I really hate teenagers sometimes

OMG I so agree with you here Erilyn! I have an almost 15 year old son and some days i could hug him forever as he is so sweet and other days he has so much 'tude I could hug him around the throat! I also have a 6 year old daughter and I am already dreading her becoming a teenager as she is very 'precocious' already! You have my sympathy sweetheart! xxx

Your attitude is not going to help the situation. I would like to point out that you just lost this battle by having allowed her to get under your skin in the first place. I have 2 teenage daughters myself and believe me I know what buttons they can push but I don't allow it to get to me. And that is your daughter so don't you think the word HATE is a little bit harsh for someone whom God gave to you as a gift that you may love and cherish forever. Motherhood is the ULTIMATE gift. There are many women out there who unfortunately will NEVER know what it is to have a child of their own. Ignore those silly remarks. After all who's the adult here?

Hi Erilyn, being a mother to kids is not that easy especially for the teenagers. For me it's the most critical part when we have to deal with these teenagers. Your approach plays the biggest role in determining your daughter for her her future attitude whether she will turn to be good or hates you all the time. We must play our wisdom to deal with them. I know you must be so upset for this, I do understand on your feelings. But as I said, we play the biggest role. Next time you may try to use some more tender approach. Although it kind of hard but it worth enough. She may realize how much she loves you. So next time she won't do the same thing and if she has something that she doesn't like to, she will discuss it with you but it the best manner way. When we got such anger to them just think how we behaved when we were teenagers, what we wish and so on. By this way, we can handle the teenagers better ..for sure it best way!

Rotflmao LMAO Sorry Erilyn for laughing, I see you got the chance to do that discussion on teens...LMAO Oh all I can say is that we daughters pay for our raising when we raise our own :)))) I would never have said such a thing to mymom but I sure as heck thought it at times. Oh boy :))) sorry I am trying to stop laughing really!

I do feel for you. I had a darling sweet daughter until the hormones kicked in. Then, if you looked at her the wrong way her head would spin 360 and she would vomit pea soup. It was quite the difficult time, to say the least. Hurrah! They do come out of this stage and become human again, but you have to have the patience of a saint. My daughter is now 20 and we have a very good relationship (and her head doesn't do the 360 thing anymore). I think she started to grow up when she got her first job. She really matured and took her job seriously. I had told her she had to get a job because she was very high maintenance and I think that was best thing for everyone involved.

That's pretty messed up by your daughter, i feel your pain sometimes, girls are like that.

Didn't you know that it is your job to ruin your kids lives while they are teenager. I did a lot of that to my teenage daughter. Oh not really on purpose. My grandson gets upset with me when I ask him if he did a chore in such a way. I finally told him it is my privilege and a grandma thing. I used to have a lot of fun with my kids when they were teenagers but at the same time would like to have hung them by their toes in the closet some times too. Hang in there she will grow up and you will survive. You just need to figure how you will keep your sanity for the next couple of years.

That is normal for a 15 year old. What I'm concerned about is how you reacted to it. I have a 15 year old and a 13 year old and as testy as they can be, I would never say that I HATE teenagers sometimes when referring to my children.

I have come here to see what it is all about and as far as I can see it is very clear to me what you are saying and I would say many People feel like that You have no reason at all to justify yourself you have done nothing wrong I certainly know what you mean lol as my Girl was the same and that is Girls for you at that age

Your daughter appears more concerned about your dress. I think teenagers are very particular and in your case, your daugther were appearing to be very protective about your bikni. But you can tell her calmly that there is nothing wrong in it and you have every right to wear the bikni or some other dress of your choice and you know whta is right and what is wrong for you.

Yes I too have moments where I dislike teenagers, and I think "surely I cannot have been like that" but actually I was worse. If this is the only problem you have with your girl then you are lucky as at fifteen I caused more grief for my mum and dad than anyone I know! I have a sixteen year old son and he is a pain in the behind too, we fall out every single day over something or other, and it gets me so down sometimes that I actually feel like packing my bags and running off. I sometimes can seriously see why parents do actually leave their kids, but I just keep telling myself that I grew out of it and so should he. Mind you, it took me until I was in my middle 20s to finally stop misbehaving so actually I could have a lot more to put up with!

ouch she is fifteen so take care mom. everything a mom does embarrasses a fifteen year old but by the time she is twenty she will be telling you how great you look in your bikini so go figure.

wow, I don't even know what to say. That was pretty disrespectful of your daughter. I guess all teenagers have their moments of doing that though. I have a 15 year old daughter as well and all though she is pretty much (so far) a good girl she has her moments that she gets disrespectful as well. I think you did the right thing by sending her to her room and all kids think parents are out to get them and ruin their lives lol. I pray us parents survive teenagers lord I don't know how my parents did it though. I often ask my mom and mother in law that question of how did you survive teenagers. Best wishes from me to you.

I would have to agree with you for what's the difference like you said if you were at the beach or the pool side and had that on and she showed up w/ her friend she wouldn't have said that. I don't think she should have said anything at all and just let it be. Kids at this age can be very hard to deal w/ for they takes things to personal and way to far. I hope you had a chance to talk to her after all was said and done and she isn't like she was when she first walked in with her friend.

is she the only child you have? lucky you lol. i have four teens and 3 are girls. close your eyes and imagine. lol. yes teen daugther are really harsh sometimes but its okay for me that they say what they feel but i always tell them that make sure that they say it nicely and properly. i am a singer and sometimes in a party were they get invited also i will sing just for fun. and sometimes i will change the lyrics just to add spice to the song. i dont bring them to work so they dont know this side of me. my son just laugh at the craziness i was singing but the girls you can see there faces turning red. one of my daugther even told me she was so ashamed of what i was singing with everybody hearing it. i was really shocked when she told that to me but i didnt talk with her for a week. she was the one who bowed down and talked to me. i told her, i am a singer and a single mom. what she heard during that night is just a show but that show brings food on the table. thanks for mylot for we can pour our heart out here and others can advice us or just makes us feel better. i think it is natural for daugthers to be more tackless than sons but it is nice to know that they are concern with us but just dont know how to express it in a nice way.

Brace yourself it is going to be a bumpy ride!! Thats all I got SORRY! I can tell you the next one may be totally different, I have three and I thought after the first I had this teenage girl thing whooped. (after tears and trying to cast a demon out of her anyway lol) Guess what #2 was an angel! But she would not talk to me and just seemed to despise me most days, I mean she obeyed the rules to a fault never got in trouble at school ect.. I wished she and I could be close maybe someday we will. Now #3 WOW!! She is a little like both older girls, wont talk to me like 2 but breakin rules like 2. This one actually ran away!! No note just disappeared! She is back police found her that night. So honey hold on!! Boys? Yeah give me ten to one anyday!

HAhahah, I'm not laughing at you I'm laughing with you! Funny how they treat us like we are so mortifying, stupid, and uncool and still think we are supposed to take care of them and their needs. I think it's part of the letting go process parents have to go through when their babies become adults. They make you glad to see their backs as they move out. I'm with you though, you don't have to moon at my feet but you most certainly have to treat me with a bit of common courtesy and respect in my own home.

My daughter would have done the same thing.Glad to hear I am not the only one with a self centered little monster.I so miss the days when I was her hero,to put a band aid on a cut,or cuddle her and read a book.Now I make special tims for her and I to spend together watching a couple programs she likes or playing cards.I am not supposed to talk I guss at these times because I get snapped at for it.She talks up a storm about boys,boys and more boys.Or to complain about how terrible her life is,and go into detail about everything that has gone wrong in her life since she was born.By the time she is done I am wracked with guilt and getting ready to dig my grave.Teenagers are so difficult. Jas

Teenagers nowadays are really different from before but as mothers we always love them whatever they are.Though we really tried to raise them well but when they are outside home we don't know what they learned and what they are doing.I have a daughter on her teens too.Sometimes we argue but i think its normal.Mostly we get along with each other.Well, i know what you'eve been through is normal.Talk to her and explain where did she went wrong and then hug her.I know she loves you too.

oh, what a naughty girl. but did you ever watched the series "super nanny"? it is a very nice series to parents since it tells us how to control the naughty kids. if you have time, you can watch it and hope you can learn some useful way from it. by the way, someone said that the naughty boy are normally very clever.