i was just feeling happy yesterday. and yet now, i'm feeling down.

hi margajoe. thanks for the advice. i'm doing my best to stay away from him because i've decided to just forget him and look for another guy who deserves my attention.

i know what you mean. i am my friend. at times i talk to myself, give myself a lecture and remind myself that happiness doesn't depend on having a partner in life but on how i look about life. but you know, sometimes it really makes me sad and envious when people around me are happy finding love. that's the time i remind myself that i'm still young and i can enjoy life with or without a partner.

Hi!! Great!!! But first try to be your own best friend first. Do you know what I mean? We do not need a partner in life to make us complete. But, when you are happy with yourself, it will be so much easier to get the right partner. You won't even have to look for it. It will come by itself. Take care, Margajoe

wow. i don't know if i'm glad to know that there's someone out there suffering the same situation the same as mine. but its a relief because you can understand what i'm going through.

that's a wise move of you bruce. i am also focusing my mind on other things so i don't think of him that much. i applied for a part time job (tourist guide) and right now, i'm on the middle of an orientation and seminar. i just hope i will have the proper determination to continue this because i really want to be busy and just forget about the guy. no need to be sorry for the lengthy comment. i appreciate you sharing your experiences.

yes friend i am suffering with the same problem .. the only difference is that she is a girl in my case and a boy in yours. the strange thing is that i too have many situations which lead me to believe that she likes me. but i can tell you one thing friend from few days (about a week) i am not worrying about her at all and just concentrating on what i should do and working mechanically(like a robot) to reach my goals. i have many goals like to practice martial arts daily and also i am a magician also i need to become a computer geek etc etc ... after all that i need to do service to soo many poor people even(my aim after 10 years or so when i am comfortable with my life) .... so i am just working mechanically towards these things and i was just successful in getting her off my mind (i do think about her but a lot less now). anyways i suggest you one thing if you have a goal then keep working for it and you will find people in they way if you don't have one find one. i am telling you all this as at first she was the one interested in me then the things changed when i started to show interest. now i will be myself again and i think the things will be normal again i don't need to worry. sorry for the lengthy comment.

i know! the more i think about it, the more i get depressed. that's why i always want to be busy. i always want to get out with friends after work. so at night i don't have the time to think of him.

hi tholitz. i see the sense of your advice. i think you're right. i get insecure because i can't see in him the signs that he likes me too. some of his officemates are saying that he's a shy guy and he is probably what you are saying, awkward with the girl who likes him. but, i believe otherwise. we've been alone a lot of times and he still didn't show interest, not the slightest. so i just gave up and accepted the fact that he doesn't feel the same way as i do.

thanks for the response.

hey roberten. wow. you've given me a lot to think about. well, i'm distancing myself from the one that confusing me. i'm looking head on now to the truth. its painful but i'm doing my best to accept it. i'm focusing my attention to different things so that i can easily forget the truth and move on. thanks so much.

im so sorry it didnt turn out to be what you wanted it to be. but for me i can say that its good to hear that you are getting over him. you deserve someone better. its okay to cry its okay to be sober but make sure that after that is a sun smilling day with rainbows. goodluck cheers and chin up

thanks roni. i'm doing my best to be cheerful everyday even though i'm feeling depressed deep down. i am doing my best to get him out of my system even though deep inside, i want to see him so badly. i am actually impressed over my self control. ^__^;; that's my only consolation. strengthening my self control.

hi roni! yea. a lot of my officemates know that i have a crush on him. i couldn't help it. at first there was only one, then it just got known because i was too obvious. and later on, i couldn't contain what i was feeling and i had to share it to my friends. but i don't have to worry about it now. because i gave up on him already. i'm giving up on him. i'm trying to get him out of my system right now. its hard. i fell hard.

its really hard for a girl to wait for the boy to make a move. its because of our society. its not open to the idea that the girl does the courting. but if i just have the super guts, i would have courted him before. i don't think it would be best for me to be friends with him grecy. i don't want him to be my friend.

Your decision is right. Listen to your mind now not in your heart. Hope you find another crush.There are many, go fishing! Jiayou!

what does jiayou means grecy? i wish i can find a new guy. but i rarely find a guy like him. a guy of my type. a guy that i really like. a guy that can make me feel this way.

hi fred. my instincts told me that he doesn't feel the same way. so i gave up because i don't want to waste my effort on someone who doesn't take me seriously. goodluck to you too fred.

hi drannhh. i've decided to give up on him. i got really hurt last Friday. and that was the last straw. he is so insensitive! he never cared for what i feel. i mean, i don't have the right to get jealous of stop him from doing whatever he wants but at least he should have consideration to my feelings right? even just a little consideration. i'm doing my best right now to get him out of my system. he doesn't deserve me.

i can't really say that he's a user. but i can say that he enjoyed toying with my feelings. he enjoyed the fact that i have a crush on him and he just so enjoyed it that i think he liked it when i get so jealous when i see him flirting with other girls. and so i gave up because i didn't want to feel so bad every now and then because of him.

Good choice, secretbear, as if they are selfish before you are even an item, think what it would be like down the road a bit. We used to call boys like that trophy hunters, and we used the same term for girls who used fellows. He may be cute, but I can tell he is a user.

i did give ourselves a chance to get to know each other better. but it seems he didn't want to. i guess he wasn't interested to me after all. oh well. he's just one of the fishes in the sea. there's more out there.

hey kun, if you're interested with a girl you'd do everything to get her contact details right? and you'll take all the opportunities to talk with her privately, right? he had all the chances but he didn't take it. but he flirts around with me. and i realized he's not serious with his intentions. so i'm giving up. i'm moving on.

yup, u are right, secret.. Guys should always take the initiative.. What's more,u have given him the chance but he dun take it.. I guess he was just flirting around and u are right in giving him up ^_^ ANd who knows the next one to coem along will be a better choice?? hehe ^_^

yeah. i guess he was just flirting around with me. i really do hope that my decision to give him up is the right choice. one of my friends is telling me to give him a another chance. but i want to be firm on my decision. i hope too that there'll be a better one to come along. thanks kun.

i somehow believe what you said that we choose what we feel. but there are really days that i can help but think about him and i get so depressed over the thought that he doesn't like me. and that thought makes me ask myself "am i not good enough?", bringing my self-esteem a notch lower. i guess this is not also a issue of heartbreak but also of pride being stepped down. since pride is concerned, its not only my heart that reacts but also my mind. so i can reconsider my reaction. thanks for that wise advise anawar.

Well said, anawar.

Thanks, sometimes I sound like I'm 'kinda smart, but then people get to know me_

the problem is, he didn't ask me out for a date. so i just thought that he wasn't interested.

whoa. that would be a hard thing to do! people are judgmental here you know. they would think ill of a girl who would ask a guy out. and i don't know if he would like a girl that makes the first move. that's kinda one of my dilemmas before. i was torn between asking him out and the fear that he might get turned off at me if i do that. but its not my problem anymore. i mean, i'm not trying to think about him that much now. i'm trying to move on.

Then ask him out. Generally speaking, it's boys asking girls out. But you can make the change and ask him out and see his response. Actually, I suppost it is much easier to find it out whether he likes you or not by doing so. You have to do something to get the truth out rather than upset yourself by useless assumptions.

hi poohgal. yeah, i believe on my intuition. i chose to believe it. it hurts but i chose to open my eyes to the reality.

well, its probably not signals but more of actions. as they say, men are not good with words. they prefer to express it with actions. and that's what he didn't show to me. i'm letting him go pro. and yes, i have regrets but not as little as i would like it to be. because i like him so much. but yes, i'm taking all the distractions i can so there would be no time to think of him. but at times like this that i'm venting it all out, even if i'm thinking of him, venting still helps because i can let it all out and it kinda clears my mind.

thanks for the advice hatley. i think he just wants us to be friends. and i'm moving on already.

i would have said yes i'm still a teenager but then, i'm not embarrassed with my real age. i'm already 26. ^__~ thanks.

thanks for the response sagarsamrat.

thanks for the response.