Can you find your Soul Mate on the Internet?
@sarahsdesk2007 (111)
United States
June 5, 2008 4:58pm CST
What do you think? I can personally say it happens! What happens after a divorce of over 30 years, you are not sure now to get out in the dating field again! Internet gives you away out, or at least to meet new friends.... but be careful.... I could give lots of advice on that subject. Any of you out there meet a true love on the Internet? Wow... to start all over again is hard. Let me hear from you?
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
6 Jun 08
I did not meet my husband on the internet. We met at my job many years ago. I do know someone that meet another on the net. My sons best friend here in Tennessee met a lady in another state. They corresponded for several months, met a few times and now he has moved to the state she lives in. They have been together fo at least 5 years. This young man was a player and for him to find someone that he would stay with is wonderful.
I believe it is possible to find someone on the net. Knowing that you need to be careful is a basic key. But then you have to do that anyway no matter where you meet someone.
I suggest that when you meet someone besides just talking on the net, when possible meeting out for coffee or things in public places as much as possible when you feel comfortable in doing so.
Making a drastic move like leaving home and moving to another state with someone you hardly know id dawnting to say the least.
But getting to know them as much as possible before uprooting yourself is a major thing that should be done.
I know people meet and soon marry or move in together. These relationships rarely work out. Some do work out.
Meeting a partner for life is hard under any circunstances. This opens up more options for people. If you are in a small town and do not go out much or a bar person you don't meet very many people.
The internet opens up many doors for you. Subjecting yourself to strangers is always something to be wary of.
I give anyone credit these days for finding that special person that they can spend a lifetime with and they stick it out. No matter how much you know someone and how much you get along you will still have problems at times. The key is working through the downs and enoying the ups.
Making a good working relationship takes work from both parties involved.
Getting out there after a long relationship is very hard. Things change more than you think. You have changed over the years and may be nore willing to accept things you would not before. But never compromise on your principles.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Thank you. I am mostly cherokee and try to hold to the traditions. I agree with what you are saying. And you do hopefully learn from all mistakes. I feel that doing wrong gives us a chance to make things better. Although I hope not to do wrong.
We do learn from our relationships, right or wrong moves. We do need to give love and life a chance.
Being alone or lonely is no way to live.
@sarahsdesk2007 (111)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Thank you moondaner for you comments! I love your name,and it's meaning! It was very hard to let go... to start all over again! Sometimes you do make a drastic move, like your son. What about chance, are we willing to give it a try? If you never give life a chance, to give what it has to offer, will we not know who is out there for us! I did the just sit at home, sad, lonely, and was feeling sorry for myself... until I got active online. There are players, you learn who they are fast. What I am trying to say, is that noting happens, unless you take action. If you make the wrong move, just pick yourself up.... start again.... learn from your mistakes! I believe there is a Soul Mate for each of us, some have found them, some are still searching! Have a Great Day Moondancer!
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
6 Jun 08
I think it is possible. I didn't exactly meet my wife online, but I met the person who introduced us to each other online. My wife and I were in a long distance relationship for almost a year before we got married. It was tough, but we made it, and we have been married about 7 1/2 years.
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@sarahsdesk2007 (111)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Thank you goldeneagle for the response! Do you not think that because you had the long distance relationship, that you got to know them better? I mean, if they chat online, or if you talk on the phone, you get to know them, like read between the lines (my Mom use to say). First... there is an attraction, you continue, go a step further, meet them for dinner. I think you just know when that person is right for you! Have a great day goldeneagle!
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I wouldn't be against that meeting the person for dinner after I talked to her for a while. The main thing is that you would have to be careful, especially for the woman in the situation. I think it is inherently more dangerous for the women in a situation like this. It could definitely work out as long as you had a way to manage the distance though.
@sarahsdesk2007 (111)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Thank you Teka for your comments! Yep, Like a small butterfly, with broken wings, they strive to survive, and yet... you still believe in destiny. If there is anyone out there that has a broken heart, please do not give up. When you think, they were the only ones you could love, give it time..... give up to chance. The heart mends, it is more fragile now, there are scars.... but there is still that desire to love and be loved. Have a gread day Teka!
@sarahsdesk2007 (111)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Sooooooooo true cream97! Out of all the men I emailed, messaged and met, there was one that stood out from them all. Do you know he knew what I was gonna say and finished my sentences.... We watch a movie, and say the same thing at the same time. I can not tell you at the times that I am looking out the window when we travel, that he see the moon, the clouds or a sun set, say the same thing. I am a romantic at heart! Sometimes, we want time to stand still, capture that very moment, treasure it, store it away.... we will need it later!
