Long term relationships.. Is it for better or for worse?

I'm already married and we're still at the 4th year of our relationship when it happened. All I can say is that a couple must decide or must have a direction in their relationship. They just can't keep on celebrating anniversaries each year without even thinking about getting married. Being married means that you're swearing that you're gonna live the rest of your life with the person you are in love with. Nothing can be more special than that compared to all the romantic dinners you've had over the past years or even the fun activities that you had together. Marriage is not an obligation, but a calling. And the relationship will be more blessed once marriage is initiated.

Arkie..every year is a crucial year unless you manage your relationship well enough...i had been in several relationship for some period of time but it didn't work out well enough because we both cannot satisfy each other. At last i decided to get marry with someone i knew for only few months, and guess what..we are happily married, and now we have a son..such a great happy family. My point is, if you and your partner know how to satisfy each other, both of you will last long, not only 7 years..probably 70 years together...good luck dear.

thats great man...i think that every year is vital and important in a relationship and do you think that any other gal would understand like her....man...she has been with you for 7 yrs....i think you guys should marry.....

Oh yes Ive been there!!! 7th year going to 8th but sad to say she was not for me. If that person is not meant to be your wife then she will never be. No matter how hard you try, believe me dude Ive been there! But if god permits then lucky you! So as of now just simply enjoy each others company always smile never mind the crucial part both of you can work it out if the both are willing too.. :D

Arkie, don't listen to them. Well, sometimes it's true tho. But as long as your loves towards each other are strong, I don't think anything will happen to both of you. Same like me, my boyfriend and me used to be together all the time, then when he went for college, it's quite difficult for me to accept and face it. I'm alone while he's out with his friends. Sometimes i feel like giving up, but then i remembered those memories where we laugh and all. Everything; TOGETHER. And my love towards him getting stronger. And you know what? When women ask to get married, means she really love you and ready to give her life and be your wife:) If you can face this long term relationship like i did and going well, I really believe nothing could happen to both of you;) All the best my dear friend, Arkie!:)

i dont agree with you bestfriend. even in a married life there is a crucialpart wherein it almost goes to a point of separation. to answer your question, if you feel you both want to share your life with each other without leaving each other. MARRIAGE IS THE ANSWER. LONG TERM OR SHORT TERM IS NOT IMPORTANT BUT WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS LOVE TO EACH OTHER.

My husband and I have been together for 5 years and just recently got married. It was mainly because of him. I wasnt big on the whole marriage thing. LOL I know...i know....LOL I usually get strange looks when I say that...but its true. A marriage is just a piece of paper with signatures on it. If you both agree that marriage would be a good thing...then I would say go for it...otherwise keep on living like you are. As long as you two are both happy...thats all that really matters. As far as your friend goes...sounds to me like they just want you two to get married LOL

nkly speaking I have not been in this situation but I can say with full confidence that if your relationship has been strong for 4-5 years inspite of you not yet being tied in a knot then you can be rest assured that your relationship will never suffer through a big break up or something in future.You dont have to get amrried in a hurry.There's nothing that can part you now.God bless you both and your relationship. Anyway marriage is just announcing to the world that you are together.Now that you have been together for 7 years I am sure you both must be knowing that you are made for each other and will get married in the future and must have definitely made a committment already.Marriage is just for the others.

I think long term relationship won't fade easily. As it has a strong base. Here it's the same to say 7th year is the most crucial and dangerous time for the relationship. But I don't think it does matter. Why only the 7th year? It can be any year in my opinion. The relationship depends on two parts. We can not blame the time only. I love China

wow 7 years thats crazy , by now you guys should i hope be engaged or something , then again marriage isnt for anyone , but why the 7th year should be like the 5 th or the 3rd year , long term relationships are healthy , cause u need to figure out who your really with , who is this person at all times , does she really like the things that you like , you know its basically a big experiment somewhat to see if your want to be with the person for the rest of your life

The 7th year thing is a myth. Life is complicated, always. You need to actively work on a relationship, everyday, for the length of the relationship. Communication, compromise, love, and respect, are all key ingredients. My relationship lasted over 20 years, before it began to fall apart. Nothing is ever going to guarantee you stay together, and certainly marriage won't make it definite. Get married if you feel good about it, and your girlfriend feels good about it. Don't get married just to survive the mythical 7 year itch. Just don't get so comfortable in your relationship, that you take it for granted. It should be good, way more often than it is not good, but it should never be effortless. If it is worth working for, it is worth having.

My husband and I met and married 4 1/2 months later. We are now in our 7th year of marriage and going strong! Why in the world are you not married? You do know that it is better to marry than to burn, don't you?

I think that mine and my husband's long-term relationship is for the better. I would never want to be apart from him. I am uneasy when I am upset with him for 30 minutes..let alone forever. We have a daughter together and in my opinion she is better with both of her parents. I'm not saying that all children are better with both, but our daughter is. We love each other very much and I don't see us spliting any time soon. We haven't reached our seventh year yet, but I have been told that our first 6 months would be the deal breaker and then I heard that our 2nd year would end us. I think that your friend might just want you two to get married. There is no proof that your 7th year is the deal breaker. If you don't want to get married then don't. If this is your 7th year than just keep on loving her like you always have. Don't let what someone else said ruin your relationship.

guys ,if you really love your girlfriend , i think you should marry with her .right now ! at least, you should talk with her about married .as soon ao possible !

I've been in a relationship for 10 years and have never gotten married. Our state used to recognize common law marriage, and we took advantage of that when it was available to us, but we never had a wedding or anything. I've heard from both sides of the argument... to marry or not to marry... I believe that it is a personal preference for both people in the relationship. If you both feel that marriage is the right choice for you, do it. If you both agree that marriage is not an essential, don't do it. If you can't agree, it's probable a sign that problems will arise in the future. Talk to your girlfriend and see how she feels. The best advice I can give you, though, is that communication is the key to any good relationship. Whether you are married or not, if you learn to talk to each other Honestly about Everything, you will have a good relationship.