Passwords, Bank Accounts, Etc...
By Mare73
@Mare73 (1335)
United States
June 3, 2008 1:28pm CST
Ok, this question is mainly for people who are married or living with their partner; but whoever wants to answer that's fine also.
*Do you have more than one email account? If SO, does your partner know about all the accounts?
*Do you have your partners passwords? And does he/she have yours?
*Do you have a "secret" bank account?
*Does your partner know your pin numbers?
Ok, I think that's it for now!
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16 responses
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
3 Jun 08
My girl-friend has all of my informations, including my 4 email addresses, pass words to them, my bank account informations, pass words to them, credit card infos, social security infos & various personal informations of mine... And as far as I know, I have all hers... We have joint checking account, I have personal savings accout & so does she...
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
3 Jun 08
All my emails, I have it set to where when I get an email to my personal email address & work email, it gets forwarded automatically to her email address... Sometimes when I'm busy & forget things, she reminds me of things... She tells me it gets to be a pain but I think she enjoys it more,b lol... I have read some of her emails but I found to be boring, I don't bother unless she tells me... I have one of those "smart phones", blackberry in this case if you're familiar with phones, & my personal & work emails gets forwarded to it as well as it gets forwarded to my girl friends email address... There were times when I get an email from my work, some stuff I need to take care of relating to work, about 2 hours later, I'd get a phone call from my girl-friend, "I saw the email... Do you think you'd be stuck at work later because of it? Do you need me to bring something up, like dinner or something? I'll eat with ya on your break?"... It was kinnda cool cause I didn't need to call her & tell her I was gonna be late because of work, at the last minute...
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I also do it because sometimes I feel lazy, I have to admit... If she feels little insecure, I just tell her to look it up herself... I tell her "well, you got all my information... You're free to look it up anytime you want. I'm going to bed!!!" lol... I don't think it's all about the trust issue at ALL the time... Every so often, when we get into a little argument or when she sees I'm in a bad mood, she gets little insecure & I can understand that... Not that I'm a big star or anything but working in a retail store, sometimes when we go out to dinner & somebody will say, "hey, there's a guy who sold us our range", "hey there's a guy who sold us a T.V"... I sold cell. phones for about at local mall for about a year... And as popular cell. phones are among young adults nowadays, I had a women, in her mid 20s recognized me, turns out I sold her a cell phone about 2 month prior, walked up to me & satarted asking me questions about the phone I sold her... I was in one of those convinient stores with my girl-friend waiting for me outside in the car... I realized my girl-friend could see me through the big front window of the store & how that could look, young girl waving a cell. phone at me & me playing with her cell. phone, it does look funny... Since then, I just gave her my infos & if she has any questions, look it up herself... And I didn't say that in a bad way...
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
5 Jun 08
well, my fiance have access in my emails, myspace, friendster accounts. and i have access too in his major bank account, debit and credit cards. when it comes to his emails and other businesses i have access too! even we are still bf/gf i already had them. he gave me 2 credit cards to use. sometimes, when we go somewhere i am the one carrying his wallet. i asked him with a big why. and he said its all about TRUST!
@cmk422000 (82)
• India
4 Jun 08
Yes I do have more than one Email Accounts. No my partner didnot know all my passwords and accounts. i also never ask for my partners pasword. in fact i didnot have any seceret bank account but. i have my bank account and my partner know pin no. So how about you ?
@agihcam (1914)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
I let my wife manage our financial accounts.We used to talk about it to have an updates,either one of us can withdraw money from bank or atm since we both knew the password/pin of our account.It is only shows that we have trust to each other.The same for the email accounts,she can view my emails and I can view her emails too.
@leealice67 (221)
• China
4 Jun 08
My husband and I both have several bank account and our password are all the same. Both of us are too lazy to remember so many numbers and letters. So we just choose one pair of number and remember it and use it anywhere. This feels good. For daily life I use his money and my money if for big stuff like computers etc. We put the money at home, and whenever each of us wants to use money, we just take it. And at the end of the month, I will sum up all the expenditure. That's our life.
@sweidner87 (6)
• United States
4 Jun 08
She doesn't have my info's, but i guess it never really comes up. We do fairly well to just have money in each of our own accounts, and sometimes i'll pay for stuff, sometimes she does. Emails don't seem very important. Neither of us use them often enough for it to be a big deal. I think we feel like we can keep up with our own stuff and don't feel like we need to know each others infos. She knows about all of my financial accounts and whatever debts, loans, i have; equally i know about her situations. There wouldn't be a reason for us to need each others pins. There was one instance where she needed to borrow a hundred from me, and i gave it to her and she gave it back..period.
@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
4 Jun 08
Yep, hubby and I both have multiple email accounts and passwords and know each others. Hubby has a hard time remembering his own, let alone remembering mine and is always asking me how to log in to some of his sites!! My younger daughter and I both share passwords for some sites and email and we have used each other's bank cards and pin numbers before. Hubby and I also share bank accounts and pin numbers. You need to have ALOT of trust in and for another person for this to work out well. I know and trust my hubby and my daughter and their not such good memories, lol!
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
3 Jun 08
We have been living together for 3 years, I have 2 personal emails and 1 work email, he does know about the accounts but no he doesn't know my passwords and I dont know his, he has the same amount of accounts as I do. We each have our own bank account, but they're no secret, I do know his pin number but he doesn't know mine, just never came up, if he needed or wanted it, I would have no problem giving it to him.
@leeesa (884)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I'm not married anymore, but when I was...
Do you have more than one email account? Yes, we each had our own.
If SO, does your partner know about all the accounts? Yes, we knew about each other's accounts - all of them.
*Do you have your partners passwords? And does he/she have yours? No, we did not have each other's passwords. There has to be trust, you know?
*Do you have a "secret" bank account? We only had one shared account, but I used to "hide" money in it. I always had a secret stash of about $500 that I just didn't show in the balance. It's not like I was hiding it from him, it's just that I liked to have emergency money and if he knew about it, he'd want to spend it.
I would never have a joint account again. Next time around, we will each maintain our own accounts and possibly have a third account for shared household things like mortgage/rent, utilities, groceries, etc. But I think it's important for each person to have their own money to spend (or save) too.
*Does your partner know your pin numbers? Absolutely not. Even though we had a joint account, we each had our own debit cards with separate pin numbers.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I respect other people's privacy and I expect the same for myself. I don't have to bear the burden of the world of knowing everything. I do hide money and that comes out of necessity otherwise everything will be spent all at once.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jun 08
I am a widowbut I havemy own email account as does
my son. he knows my password as hes my computer tech too.lolhe also knows my bank account password or pinnumber.
@rennell1 (22)
• Trinidad And Tobago
3 Jun 08
I have more than one email account that my husband knows about but my passwords are kept personal but i know his passwords and he doesn't know that lol all his finances are kept personal, i.e. his pin numbers. I'm looking forward to opening a secret bank account as soon as i start working.
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I have one separate credit card as I needed to establish my own credit history here and it's also now my business credit card, lol. Everything else is shared. Everything is in both of our names. Except retirement funds and pre-marital investments that would have been too tedious to switch. Even the debt is in both of our names, except for my husband's student loans. I don't want to get stuck with that if he should suddenly die, lol. Anyhow, we are both aware of each other's accounts and such. But I doubt my husband would now all the account numbers, passwords, etc. He doesn't like finance. I have a masters degree in finance. Guess who gets stuck with doing everything;)
@iceman2008 (91)
• China
4 Jun 08
It is a secet question to answer. often is my birthday or telephone number. but i often it by adding one or two number as simply as i can remreber it. What about you?
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
3 Jun 08
My husband and I have a couple of email accounts each and we know each other's information. We also know each other's logins for places like MySpace and Ebay. I don't think the primary reason we know each other's information is trust...that's a given...but it's more about remembering for each other since we have a lot of logins/passwords to keep track of. I don't think he has a secret bank account but I know that I don't and, yes, we both know each other's pin numbers.
@lissavalerian (247)
• United States
3 Jun 08
This is a really good question. As far as email addresses, my partner and I have our own email addresses, but we know each others passwords. We have a joint bank account but we also have our own personal bank accounts.
I don't keep anything "secret" from her, nor she from me (as far as I know) but we respect each others autonomy and privacy with regards to our personal accounts.
I think there is certainly an amount of trust that is involved, but at the same time, you have to keep a certain amount of autonomy. With one of my ex's, she had all of my bank account passwords and when we broke up, I thought I had changed all of the information, but apparently I hadn't. She accessed one of my accounts and did a billpay transaction and mailed it to herself. I filed a fraud charge against her, but nothing really came of it. The bank reimbursed me that money, but I learned my lesson on that one.
It's one thing to trust, which I do trust my partner - but be prepared if and when you split to change everything so that they don't have access to it and cannot gain access to it. I know I've been burned in the past from this.
I just tend to be a trusting person, which is probably a fault, but if someone takes advantage of my trust, I have no problem pursuing charges against them.
