Would you ever do something like this?
By Palmerhusky
@Palmerhusky (843)
United States
June 14, 2008 12:18am CST
Hospitality refers to the relationship process between a guest and a host, and it also refers to the act or practice of being hospitable, that is, the reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers, with liberality and goodwill
You have a guest that has come to visit you. your having a great time, no worries. your away from the things that frustrate you the most. Then the person who's home your a guest in starts telling you that you need to help wash dishes, clean house, help wash their car and so on. and your like, "wait, what?!?"
and yes i actually had this happen to me and the friend that told me also presented it to me and a very demeaning way, using coarse enough language that i can not really repeat.
Now i was always raised that you show your guests hospitality and you never, ever, expect them to do work around the house or do dishes or do anything that is normally your own responsibility. They are a guest, not a slave, not an employee, or anything of the sort. you only have them help with thing IF they offer. Otherwise you never act like they are a regular tenant and make them do house hold chores for which they are not responsible. a truly hospitable person does not
and yes i actually had this happen to me and the friend that told me also presented it to me and a very demeaning way, using coarse enough language that i can not really repeat.
so what says you? would you ever demand that a guest help you do that for which you are responsible for or would you maintain good propriety and hospitality and treat your guest like he was a guest?
4 responses
@Palmerhusky (843)
• United States
14 Jun 08
but only if they offer. if they don't it shouldn't be expected.
@Palmerhusky (843)
• United States
19 Jun 08
your response is appreciated. but i should not have posted this discussion at all. i apologize for involving you.
@lissavalerian (247)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Wow, thats crazy. I've never expected anything like that from any of my guests. If I stay at someones place as a guest, I might *OFFER* to help with something, like putting dishes away, but but not to like, do EVERYTHING like someone who lives there. If someone were to treat me that way, I might like, do a token two or three things just as a "I'll do this little thing for you" and then I'd pack my stuff up and go get a hotel room or whatever. That would probably be the end of my friendship. I would never treat other people like that.
Now, staying with my family, thats a whole different story. I have a large family, and you better believe that if you come to stay a few days with my family, you're getting put to work doing stuff, but it's not in any humiliating way. While visiting my sister, My partner and I sat at the kitchen table cutting up veggies and peeled potatoes and stuff for a BBQ grill out. But thats *family* and family is a bit different than being a guest at a friends house. Even so, you'd still think that friend would speak to you *kindly* and *ask* for help if they needed it. But to expect that from guests. I dunno ... that seems to go against basic hospitality. I wouldn't expect it of my guests.
@Palmerhusky (843)
• United States
19 Jun 08
again i do agree with some of what you said...again posting this here was out of line. Im not ending the friendship over it. i posted here out of anger. i was in error.
@Zergonipal (807)
• Poland
14 Jun 08
I can't imagine how he could do that and don't be all red from embarassment. I wouldn't do such thing ever. I think just like you wrote it here. Noone should treat their guests like that ever. Cheers and happy myloting.
@Palmerhusky (843)
• United States
19 Jun 08
where i agree with some of what you said...as i responded to the first poster, posting the discussion here was taking it way to far. I apologize for involving you
@Palmerhusky (843)
• United States
19 Jun 08
well thank you for replying. hes actually a very good friend of the highest caliber. we just had a difference of opinion and i took it too far by posting the problem here. and if Mylot sees this discussion i would like to have it removed. I shouldn't be using forums like this to post my problems.
