Ladies: What if He did this to you?

hi aow! well, that is what i noticed...men are really practical, sometimes on the verge of being insensitive...i believe he did not mean anything bad about it. but it is really in the perception. the guy didn't want to waste a good ring, and thought he ccould just pass it on to his new love. i guess, what he could have probably done is to exchange the old ring for a new one, that would show his sensitivity. but i believe if it is just one ring and the girl went off like that, she also didnt love him that much. it was one incident only. she could just have talked it out with him. you know, if you need something, you have to say it to me, because most of the time, they can't take hints. i do that with my husband, and things are better with us. good day and God bless you! :)

Well, a ring can not measure love. It's just a ring, and its not a big deal at all. I'll keep the ring anyway. What if that ring has some sentimental value to him and you just reject it just because he has given it to his ex before, it would seem to look as if you are the one who is not sincere because you're measuring his love according to material things he can afford to give. I've known a few cases wherein a guy buys a ring and gives it to the girl he loves...but if the ring is returned to him, it means that that girl do not deserve the ring at all... and maybe the ring really belongs to next girl.

well, to be honest, i will be hurt as well at first... but if i really love him, i won't leave him just because of a ring... it is better to sit down with him and ask him what is the reason behind his actions... i really appreciate honest people... to me, it is better to be honest rather than being bluff about... so i really appreciate his honesty even though it hurts me and i will find out his reasons for doing that... take care and have a nice day...

This boyfriend being describe here is too honest, he is able to create a lie to cover his dirty tracks. Though, it is a white lie, his current girlfriend should be happy. In this current world where couples are broadminded about how many previous girlfriends or boyfriends one has. So, what I can say is the boyfriend should say a white lie in order to win his current girlfriend 's heart. Therefore, I will tell my current girlfriend that this ring is bought on the day we fell in love.

Good day.. honestly maybe you're right but not about our brains but with our hearts. We're insensitive sometimes, for one I might made the same mistake concerning the ring. It's just a material thing what if that ring meant something to us. Was is so wrong to give it to the next love of our lives when the first one broke with us and gave it back? I really can't get it maybe with this discussion I will.

A big ouch!!!that hurts... Man born with insensitivity inside him. But boyss.... always...always...always... put in mind that be impressive while courting a woman. let her feel that she is special. It's very painful receiving a gift from a boyfriend that belongs to his x. It's ok if you won't tell but you did. If I were the girl??? I will never forgive you and will never see you again hehehe. So next time be very careful and remember that any girl is very fragile when it comes to relationship...

if it had been my boyfriend, i'll surely talk to him about the situation. if i really love my boyfriend, it won't ruin my relationship to him. honestly, i won't be happy if my boyfriend will do that to me. like, give me the same ring he had given to his previous girlfriend. so, i will talk to him about it, give him back the ring and wait until he is ready to buy me a new one. doesn't need to be really expensive but atleast, something i can call my own. nevertheless, my love for him won't change at all. anne

Are you feeling this issue in life? What ever may be, i think the lady has right to be sad after her Bf revealed this to her. why she should come second. A gift which is returned by the firsr Gf, can never be agift to the present one.still if the true love is there, they can continue.

I want to make it clear first off that i am NOT a materlistiac girl. HOWEVER if my man EVER tried to give me something he had given to his past girlfriend that would be the beginning of the end... dependnign on the circumstances it may not very well end the relationship in genreal but there will be consequences. if a man truely loved a women why would he give a ring something so meaningful that he had already promised to another to the girl he loves now.. the only kind of ring that could be meaningful that was already someone else is if it was his grandmothers or mothers or a family heirloom, other then that there is no reason to give the one oyu love now a ring that oyu have given in the past... besides you shouldnt give a ring unless it was for real.. for sure... and what was that other past girl thinking... im sorry but any jewerely ive gotten from my exes.. were mine to keep... after i got over that someone the jewerly was given away or sold.. i wouldn give it back.. it was mine afterall right??

Gosh! If my hubby gave me the ring that he once gave to his ex-wife, I would be very upset. But if I am still in love with him, I would give him a bottle of perfume that I bought and meant to give to my ex to see how he feels. We are human, regardless personality, taste, style, and thought etc. this type of things shouldn’t happen. In other words, if that man couldn’t afford a decent ring, just bought an economical ring will do, as I believe his girl friend won’t mind as long as he proves his love.

I think this man is a player and a cheapskate also. the girl may have loved him but her common sense told her he was a jerk for sure. She blew him off with good reason and he should not have been hurt or' surprised. hewas a jerk, if he had done this to me I would have blown him off too as he is a bona fide jerk.

Hi aowaow! I think he just had bad judgement. Most men dont place the same sentimental value on thins as we women do. If it had been me i would be upset of course, but to the point of breaking up with him.. i dont think so. I understand he may be lacking in the sensitivity department, but maybe a good guy. I do know that i would demand a new ring, one that i personally saw him buy. After all they do love each other right?

Sorry but if my b/f gave me the same ring that he gave to his ex, I would give it back and demand a new one!!! Not only would it remind me of his ex, it would make me feel cheap and worthless!! It would make me wonder if he is actually over his ex and uses the ring to remind himself 'what could have been'! I wouldnt expect the ring to a brand new expensive one!! Just one that he hasnt given to someone else with as much meaning as an engagement ring!! If he really loved me and I meant that much to him, surely he wouldnt give me the same ring as his ex??!! Might just be me, but hey!!

Well, one thing we all have to understand is that men are from Mars! They do not think like women do. Women think of that as an evil thing to do and question his love. But, men think of it as a being thrifty , I mean the thought was the same, "I wanted to marry you, didn't I? So what is the problem?". I think if it happened to me, and I am now 51 yrs old, I would admit that he is very cheap, to his face and mention that he could possibly take it back to the jewelers and trade it in for a different one and that I absolutely still love him! Good luck to you!

Dear aowaow....this certainly is a tough One. I can understand the curiosity for her asking him about the history of the ring. What I don't understand is.....If the separation from the first girlfriend was so BAd......why on Earth would he want that reminder around ? especially with his new , beautiful....Fiance? I understand that rings are expensive , but I would sell the thing for what ever I got , and take it from there. Rings are meant to be personal , and special ( at least to a woman ) The ONLY time I would accept a Ring that another Woman ( or Women ) has worn.....is if it were a Family Heirloom. At that point ....it would be an honor to wear it. Because it carries so much Sentimental Value , and has only been in the FAmily. But....that's it! My Husband Looked for my ring. It is a Special Cut trillium. He wanted something unique for me , because........believe me.....I am Unique. He saved the traditional 3-months Salary ( Construction-worker's wages, so he made GOOD money ) to pay for it. So.....the fact that he was willing to Sacrifice so much....just for me.....Makes my ring all that more important to me. His Sacrifice.......makes me understand , how he truly feels inside.....not just the Material ring.

I'm not having a dig at men. But they are very simple minded. They generally dont think as much before they talk, and they can be insensitive. Though i understand that sometimes they dont mean to be. At the end of the day he told this women the truth. However. I would not accept the ring. I would probably be angry with him, and explain that i'm obviously not important enough to recieve a special present that was FOR ME - in the beginning. I'd probably call him insensitive and i'd need that "Time to think". I would rather have a box of bath stuff then a ring that was meant for someone else. Men have to understand that it hurts - even though they think its harmless.

That's terrible!Yeah,this is the first thing going round my mind when I just read this.I think I would have got mad at him,and ignore him for a few days for what he did to me.That was really offensive ,and it's hard for me to accept that.But let's think about it this way,he loves that girl right?So I think we don't need to take it too hard.He just made a mistake,but he loves her anyway.Guys are not as sensitive as girls,he perhaps did that for saving money. Look what I just said?I know I would still be quite upset and mad at him if that happened to me.