Would you be offended?

I probably would have been mildly miffed at her tone. My answer would have been a smirk and a "Jealous?" in the same tone as hers before walking away to visit with my guests. A mix or no, with time constraints as they are today, you are a loving mom who took more time for her child than most would. It was probably the admiration of your family and friends that put her on the offensive. Be proud of yourself and forget about it! Sounds to me like you are a great Mom :) Kudos to you! P.S. The next time you bake, throw a box of instant pudding mix into your cake mix. It will be moister than normal cakes, give the feeling of a from "scratch" cake and give you bragging rights once again. Make sure you burn the boxes or hide them where the nasty relative can't find them...hehehehe.

I think the comment was rude and uncalled for, yes. However, I don't believe anything should have been said to her, especially since she wasn't even talking to you. Just rise above the temptation to be nasty in returnm, and know that you are the better person. Don't dwell on it. Unless she directs comments like this to you all the time, let it go.

I have a friend like that always something to say to bring people down, well mainly me....I think people like this are very sad people, yes what difference does it make, you still made the effort and did a great job, maybe it was jealousy because you did such a good job...sad sad person...

It just seems like she has an attitude problem and finds you annoying. She probably is annoyed that you are able to accomplish all sorts of things that she never has time for. I'd tell her to shove it.Or I'd tell her well that's fine she doesn't have to eat any, in fact, you won't be allowing her any cake for the evening. If you spot her taking any, you're going to kick her out of your house. Then again, I don't take rude comments or attitudes from anyone.

Some you win and some you lose and thats the way it is...but people can be very cutting!!thre fact that you went out of your way to make the cake for your daughter speaks volumes and its lovely...im very sure that she greatly appreciated it too...but whether you used a mix or you didnt isnt the point ...you made it ...with love..for your daughter....and im sure everyone enjoyed it..

I definitely would be offended by it. You should tell her the next time your daughter has a birthday, you'll call her and she can make four made from scratch cakes and all the food for the party in a day. I think mix cakes are the best anyways. Good for you, doing that for your daughter!!

That was a really nasty remark for her to make. I am of the belief as a lot of the other who have posted on your discussion. The woman is clearly jealous of you for whatever reason. Maybe because she is inept herself. How close a relative is she? I wouldn't invite her anymore if she continues to do the remark thing anymore. Or confront her with why she is that way with you. She is obviously so miserable and unhappy that she likes to make other people feel bad. Misery loves company.

dont bother, she is just envy for she likes to do that but she cant. people say nasty things about other people because they are so envy and this strike their hurts and mind. just go and do it for your child. what is important here is that you are making your child happy so dont get affected on what other people will say. just smile and wink at this kind of people.... when you do that they will get more angry lol

I would have told her she was lucky to get the ones made with a mix.

Hello Lady33, First I want to say in 6 years this year was the first year that I made a homemade cake. Well, I mean from a "mix" lol. I would have been very upset if some one said that about me. It doesn't matter if it was from a mix or whatever. The point is your daughter want a homemade cake that her mother made not a store bought cakes that a lot and including me buy because its just easier. Why does it matter to her if you made it form a mix or not. You took the time a effort to bake 4 cakes and prepare food for the party. I think she is just insecure about her self and she wouldn't be able to pull it all together and made it nice like you did. I would have told her quietly away from the kids that she didn't like that you use mix for cake she didn't have to F*** eat the cake. lol One more thing what does she thinks that wal-mart or any other place uses to make a cakes? MIX that is right. Good for you for baking cakes at ur house for your daughter I don't think she cares. She just cares that you baked her a cake. God bless, Blue eyed beauty

Yes I would be offended. I must say that I would be proud if I was you. To cook all those food for them must be a difficult task and I can't cook. If I was a pastry chef, I wouldn't even say such things just to show off. And yes I would say something back. I would tell her to not eat the cake if she doesn't like it and to leave the cake for the others who enjoy it. I would say this if that person was not a family member. But, you mentioned she was a family member, then i would talk to her and say to be more clear of what she meant that day. She though that the cake was maybe cheap because of the mix or she meant that baking cakes with mix doesn't take alot of time...i am just assuming because I never cooked or baked. But for either case, it's still bad. I would ask her to apologize and if she would say that again in front of other people, I wouldn't let her eat any of the food made by me.

Yes that is very rude,and if I had heard something like that I would have probabily said something like,if you think you can do it any better than either you do it or shut up lol.

I do agree that the comment was rude but I am not the type to confront the person about it, at least not then. I would have hated to ruin the atmosphere of the party but I might have addressed the issue later in a more private setting. She might have meant it jokingly and did not realize that she had offended you. If she did it on purpose, I do not see why you would want to continue a friendship with such a rude and thoughtless person.

How rude. You baked four cakes. You had a lot of other things to do. It would have taken you a long time if you made them from cratch and still probably took you a while using the mix. She has no right to criticise what food someone else serves at their house. She can have control of what she serves at her house. She should leave you alone. And she shouldn't open her mouth and invite others to share her nasty opinion. Maybe she didn't mean it the way it came out but she should be careful of what she says.

That is very strange. I think it is good you had all different kinds of cakes for everyone to have. It is hard to make a cake from scratch and I actually like the mix cakes better a lot of times! I don't know if I would be offended or not. it would depend on the person who said it and wether they normally said that kind of crazy stuff a lot or not. either way, i hope your daughter enjoyed her party!

Sounds like sour grapes to me! Some people can't handle the fact that you can multi-task successfully and always try to find something negative to say and put you down. I would ask her to take a big piece since she obviously needs some "sweetening". Can I hire you for my next shindig?

yes I would indeed be offended. that was a r ude and sarcastic thing to say and she must not be the nicest of relatives to say such a mean thing. You did the work, and you deserved the praise, and what the heck was it to her anyway. she should have kept her mouth shut if she could not say something pleasant. grrr. I would have said, thank you so much, at least I do make cakes for my kids, not like you.

That is most definitely a rude comment. Considering the amount of effort that goes into preparing a party. So what if you used a mix to save a little time. Next time just don't invite her to the party.

Personally I don't think there is all that much difference between a mix from a pack or baking from scratch. I mean heck it's just the dry stuff that's in there. So what if you didn't "measure" out a cup of flour and some sugar? The mere fact that you actually went to the trouble to give your guests a choice of flavour is amazing enough in itself. Now I don't know what your relation is to this family member and how close or important they are to you. So maybe it's best to keep shtum and pull a Schultz this time. However it was a nasty and very mean spirited thing to say. And the fact that she never even bothers at her own shindigs also implies that she's not just a person with a nasty personality but a lazy person as well. Perhaps next time she has something going on you can tell her guests that her cakes are store bought because she's too stoopid to bake her own. Just my opinion!

What an idiot! You should have said, "you come to think of I probally could have saved myself a heck of a lot of time if I had just driven to the bakery to pick up the mix cakes".