Sorry about what I said
By dlm6171
@dlm6171 (60)
Trinidad And Tobago
June 10, 2008 9:56am CST
last night while having a discussion about life in general, I told my husband that if I had to life my life over I would choose to remain single and have no children. It is not that I do not have a wonderful marriage but sometimes I am so involved in doing things as a mother and wife , that I long for me time.Do you think I was being selfish?
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@bontheka (65)
• Hong Kong
10 Jun 08
No, I don't think you're being selfish. If I were to say you're being selfish, then I'll have to give myself the same label. I'm a stay-at-home mum to two kids and I usually wish that I hadn't got married and had children, following an arguement with my husband. Some evenings after the kids have been fed and sent to bed, or at the weekends, I just go out on my own, usually for a spot of shopping or window shopping. My husband understands that I want to 'escape' for awhile, so he'll babysit the little ones. Still, there's no total escape as while I'm out, I will be constantly wondering what the kids are up to, if they've had a meal, if the younger one got to nap, and I will call home several times to make sure all's okay. Single life is a carefree life, but I also remember how I was constantly looking out for that special someone to settle down and start a family with...
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@dlm6171 (60)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 08
Thanks for your thoughts, as they are mine as well. A funny thing happened to me yesterday. I met my son and husband and we went to the supermarket. My son tells me I am hungry, I told him see if he wants something in the store he replies he wants Chinese. My husband takes him to get some chinese, a few buildings up. He tells me go ahead and shop they will meet me, while shopping a thought comes "You really want to be alone"? I honestly felt as if God
was asking me that. I started wondering suppose they get killed crossing the street, Suppose someone kidnaps them? Suppose I realise I am all alone? I then said to my self Michelle careful what you wish for it just might come through. I felt a peace when I saw them both,I said Lord thanks for these two miracles in my life.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jun 08
you just overreacted because you are stressed out.
you need to take some me time in order to be a
good wife and mother. You must love yourself first
in order to be able to love husband and children.
just make it a rule that you must have some time
for yourself and take it every day. Your husband
probably knew you were not really meaning that and
that you were just stressed out. so take a few minutes
every day to unstress yourself, a me time out so to
speak.
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I didn't read your post yesterday, however I know you didn't mean what you said because you love your family. It's just that you get so overwhelmed because, let's face it, you have a lot to do. I mean, being a parent, wife, and being involved in different activities is a lot, shoot, just being a stay at home wife is a job in itself.
Try to be a little more careful of what you say because words do hurt and you don't want your family to feel as if you don't want them. We all deserve some "me time" so make sure you get it. Take care and God Bless!
