I hope to adopt a little girl from Sichuan earthquake
By youless
@youless (112481)
Guangzhou, China
June 1, 2008 10:02am CST
This earthquake broke many happy families. And there are many children lost their own home. Besides donating money, I don't know what more I can do. Until I read the news about a little girl who was rescued. But her parents all died in order to protect her by their flesh bodies.
At that time I was tearful. If that disaster happened to me, I would wish my son to be alive and there will be better parents to take care of him for me. Then I would be in peace in the heaven.
And at that time I had a thought, that is to adopt a little girl as our own daughter. We already have a son, and it will be perfect to have one more girl. I will treat her as well as my own child, and her parents shall be smile in the heaven. My son is Yong Xi, and I will call this girl as Mei Xi. Yong Xi stands for forever hope, and Mei Xi means a beautiful hope. As long as the hope exists, anything can be possible.
Lately I often read the relevant news about the adoption. Perhaps we are not very qualified with the requirements, but it's better for us to have a try. I know adoption is a big decision and it needs the responsibility, but I think we are ready for it. If we fail to the adoption at last, I hope any families which are qualified with adopting a child, please treat them as well as your own child. We are a big family and we all live in the same planet.
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28 responses
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I understand your feeling and sympathy for the kids youless and I will also do the same if I will qualify. I know a lot of couples will respond to this and we will just pray for these kids since the esperience is just very very depressing and traumatic on their part!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Thanks youless,I also would love to be talking with people who have heart for everyone and for nature! happy posting!
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I think thats lovely that you would consider adopting a child from the earthquake. I really wish you the best in being chosen for such a noteworthy task. I don't know you personally, but this post has certainly given me a new perspective in regard to the kind of person you are and I have to say I admire you greatly. I sincerely wish you the best of luck. Any child would be lucky to be in your home.
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 08
You are one of my friends in the list. And it's glad that you become to know more about me. In fact there are quite a lot of people here want to offer help. My colleague went to donate blood, but she has waited for a few weeks and it's her turn to donate blood on this Wednesday. My sister-in-law, she and her husband are the volunteers to carry the donating goods on weekends. A trainer works in the gym, he wants to call for all his muscle friends to go to Sichuan to be the volunteers. Perhaps they don't have some special skills, but they say at least they have the strength. They can carry heavy things. So you can see how many people want to do the same. It's the same as adopting these children. It's sad they lost their families, but they will have new home. The harder and much more strict adoption requirements, the better. As it will be good for children.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I think the stricter the requirements, the better. After all, some children that are placed in foster care or are adopted find themselves in worse situations than they did before they were placed. My heart goes out to you and once again, I wish you the very best of luck, because your heart is obviously in the right place.
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@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
2 Jun 08
That would be great if you could adopt that little girl. I was adopted as a baby. I got two wonderful parents. I think you would make a great mother for her. I have thought about adopting a child. I didn't get married until late though and I don't think I have the energy to care for a child now.
@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Well I always knew I was adopted even before I knew what the word meant. I had to look it up in the dictionary, lol. It wasn't a real big thing for me though. My brother was also adopted. I think its better for them to be told because there is a good chance they eventually will find out. If they find out late they will likely feel betrayed. Also I think its important for them to know a little bit about the family's medical history. There were some things in my birth family's medical history that would have been beneficial for me to know sooner.
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Jun 08
I hope you won't mind it, but I would like to know it. You know there are many things I have to consider now and then. Since you were an adopted child, do you think it's better for you to know the truth or not to know it at all? I tend to select the latter, perhaps it's less hurtful for the child? But I don't know. What do you think?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jun 08
That would be great. Will the government let you? I know because of the population growing,they were limiting families to one child.Anyway I hope you can adopt and that you get to adopt a little girl.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I thought something like this would happen.Let's hope that you still can adopt.
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@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Jun 08
I am still not sure about it. According to the adoption law, the couple who doesn't have their own child will have the qualification to adopt. I don't know whether there will be an exception for this disaster. But be sure no childen's couple will adopt a child easily than us.
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@spectrum42 (393)
• United States
2 Jun 08
If you are interested in doing this, please check with an adoption agency to learn about the requirements and the process. I know it will be some time before they have determined which children have no relatives and will need to be adopted, however the adoption process is a long one as well, so you could probably get started on that soon. (We just completed an adoption a couple of months ago. It took years from start to finish.)
In another response you wondered if you'd meet the requirements since you already have a child. I know of many people who have a child and still adopt, so I don't think that would exclude you. There are, however, several requirements you need to meet. These includes things dealing with your home size, family size, criminal history, health status and financial situation.
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@spectrum42 (393)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Oh, yes, now I see. I forgot that you are IN China which makes some difference to that requirement.
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Good Luck!!! I hope it wors out for you. There is nothing like a little girl. Little boys are nice but little girls are different. I have 2 girls and 2 boys. My girls are grown and my boys are entering their teens. I would adopt a little girl in a second if we could afford it and believe me it would be treated as my own child simply because she would BE my own child. Again, my best wishes and my good thoughts are winging their way toward you!
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
9 Jun 08
What a beautiful heart you have! I hope that you qualify for adoption. I will say a prayer for you. Thank you for caring so much about the orphaned children.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 08
I had read an article from a blog a week back about the adoption of quake orphans. There are tons of Americans and foreigners wanting to adopt the earthquake’s orphans as well. But from the officials estimation shows that the number of Chinese wanting to adopt the orphans might outnumber the orphans themselves. So I think the terms and conditions to be eligible to get an adopted child must be very strict. I think the Chinese government most probably will start with domestic adoption first. So the foreign people like us are very difficult to adopt the quake orphans. Anyway I feel very glad to see so many Chinese people in your country wanting to adopt the quake orphans. Since you are enthusiastic, caring and love kids very much I hope you will materialize your dream by adopting the little girl soon. I could now imagine how nice to see an intimate family photo with you and your husband standing behind your parents and the two adorable kids, Yong Xi and Mei Xi sitting on the laps of your parents. Have a nice day and good luck.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 08
Hi youless, whenever I think of those parentless children after the Sichuan disaster I will feel rather sad and sympathized with their present deplorable situation. I feel eased to know that are still warmth and love shown in this world. Many kind and caring people like you in your country would like to adopt them as their own children. It is really a good deed. Though you are quite certain that you wouldn’t be able to be successful you have really shown your enthusiasm in helping them in this aspect. Anyway I still hope that you could materialize your dream. With best wishes. Thanks for selecting mine as the best response.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Jun 08
You are right. The adoption will consider Chinese families at first. So far I learned that there are 87859 Chinese want to adopt these children. And we are not so qualified because we have our own child already. This is why I think it's not easy for us to succeed the adoption. But on the other hand, more candidates mean better and better families waiting for these children. At least it's not a bad thing.
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@jungletime (221)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Oh youless, what a beautiful post! How wonderful to be so selfless as to consider adopting this little who is in such need of a wonderful new family. Good luck to you.
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@monishavakil (1019)
• India
9 Jun 08
oh that is lovely. i wish i could adopt a child. one of my dreams in life and specially a baby girl. I think they are truely a God sent gift. If you do get a chance to do that, it would be wonderful. I wish you all the best and God bless you.Please do write and let me know when you do adopt her. thanks dear.
@eccentricmoi (206)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
That's very nice of you, you indeed have a big heart. My beau was also devasted when he saw the news, granted it was his country, he was also a former firefighter. So he was torn when he wanted to help but he couldn't be there. He'll be returning to China for a medical mission for the Sichuan earthquake victims.
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@eccentricmoi (206)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Yeah he is. And same as I told him, goodluck with your noble deed. Earth is a better place with people like you. =)
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@jasmine0728 (677)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I think that is a wonderful idea.So nice to hear there are good people out there.I don't know much about the adoption process,so I will wish you luck and hope all works out for you and her.She is lucky to have had parents that put her life ahead of their own,and you are right it will make them happy in heaven to see her in a good loving home.
God bless,
Jas
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
2 Jun 08
You can be great mother Youless. I am sure that many people would like to adopt that girl.
We can not adopt any kids from China without paying 20K. It is more than most people can afford.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
9 Jun 08
Yea the Sichuan earthquake was terrible. I donated some money but definitely hope to do more than that. I think adopting a child is really great! I hope your adoption would go well. But for me, I think I will investigate what I could do more to help the people to re-build their homes at a later stage.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Jun 08
Hello dear youless. It is such a huge disaster to Wenchuan people in Sichuan and some other neighboring provinces. I have been reading news about the 8.0-magnitude devastating Wenchuan Earthquake that took place on May 12th and also the latest development of those imprisoned lakes formed due to the earthquake and aftershock every day. It is relieving that our government and soldiers and people from all walks of life have been helping the people there by different kinds of means. I am plunged into deep sorrow that so many of our country fellows were killed and got wounded from this devastating earthquake, leaving thousands of victims homeless and heartbroken and also so many orphans without parents and parents without their kids. The great loss to each family and to our country will never be forgotten.
I have to say that you have such a big heart as to offer help to adopt an orphan girl, but it is not that easy for a family who have already had a kid, which is the policy when applying to the authorities for the adoption of an orphan. Our government is doing its best to help the victims in every possible way to make their life back to normal before the earthquake, which is greatly appreciated.
You have been a very nice and perspective mylot friend of mine, so caring to people. I am very proud of youless.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
Hi youless! Oh that is such a wonderful thing to do my friend! I hope you will be successful in adopting that little girl. I am very happy to read this decision of yours and it made my heart filled with so much love and admiration for you. God bless your soul and I will be at peace too knowing that a person like you with a big heart will be the new mother of that little girl.
Take care and God bless! 
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
7 Jun 08
After the earthquake take place, many people ask the detail infornmation about how to adopt a child from disaster areas. My family also think about it. But after searching the internet for the rules, we find that it is too hard for people to adopt a child in China.
First, it must be a two parents family with no child, and both of the parent is full with love and with good finiace abilty and not too young or too old.
As I am brought up in a single parent family, my mother is too old for adoption while I am still single now, so we have to give up now.
If you can reach the rule, I hope you can adopt a child from the disaster area.
@YOULANLIU (311)
• China
9 Jun 08
Sincerely hope that you can realize your aspriation.You can give these poor children the well-being of sufficient.I hope they can at an early date to eliminate the shadow of hearts.
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