Do you think dad's care for their children as much as mums?

I think that it is different with every man. My children are very fortunate in that their father not only cares for them, he actually tells them that he loves them. We both believe that it is important for a child to be secure in the love of both parents. I know without a shadow of a doubt that he would give his life for his children.

Women display their emotions, and men tend to show their tough side rather than their soft underbelly. But, women and men both have the same range of emotions. So, the woman is all snuggly and cuddly and giggly with her children. Dad's always appear to be closer to their children as a baby, and seem to distance themselves. With a baby, it is okay for anyone to hold him/her, but soon hold becomes hug, and hug becomes handshake. It's a man code. But, I know many father's who still are willing to hug their sons and daughters. Sons tend to veer away from the hugs in their teenage years. But, even though fathers seem sterner and stricter than most mothers do, they care just as much. There are some fathers that are over-protective, and some fathers that believe that their kids need to learn things the hard way to get a full grasp. Many fathers have different teaching styles, and they all love their kids as much as the next. Sure, there are some fathers that were never ready to be fathers, and that probably never should be, but there are also mothers with that problem. I also think that parents love their kids, for the most part, equally. Parents just have different ways of showing it.

My spouse is a very loving father to our daughter. He spends a large amount of his free time off work playing games with her. We love her equally. She is a very cherished child. She is our love child. In that, we love her very much. We would be lost without her. Thank you for the very interesting discussion! Be well.

I think most fathers care, but in a different way than the mothers do! Some fathers have less tolerance, and need more time away so they do not get angry and hostile very often! There are many types of love, and many different intensities of love!

I think its different for mums after all they are the ones that carry the child for 9 months! I'm really close to my son yet I'm closer to me dad than my mum! The way I see things is at the end of the day the woman carries the child and goes through labour although the man bonds with the child it isn't the same bond as what a woman has with her child.

I care for my son just as much as my wife does, we just show it in different ways. She stays at home with him and they have a different relationship naturally than I have with him. We are also different in how we express our emotions so that plays a part in it as well. I don't think anyone would question what either of us would do for our son. Some parents though have different roles or see themselves as a caregiver vs. a provider. The way a person's parents raised him or her also plays a big part in it as well. Have you ever sat your husband don and had this conversation with him?

I believe most, if not all, dads care for their children as much as mothers do. Although there may be fathers who do not care about their children, I believe there are a number who really care and love their children more than they do their lives. My husband is an example of such. I could see and feel his love for our children even though he is not home most of the time because he is a seafarer. In fact, he tends to be more protective of them than I do. He even scolds me if he learns that the children miss their vitamins, have not eaten on time, have fever, and such stuff as that. He makes sure that our children get the best and proper nutrition even when he is not around. I know there are also other men out there who is so much like him--sweet and loving to their children, although most men may not show it.

Hi graceandowen, base on my observation to my friends partners as well as my own experience with my dad, They give equal care,attention,love and support to their kids.But, there are also men who are not showy to their emotions but deep inside they do love and care their kids. Maybe try to ask him to assist the kids for school stuff like that, sometimes, when they see you can manage it, they just don't bother to offer their help.

Hi graceandowen, I think that they just show their love in different ways. I feel certain that most dads have the same amount of love for their children as their moms do. I'm a father who raised three boys and feel that I cared as much about them in every way as their mother did. I think mothers tend to worry more. Blessings.

I think they do... no one gives them credit for it though. I believe quite a strong bond is there. If you want to see it, go look for stories of some divorced dads or dads that have otherwise been removed from their children's lives. Plenty of them not only care, they try so much to be in their kids lives. But of course no one cares about this so I'll quit talking about it. You say he doesn't show love... there is a possible disconnect on your part and that the father doesn't mimic or resemble the love you show. Just because he's not showing it the way you do, it doesn't mean there is an absence of love. I don't know the whole story either, so maybe something more is going on there.

Men just show their feelings different. My hubby adores his kids, he really does and it shows but sometimes he shows it in different ways to how I show it. My Dad hardly shows it at all and his Dad was even worse, I would say that his Dad came across as a real cold man but I don't think he was it was just how he came across. I think that some men have a quiet loyalty, they keep it all hidden but should the occasion arise that they need to show it then they do.

some dads do and some dont but I think a lot of them just do not know how to show it.I have a suggestion, try to get your hubby to do some things with the kids one on one, just him and your kids, see if this does not help to break the ice so to speak. It could well surprise you. lol.

I don't think the father and mother thing are the same. Different genders and different ways of addressing things. They can be good fathers, just different.

It really varies because no two families are the same but most mums are more attached to their children than dads. This is probably because dad are too busy with their work.

Yes, I think they do, although they probably express their care differently. Fathers seem to be more concern about education, finances, sport, while mothers worry more about cleanliness, politeness, security, clothes and food. I think it is the balance between the two parents that leads to a balanced family life.

Hi graceandowen! I agree with Hatley some does and some just don't and to the others who said that it actually depends on the individual. In my case however, my dad shows much care for us than my mom's. I don't know why. My dad gets more worried especially when I am sick, isn't home early and stuff like that. Although my mom worries about what food to prepare at home and handles the money and stuff, my dad is the one who actually asks me and my brother about the things we need or want to buy, where to go, what to do, etc. etc.

Well, as a father, I believe that we do have the same care as mothers do. But since being male we have a different way of showing it. It is very ovbious that mothers have a different way of giving care as compared to a father. Sometimes we think that mom's are more caring. But for me its a matter of perception considering that mothers usually do more of the physical care to the childe escpecially from day 1 up to 7 years. But this does not mean that we fathers could care less. We do have the same feelings of love and care for our children as mothers. The only difference is the way we do it and the actions we make in showing it. I beleive you know what I mean.

yes, I think dads equally care about their childrens as mums do.

both dad and mum are both the greatest men in the world for me. in my case, dad care for me and my brother as much as mum though with a different way. as we all know, man shows their care for others in a different way to women.

Absolutely yes. As a chinese, I know my dad is sort of a typically serious china man, who does not show their love as much as the mum does, but when I get older I realize that dads do love their children, but just not in a very expressive way. I love my father , happy father's day.