Have You Ever Accepted A Friend On Mylot,

Well i think you are not exactly following God's word or truly understanding it!First off i am not a very religious person but even i know that basically the word of God as in the new testament or that of Christianity or the words of Jesus,states that we as humans should follow his example and live our lives as such! which is God ACCEPTS ALL HUMAN BEINGS with or without prejudice so my question is why are you being so opposite of what GOD wants you to be?accepting of other people even if they,(you feel)hold no benefit to you therefore you deny then reject their interest in getting to know you?do you know how much it takes a person to get up enough courage to send such a request?have you yourself ever been rejected by somebody?you should try it sometime,it takes a lot away from you,and you could end up punishing the next nice person who approach you!do you know that?I am not saying to be open and give them your home address or home number not at all but atleast say thank you for your request have a nice day and move on!myself for example what i put on my profile is about 1/20th of what i have experienced so you can't know if we have anything in common until we talk,(i never made a request by the way to you i am just say)this is reason it is so hard to play GOD because we as humans have very very little space in our hearts and mind for acceptances of anybody other than our little circle of friends and we as humans are the most selfish or as selfish as most animals,we r no better but we think we r!think about how what you are doing or going to do,and how it will affect others around you,the butterfly effect its called,then make your decisions.good luck and thank you for your question,i hope others learn from it!by the way the bloggers on here are not your friends, just strangers, not even acquaintances, so i don't why my lot calls it a friend request,maybe it should be a connection request or something!

You mean you refused a request for friendship on the basis of their beliefs being different to yours, i.e. non-Christian? I find it rather harsh that you should hurt somebody... indeed inform them that because they don't comply with your religious beliefs, you refuse to accept them as a friend. I doubt they'll worry about it, because they probably feel too offended to afford you any sort of answer. There are a lot of different beliefs out there, my friend, and none of us is wrong in what we believe, to my mind, and I certainly wouldn't hurt somebody's feelings like that, for the sake of denying them a place on my friends list. Sorry to disagree, but it's my firm belief that we should accept people for who they are and not what they believe in from a religious or cultural point of view. Brightest Blessings, in love and in light.

i would accept anyone who asked me,it dosent hurt to be someones friend on a website so wheres the problem?

I never have explained why I didn't accept them. I have started checking how I am accepting though. Espically here lately. I have one person that I accepted as a friend who responded back to my discussion very rude and mean. She had copied the title of it and then said so what's your point. I got rid of that person after I told them where you did n't even read this conversation. Or they would have repsonded differernt. I understand know why you didn't accept this person and I apologize for reaponding to the other person before I knew what it was all about.

This has not happened to me Rozie. Mind you I can't tell you if they have requested me a second time or not LOL I don't pay attention really. I have denied so many lately because I have too many friends on my list. I just cleaned up recently and deleted the inactive ones and decided to turn of the mylot notifications - I haven't been online much so I'm getting too many emails LOL

I'm new to mylot.com but I have accepted all my friend requests. It's an online discussion community where people have the right to post whatever they feel and we have an obligation to respect that. My relationship with God is what has given me my beautiful daughter, loving husband, and amazing friends. I say that it shouldn't bother you and you should just see this as a good thing. A person like that would give off too many bad vibes and neither you nor I need that.

No I never have done that. I have deleted someone before because of things I have read that they have said. We are all entitled to our beliefs. Rozie I still haven't heard from mylot yet about the message I sent them, I will let you know if I hear anything.

i never done that actually... so far, i accepted all the people who requested my friendship here... i just want to make friends with everybody and i just hope that there will be no bad people here who will abuse my friendship... yes, my relationship with God is the most important one to me too... take care and have a nice day...

If I do not feel like accepting a request, I had no option but to accept it, but if it comes second time, I give it a close look and if not satisfied, I deny the same. Because I feel there is no fun in increasing the list, when I am not in a position to interact with that particular member through his/her discussions and vice versa.

That has never happened to me. But I don't blame you for sending them a message and explaining why you don't want them as a friend. But I probably would have just denied and ignored them.

Hi,dear friend Rozie, Long time no see ,How are you these days? For me,if I have some friends request then I will do the same as you do ,first of all to check the interest they have and then decide whether can be friends or not..Sometimes it is really hard to accept someone who have the opposite religious beliefs.. My suggestion is that even though that kind of person added you for two times this means he or she really want to have a friendship with you.You can add him or her and after future days chattings then you can make your decision whether delete him or her .

So far I have accepted about 3 friends as I am still new,but not looking for any as I have many here at home and other places on the net.

yeah i have friends over here. every one should have many here because they help you in mylot or in any other thing u should definetly have few atleast. without having friends on mylot how could you manage to have discussions with him. anyway good post over here. keep posting and discussing have fun take care.

Hi, I haven't met this situation.But What you've done is OK and good for you, since you were polite.We cannot make friends with everyone, right? So just be yourself and do what you think is right.

Generally, I just keep denying them hoping they would get the hint. I know that there are other people who have sent friends requests because they want to send the other person a private message, but I haven't approved anyone for that reason. But, if I did accept someone and they kept spamming me, I would take them off my list right away. For me, unless they really start some vile discussions, I will accept everyone who has a history on this site. Later, though, if I find that they are not compatible, I may delete them.

Oh I just accept anyone who would like to befriend me in here. They are there either to spam me or just wants to befriend me. I guess your relationship in here may not be the same as the friendship you have in real life. I guess there is nothing more important than be who you are and opening up to anything is possible even friendship in here is possible too so why close doors just open and you'll learn from them in some ways or the other. I think God does wants us to reach to as many people as possible. There's no harm in accepting friends in here.

I had not thought of that before. I do value my friends but friends on MyLot are a little different. They're more like friends and connections. Some people you get to know well. Others you will simply talk with, like people you would meet at the store or on the job. It's a different world and a variety of people reside here. I would not accept a friend request from someone who was derogatory against my own beliefs. So, I see how you feel. Best wishes. Be well!

You brought something to mind that I didn't think about. Who i was accepting friends from. So far they have been discussions that i have commented too. But after reading this i have to wonder is it safe to except friendship from everyone here. I don't think i have clashed in views with anyone so far. But i will make sure and check their profile from now on and find out a little about them. Thanks for the extra thought.

I have not been here long enough to get many friend requests. I did learn early on, however (from reading the posts of others) that folks here approach friend requests differently than at other sites where I'm a member. Here, people ranted and raved that they would not consider having a friend with less than 500 posts. I feel quite differently about that. Here, and at other sites, I love befriending newbies. :-) But I understand why you did what you did. In fact, I suggested that very thing to someone who complained that the same person sent friend requests over and over and over - up to 6 times. Accepting so that you can send a message makes sense. I have never denied the request of someone who doesn't believe like I do, though. I've always considered that if a non-believer reads some of what I've written (and they're more likely to do that with a friend connection), they might start asking questions about matters of faith. (That doesn't mean that I would read anything I didn't think I should, just because I made that friend connection.)

I have a fair amount of friends on here, just because I choose to not deny anyone. I feel that you can learn from someone, regardless of their race, nationality, or even religion. Just because we may have nothing in common in those 3 areas does not mean that they don't have something to share on other topics of interest to me, like saving money, travel, etc.