I don't feel happy these days

you know time does not remain same all the time.you think so about your husband may be your husband is thinking same for you.first be clear,talk with him,get his response.life is long you need a friend to complete the journey.you have a daughter,she needs her father too.but i do not mean to say compromise with each things.happiness is not just given by others.u can do something which makes u happy.just do not hang up with what happened but what next.ok

Please don't fell terrible!Change your way a little as I tell you.You can try to say something very humor,to act something very lovely,to think ways to tell him your mind,to say something that can move him.Make clear that everything you do is to help make the family live a happy life.

i feel sorry for your marriage... i know how stressful and frustruated it will be for you to have a hubby like him... and you have to change to adapt to him... it is not good at all... i hope everything will work out for you... keep praying and be strong in God... take care and have a nice day...

Well I also feel terrible about your situation there. I think you deserved to be happy and if you think your husband cannot make you happy at all you confront him and tell him your dilemma in your relationship. After which determine if he will still be the same person. I guess it has become like that because you tolerated him to become just like that. How old is your daughter? I guess she'll understand your situation if you decide to really separate you just need to justify your side with her. Hoping you can finally find the happiness your seeking. You Daughter is one such source that you need to have.

well...have u ever tried a heart to heart talk?u tried ?but he had no satisfying response or just completely ignored it?what else,maybe a sincere letter will do?If all these cann't do effect,it is wise to have a consideration of divorce.it is not ur fault,it is what the man's indiference ,rudeness,and irreponsibility leads to the failure of the marriage.well in addition ,u should ask ur friends and ur family for analysis and advice

I think you have to talk your husband about it for you to know what is the problem maybe he has something that he didnt tell to you.talk him personally

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I did the same thing when I was married the first time. I tried for years to make it work for both of us, but one person cannot change another. We were together fifteen years! I was miserable for most of it. He had affairs with other women and finally left me with two children, no money, no car, and a fist full of bills. I finally had to divorce him in order to get financial resolution. My biggest regret is that I didn't leave him years earlier. I just didn't believe I could manage on my own. What I had failed to see was that I had been managing on my own while we were married! He sure didn't help much with the kids and he spent money for himself and his women while running up bills for us. I strongly suggest that you find a support system - a counselor, a women's group, someplace you can safely explore your feelings, your wants and needs, and your options. I don't know the age of your daughter, but she can't possibly know what you are going through nor know what is best for you. This is a decision you must make on your own. I wish you well. Take care of yourself. In the long run it is all you have.

Take it to the Lord in prayer. Keep being you and don't give up. In time God will take care of this. Give it all your love in all that you do and say and DO NOT give into feeling blue,feeling unhappy,there is no room to pretend and feel the way you are feeling. Be honest and tell him how you feel and why you are feeling this way. Get up each day and say, I am not going to give in to such feelings. God gave us each new day to guide and protect us. Each new day is A Gift from God called the Present. Do not be robbed!!! With Love,Hope and Prayer Thinking of You! Connie

You can't depend on other people for your happiness too much. In this case, there seems to be no reason for you to remain married, however. If you daughter is out of the house, then her feeling shouldn't keep you locked in a loveless marriage.

if both of you have time to talk and say all the words that you wanted to say for so long but before that, tell him first that you want to talk seriously about and i hope he wont be mad.

hey, that's so sad. i hope that he feels the same way sooner to you. why don't you try to make things he like -- his hobbies. try to invite it with him. or talk about things that interests him. that way, the connection will start and you do it everyday or more times in a week then you'll develop the better communication. and he realize that it's happier when you're around or when your presence is there. don't think of things that make only YOU happy. try to think of things to do that makes you BOTH happy. :)

Hello Snowflake, I am sorry you have had years of unhappiness. I hope one day your husband will have a rude awakening and treat you will the love and respect you deserve. May you find peace in the simple things around you that make you happy.

soooooooooo....how was he b4 you married?

I'm so sorry to hear you have to go through life like this. It's hard being the only one working on a relationship while the other person gives no effort. I've been there trying to make it work. It's like paddling a boat. You only go in circles unless both people row. It's sad to say but your daughter would probably be a little better off with a happy parent than 2 unhappy ones. It sounds to me like he's not even happy with himself. If he's not happy with himself, it's darn near impossible to be happy with someone else. Perhaps counseling (joint or single) would help to get to the problem of the situation. Has he always been like this?

its really sad. there are many relationships like this, in this case you are tolerating for the sake of your daughter. but i think you can have a clear chat with him see how he reacts.

i am so sorry you are going througth this he should have time for you and your child i am a single mother with 2 children i wanteed to be married one day see what happens hopefully he does showing affection to you because you need to be loved and to your child take care

We need a happy heart to face diffcult .So dont worry , time will make u forget anything you dont like . Good luck.

Hi snowflake, I looked at your profile to see where you live, and I see you live China. My first reaction was to tell you to leave him. But you live in another culture and I know that sometimes customs are a lot different in other countries. The way we are raised and stuff. I was married for 19 years to a man whos number one priority was himself. If he ever did anything special for me, it had to be done in front of an audience. It took a long time for me to realize that 'It was all about him' He finally crossed the line with his behavior and I divorced him. I'm not telling you to leave him. Just know that that is an option for you. Life is really to short to continue in a relationship that causes so much unhappiness. I didn't realize how short life was until I hit my 40s and it flew right up to my 50s. I remarried when I was 37, had my second child four days before I hit 38. I turned 50 this past month. And I am very happy. My old life seems a life time away. I wish you the very best. Again, I don't push divorce, but whenever I hear a woman is unhappy and feels unloved and unwanted by her spouse. I always think they should get out as fast as possible if she has tried every other avenue.

Happiness is a choice, if you want to be a happy then you could do despite the people and the circumstances around you. If your husband acts indifferently then ignore him, look at the other things in your life that will make you happy, your daughter must be the one... spend more time with her and do things with her. Do things you enjoy most, meet your friends and go out with them if possible. Don't think of your husband and see if you will not be happy! Easy to say that done but that will surely help. Most of all pray! ask God to change your husband and ask Him as well to help you and see you through.

Happiness is a feeling of satisfaction.Look around ,what makes you happy Ask yourself which things, persons etc makes you happy.Do whatever you want. Ask yourself ,how can I live today more happier than yesterday.Be positive, Every night write down at least three things for which you are grateful to god. See the positive aspects of life