I found my son!

I am very happy for you. When I was young (14) my father took me from my family. He hid me from family for many years. I was completely under his control, a long sad story. I did not find the strength to come home for 12 years. I have been back with my mom and siblings for 20 years now and really miss those lost years. When my daughter was 17 she disappeared and 6 months late called to tell me she moved to west virginia with her boyfriend and then he married her after she turned 18. He was 31, no it didn't last barely over a year. He put her to work and gambled her income on scratch tickets. Those 6 months were awful becasue I feared my father had gotten to her. She disap[eared again in her early 20's for about a yer but would send a letter eavery now and then letting me know she is ok. I hate it when she does that and now understand better what my mom and siblings went through not knowing where i was.

Very glad to hear the happy ending. To answer your question I have a younger brother and I can't remember the last time I talked to him, my parents don't even know where he lives. I think it must have been about 5 years maybe longer since I have talked to him. I would like to talk to him but I don't even know where to start.

Hey Im happy to hear that your son is back safely!! Atleast you know where he is and are able to be in contact with you. Must have been a scary experience for him and you since you were far away!!! I am in constant contact with my mum and brothers, though I dont speak to my dad much since he lives all the way up in the Shetland Isles, I wish we did speak more but its finding the time to talk that suits us both. I work long hours and my dad always seems in a rush or busy with something so not able to talk for long!! Also my dad is getting very forgetful, and probably means to be contact more.

Ben there, don it, worn the t-shirt! As they say. My eldest, who is now happily married and settled at 30 with a lovely man, was a nightmare at 17-18. She got into college easily but in her second year at 17 met a no-good who literally led her astray. Takes two to tango, I know and she had a wild side but this guy was a bad 'un. They moved into a grotty flat together and she was doing to part time jobs as well as college while he stayed in bed till 2pm. Didn't last, of course, and she learned some harsh lessons. We knew where she was all the time but it came to the crunch when we were called to the hospital emergency room as they had baten each other up. To be fair she gave as good as she got and he didn't get off lightly. That ended it, she came back home for a while but it wasn't long before she was off again and thankfully it wasn't long till she met the guy she's married to now.

i am glad for you to say the least. why didn't he contact you though all those months? i cannot even imagine not knowing where my son was for that period of time. i think i would have gone nuts. it must have been excruciating for you. thank God he is ok. my best to you.

I am so happy you found out where you son is. So sorry you had to go through all the worris and wonders. I wish he would of let you known where he was. All is good now !! so that is great news.

I am so happy that you have him back, what a relief to find him and know he is alright. My son is 31 and he lives with me. But for 5 years out of my grandson's 12 years of life we were not much in contact because his mom took him to another province and we couldn't visit, no money. I never know my youngest sister (you will find out in future stories of mine) we lost contact with her when we were young children, and then she came back to us a full grown woman with 3 children.

My family is very close. I don't talk to my brother a lot, but I talk to the rest of the family and they talk to him. I don't argue with him, its not worth the stress.

hey congrats for that...and you might be a lot relieved but he too should have been more carefull......just give him a lesson....

It is so wonderful that you found your son? where was he. I am so glad he is fine. I could not imagine what you have been going through I have never had to go through that horrible expirence. Thank God he is fine.

that is great news to hear from your son again. I may have missed the stories before, but what is a falling out? I live in California too. I am so happy to know that he is doing well. As a mother I can relate and would be worried sick if I did not know the whereabout of my son. it is a good day for you.

I had a shituation somewhat like yours. My son at age 15 was sent by the state of iowa to live with his dad whom he had never met in the state of colorado. Soon after that he ran from his dads home. One day he called and asked if he could come back home i told him we should all three talk about this together. Little to my knowledge he had ran from home already. His dad didn't even tell me till 2 wks later. My son kept calling me but never told me where he was. He was always pretty street wise so i knew as long as i heard from him he was ok. Stiil i worried. Eventually it came out that he was staying with a girl. After about a year, her family took him camping for his b-day. Not in a camping area so police came ran a check on everyone found out he was a runaway. Took him into custody and returned him back to me. He told me he wanted to stay with his girlfriend. After some consideration i let him return to her and her family. By this time he was 17. and i would rather let him go willingly than tell him no and he ran across the states. I eventually moved to colorado myself.

OMG, I am so happy for you! I lost my son to a drunk driver, so I will never see him again. You are so blessed to have him again. My sister's one son is an idiot and speaks to no one in the family, so my sister has lost her son and her grandchildren. Thank God she has her other son and his family and I have my daughter and granddaughter. Again, I am so happy for you. HUGS!!

I am so happy that you share your story with us. I had the same experience a week ago. My sister was coming to see me last Saturday. But at the time she were supposed to be at my home she hadn't showed up yet. And I telephoned her but no one answered the phone---my sister always answered my phone all at once---and this make me suprised. I called her again later, there was no answer again. I began to worry. I then phoned her home, no answer either. I was very worried that time because the night before at about 10 o'clock my sister said that she would go out to buy me something. And she lived in a remote place. This was why I was worried: I was afraid that she might have met some bad guys. I kept on calling her for nearlly two hours. But thank God she came at last. And she said she left her phone at home and she was in a big traffic jam. And I orderd her to take her phone anytime anywhere.

Good for you. At least, he is safe. I am sure that you were worried that he was in an accident, wound up in a hospital or worse. As for me, I am not in touch with my brother. He is a recluse and I find that I have to do more of the talking. He just says yes and no, grunts, etc. and he stays in his apartment and watches TV. Oh and he is as skinny as a rail, very tall. And it costs a lot to get from Winnipeg to New Westminster, so we do not see each other that often. My husband is in touch with his family, but they are scattered all over Canada, so the only time we hear each other is on the phone or by email, and around holidays. It is not like the States, where all the relatives live close by each other and you can walk over and see them.

i am glad for you that you found your son. i can't imagine how scary that must have been to not know what was going on with him. i hope that in your discussion with him, there was an emphasis on not doing this again. just because he's an adult, doesn't mean that he can just disappear whenever he wants to. i talk to both of my parents several times a week. my mom tends to have long, drawn out conversations about things that i can never recall. my dad is hardly ever on the phone for long, but he calls fairly often.

Luckily I have not been away with the immediate members of our family. We have been living close to our parents and my only sister although working in another country is constantly in contact with us. I can't imagine the feeling of having someone missing in our family. I am glad that you have found your son.

Oh Katherine, that is wonderful news, I am so happy he showed up. How exciting, will you be able to see him anytime soon. For me it is my youngest son, who is hard to connect with. It has made me so sad, because when he was little we were so close. I sometimes think he feels I desserted him when I left his dad. At any rate I sure am happy your son is home safe, with his dad. That really is some wonderful news hun, I bet you are able to breath better now aren't you?

I must have missed this one... Anyway, wow, that is incredible. You must be totally relieved! That is wonderful... Other than some of the aunts, uncles and cousins on my mom's side, nobody in my family has ever dropped out of sight like that. And never anybody I was close to. How scary it must have been...

I dont really talk to my son as often as I could. To be honest he frustrates me. We aren't really estranged, he was here for mother's day, but I wish he had a closer realtionship. He to lives wiht his dad and we see him only periodically.