proposed within 6 months of our first meeting, and we got married 7 months after getting engaged. We have now been married for almost 9 years and have two little boys.
If you're both willing to commit to the relationship, keep in regular contact and be honest with each, it will work.
@eccentricmoi (206)
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
wow.. I'm truly amazed! and so happy for you. I wish I'd end up the same way but we really can't tell. Its the expectations that'll just make life complicated. Maybe I'm just trying to live life day by day, putting effort on this relationship as so he is. I believe we can pull through. Though oftentimes, the distance is excruciating, I just find means to keep myself busy.
Thanks for the comment, bontheka! =)
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
25 May 09
Yeah, been there a lot of times. All sorts of long distance relationship. I've been in a relationship with someone from Turkey. I've been in a relationship with someone from the city but eventually moved out of the country. I've been in a relationship with someone who left and lived in another city. Needless to say, they didn't work out but it doesn't mean i'm going to stop loving and it doesn't mean too that i won't cross that path again. It's quite complicated because it always had something to do with priorities and dreams.