does excess money changes a person ?

It is not the amount of money which changes a person, it is their ATTITUDES towards money which makes them change their habits. The amount only makes a difference in their ABILITY to use money in accordance with their attitudes towards money. There's a very good book out, likely available in your library, which was published YEARS ago, entitled, "Money Madness," about the psychology of money. Contrary to the popular saying, money CAN buy happiness, and the statistics prove that on the whole, people who "have" money are generally HAPPIER than people who do NOT have "sufficient" money.

Hi i am agree with you that money can't buy happiness. How can you buy love of a mother, sister, husband etc.. you can't do that. but what money can do is it can give happiness to lots of people.You will definetely feel happy if you help others in all respect it may be money help etc. If you give food to a hungry person definetely you will feel happiness. so money can give you happiness but you cant buy happiness from money. Good luck!!

yeah i say it does , if someone has excess to alot of cash of course their not going to be the same , they might not even know what to do with the money , hopefully the right thing , i think people just go crazy with it and not really write down a plan for it ..

I am a disabled lady who is 54 I live in a small apt. I have very little money. I have a friend who has money. She lets money drive her. She is not kind, she is not compassionate. I would rather have little money, then to be that way

I think that if she wants it so badly she could spend those money on a plane ticket and visit him or something. Money can't buy happiness if you are spending them on yourself. If you will try to buy something for peoples in real need that don't have them you will feel better with yourself, couse you will help others and Helping others is something that makes most of us happy, right? Cheers.

They say money can't buy happiness, but I'd sure love the chance to find out! LOL I'd settle for enough to just keep the bills paid and a roof over my head each month.

Speaking only for myself. If I had lots of money to burn I would have a wonderful time being able to support all my favorite charities and realize my dream of having a sanctuary for abused animals.

Not all people who have excess money, as you put it, are selfish, as you describe. There are a lot of people that have a lot of money, that are really nice. I clean houses for a living and most of my clients have tons of money and most of them are very nice people. They may have a lot of expensive toys and beautiful homes, and most of the ones I know, enjoy them very much. I have one client that has a personal jet and a helicopter and he is going to take my daughter and I up for some rides this summer, as soon as the rain stops. It has rained almost every day for the last month. There riches don't make them snobs or greedy people. They pay us very well for cleaning their houses, they're not cheap about it. As for the lady you are talking about, I would say that her husband has another life away from his wife and will not be coming back at all. I don't understand why this wife is not living there with him, there must be more to the story that you don't know about.

Yeah,I agree with you.Money is the evil sometimes.It can convert a person totally.There are so many people who will make money at any cost.Money can not buy something,for example,money has nothing to do with happiness.Through my experience,I found that richer the people are,more selfish are they.

i dont beleive that money corrupts a person. i do think it will act as the proverbial can of courage and will bring out an indviduals true nature. the saying of "everyone has their price" is not always true.. those who fall under the weight of wealth didnt BECOME filthy human beings due to it.. but rather were all along, it was just hidden. myself personally.. i already know exactly what id do with a sudden windfall. the majority of it would be spent in gathering up those i care for the most.. paying off their debts and setting them and their children up securely.. then my own debts and my child`s education.. and after that, my life wouldnt change other than to not have to stress and worry about how to keep a roof over our heads and food in the pantry.

Well, it depends actually. On the person. He has to sort his priorities and then do the things he wants to do. One really needs money to satisfy his needs and dreams. Then he must make enough for his family and his future. That is more than enough. The problem arises when he starts comparing himself with his friends and others who have more money. That's where the problem start and the person looses his mind and gets greedy. So it's really on the person in context rather than rich people in general. Although I have to agree that some people really forget the main things in life for the money and do all sorts of wrong things. bourne

Absolutely. It takes a very well-grounded person to not allow money to affect him/her. I was engaged a long time ago to a man who made a nice paycheck. However, since he wasn't home much (out making that nice paycheck), he would toss his credit card to me as a way of making me "happy". Believe me, I never dressed so well or shopped so much, but I was absolutely miserable. I had a friend years ago too who was a single mom of one child. She had no problem going to garage sales to find nice items they needed. She even found a beautiful dining room set including the chairs, etc on a curb once and took it home (it was treasure, trust me!!). But, then, she met and married a very nice (but very well-off) man. She then took on the attitude that she "didn't need to think like that anymore" when I asked if she had visited any garage sales lately. The last few times I have called her, she is off traveling to Europe and what not and her tone and countenance has changed dramatically. It is sad, but true. Money does change people. I wish it didn't, but it does. And, it CAN'T buy happiness at all. That's for certain. Susan

I don't think it's fair to make such a blanket statement such as "money will make one greedy," or that it has the ability to "convert a person." There are so many ways that a life changes when big money comes into the picture. Some people are clueless as to what to do first - literally paralyzed by the idea that they have it. You must also take into account that when people find out you have it, WOW....they come out of the woodwork wanting a piece of the pie. It doesn't mean that it's not ok to share your wealth, but it could possibly send someone into hiding simply because the requests in some cases are never-ending. Though I can see what you're saying could possibly happen in some cases, I think there is too much involved to simply say money causes a person to 'go bad.'

This is an interesting discussion and it pertains to not just money but any 'thing' we perceive as 'out there' and separate from ourselves. As a Buddhist nun, we view all phenomena as being reflections of our own mind, therefore, our experience of things, money, food, cars, houses, lovers, friends, family, is going to reflect our positive or negative qualities. In themselves, they are neutral. If one has greed and selfishness in the mind, no amount of money, food, cars, lovers, will ever allow the mind to be satisfied. Greed&selfishness=never enough. If one has generosity in the mind, no amount of money, food, cars, lovers - or lack thereof - will allow the mind to be unhappy. If we rejoice in others' good fortune, that benefits us! So understanding that having a lot of money is the result of having been extremely generous in past lives, one can rejoice that the lady is reaping the benefit of that good karma, and pray that she might give rise to generosity again in this life so that her unhappiness is lessened. Old age is a terrible suffering and when people realize that all the things they accumulated they cannot take with them they do get sad. Have a good hearted day!

i agree totally with you that money will definitely change people... i had seen many people change when their situations change from no money to become a rich person... they become arrogant, greedy, insensitive, ignorant and selfish person... they simply don't care about other people... and i agree with you that money is the root of all evils like what the Bible says... i'm not saying that all rich people are bad and we are not allowed to be rich... that is not the case... we are allowed to be rich as long as we know how to be responsible to use the money that God had entrusted to us for His glory... nothing in this world belongs to us as we come here with nothing... take care and have a nice day...

Well,I agree with you that having excess money changes a person as they become so proud to the point that they brag about anything that they could get using the money.I admire that lady in your example when she said that money can't buy happiness.I agree with her.there's only so much money can do for you but it can never buy your happiness.True it can buy the thing that make you happy but not happiness per se.

I believe it certainly do. However, change can be perceived in 2 ways. Not all changes are necessarily bad. Some changes are good. It really depends on the person. It's sad to know that some people actually change for the worse when they have big wealth. What these people lack are often self-discipline and they succumb to temptations too easily. Usually such people inherit the big wealth suddenly (ie. lottery). They have never worked hard for that money and hence do not know the value of money. People like Warren Buffet who achieves his wealth through hard work, is thrifty. I guess nothing has changed much for him. He even sets up a trust to help the less fortunate. People always think of happiness as a destination. We always think once we have money, we'll be happy. However, usually by the time we have money, we have lost too much of other things to feel happy. Actually, Happiness is a journey. We should all try to lead a balanced life and be thankful everyday.

i think her husband is having fun with his 20 yr old hookers...while still supporting his wife in her old age and letting her do her own free life... but i think it depends on the individual..some rich people are happy and some arent...it is not the person, but the psyche behind the person...the person will be unhappy with his/her life no matter if they were rich or poor...they will be either lonely rich or miserable complaining poor...so it is that particular individual who is a wretch, not having excess of money or lack of it...

Yes excess money changes the person. As we all know that money can't buy happiness but it can do whole lot of other good things. The problem with your neighbor may be something else. Maybe she has no purpose that make her tick. If you have money and no purpose then you better off with no money so that at least you are having objective of making money.

excess money makes a person proud.the man changes completely...he forgets his past.