Why I always end up being loser in life?

Hi subha12, For most of us, the purpose of this world is to test us, to see what we're made of. The world is only what you make of it - and YOU are YOU, so it's up to you to decide who you are. That's your privilege and your right. What YOU think of yourself is who you are. Nothing in the outside world has any bearing on that, unless you allow it to. And there are THREE of you, so you're NEVER alone. You are your own best friend, so you should give yourself moral support when you need it. Just because the world doesn't agree with you doesn't mean that the world is right - YOU are the one who decides that. The world does what it does, because that's how it is. In all the world, there has never been a single person just like you ever before, nor will there ever be another just like you ever again. So BE you - and don't let the world get you down!

Hello subha, I guess everyone has encounter such challenges and trials in life. They are always part and will make us develop positive values and attitudes. Just trust yourself that it was given to you because you can handle it, For me, I also pray a lot about my loved one's health. I am far from them and praying makes me feel good and I am assured! Once you will entertain worries, it will always haunt you! Listen to music that will uplift yourself and do some exercise to divert your thinking and makes you feel busy! Cheers!

While I agree that occasionally when problems crop up it just does not stop with one but there is one after another. It never rains but pours. I have seen this, in a multitude of irritations and annoyances and have remarked on it also at home. But anything will soon pass. Take solace from that thought.. Here I would like to share a joke with you just for some light hearted relief and not on a serious basis OK! A man went to an astrologer telling him that he seemed to face problem after problem. He wanted the reason [you know how people co relate events and problems in life to the movement of the zodiac signs corresponding to one’s horoscope.] So, where were we? mmm he went to the astrologer and told him. Man Sir, I seem to have a multitude of troubles .When will they be over? Astrologer; Dear Sir, this coming period is not too favourable. You will find it irritating and troublesome.. Next 6 months would be very tough for you. Man; OH! And after that? Astrologer: You will get used to it all.Joking apart, What is wrong with your parents/how old are they? Why is work situation irritating you so much/ Is it the problem with colleagues or is the home pressure spilling over/or is it a tough assign ment or so/ Anyhow, it will get better and things would not continue to be so bad continuously [whatever my joke astrologer remarked]So, pray to God and things will soon be alright.

Two words you must always remember never to use are in this sentence? Do you recogonize them? Some examples: "I always end up loser being a loser" (this sentence was repeated twice) I never can do so." "My problems never get solved." As long as you believe these negative thoughts, no one can help you. Try "In the past I believed I was a loser." "In the past I never believed I could be positive." "In the past, I believed my problems were never solved." Just a suggestion_

I agree with you in something

the problem with you is very simple my dear friend. the problem is you are now a looser because you are a "victum of a circumstance " if you want to be a winner you willhave to become the "master of a circumstance" just accept your defeat and tryyour level best the next time .remember you are capable than you imagine .i know you have a lot of potential and you only need to put that potential in your work .do not worry at all my friend everything will be alright my prayers are with you and i am sure my piece of information will help in your life. by the way will you be my friend?

Hi subha12, Sometime i felt that way too. I think you are just tired, same as do when i go down. Well, some rest will help with breathing practice. Inhale positive energy and exhale the negative energy. It might help, if you are have patient. Problem can't be solve if the person have not yet stabilize her/his body.

That seems to be the same with me alot of times too, but I just keep trying to push myself forward in lfe and hope for the best. I have alot of bad times but every now and then the good times come along and I am very thankful for them when they come. I deal with alot of stress and depression also but I work seven days per week and try to keep my mind busy and stay occupied with my time. I also try to get some of my bills paid off to help relieve some of the stress. I do not think you are a loser at all. I think you just have alot of stress and things to deal with and things just don't seem to work out right for you. Keep on trying and positive things will happen for you. I am living proof of that.

I think we both r in the same shoes, i feel the same way too, just trust in God and never underestimate ur self, believe in ur self. All ur probs would be sorted out, just leave everything on God and do what you do, being ur self...after all everything thats wrong is in Gods hand to be set straight...

Dont be a pessemist in life. I know when the things get tough, it is hard not to be so. But some time, sit down and count your blessings. You have this and this and this which the others possibly dont. Worries are a part of life and everybody just has to learn to overcome them. Do not bow down and accept defeat. Stand up and fight. You will see that life is much more easier for those who see the positive side to everything. You are not a loser. Get that out of your m ind. You have to think positive and that is where you will win. Keep your chin up friend.

Good day. you just have to be positive about things. Life's like that but it'll give you a break and once it does, you should be prepare to take it. good luck.

I have quite the situation myself. This is just life. Sometimes nothing is possible. You just have to live further and hopes it all gets straight soon. Friends help is great in such times, maybe they can solve some of your problems. If not try with family.

No ,you are not a loser.they were just some bad days. Get thouge them ,Smile will come again.Everyone had been in this situation .Come on .

Life has it's up's and down's . Sometime's more downs . You need to hold your chin up High and keep going because if you keep thinking your would of , could of's , you will be sitting in a pot of misery which is good for no one. with ever negitive thought you have think of a positive

you are a loser if you think that you are... and you are a loser when you had given up hope and stop trying... as long as you still have hope and still willing to try and never stop trying, you can't call yourself a loser... as you say, you try... and that is the most important thing... if you already try your best and you didn't get the result that you wanted, that doesn't mean that you are a loser... may be you set too high expectations on yourself or it is not the right timing yet... don't stop trying and don't lose hope... take care and have a nice day...

I think everyone has times when things don't go well, I had 10years of things going wrong, and losing my parents and several friends I actually thought I was a jinx but I am trying to think more positive these days, someone pointed out Ying Tang to me...saying life in like a circle, when things are bad you are at the bottom of the circle and then you go to the top which is the good...thats life...good bad...Ying Yang...well thats what they said..

I think you need a break from your current life... it seems like you are stressed out with all the pressure of work, friends, and family problems... why don't you take a break... go for a vacation by yourself...try to relax and enjoy life even for just a few days... and when you come back... i am sure you will not feel like a loser in life... but one with renewed vigor...

well. Let me tell u first that there is nothing wrong in ending up a loser.Losing is a part of life.sometimes losing is enjoyable too.For example when I play chess with my daughter I always ends up as loser. But it gives me immense pleasure to lose to her! Secondly dont try to look at life positively.Many consultants of behaviour may advocate it. But in real life if u try hard to think positively,usually only negative thoughts will crop up. Thirdly regarding worries.Worry is the result of trying to control something over which you have no control at all! Now regarding behaviour and response by others.Try to be yourself.Others have really no time for you as the are too much engrossed in themselves even to look up!Ofcourse natural changes can occur in you by your experiences. Now solving problems. Be calm. u can try meditation or sports or some social service or praying at a temple or similar things according to your beliefs and taste to bring calmness. And that will give answers to all problems.

subha you are not a loser you are just stuck in the middle of depression. go see your doctor as he or she can help you get out of the swamp of depression and once more feel happen and restored. He may suggest a counselor so go to the consulor, and get help so you can once again feel happy and good about yourself.

Its just trials given to you. Relax! What I usually do is that I sort out problems from small to large. While patching the small ones I am thingking ahead of how to do the next problem. While doing this it would'nt hurt to call prayers right. A little faith and a small steps eventually will lead to patching your problems... :D