How would you feel if you lost your kids?...

all i have to say is that I WOULDN'T be away from my kids that long!!!!! That is absolutely absurd for this to be going on! I go insane when my kids spend ONE night at 'nana & papa's' house. I couldn't even begin to fathom that long! Sounds like they don't deserve their kids if they are not concerned about it!

I don't have any kids. But I could imagine how a parent would feel. I would feel like there's nothing left.

When I was a young mother I let my two older kids stay with my mom and my grandma it was for almost a year but after that I grew up and wanted them back and I have had them ever since. I just needed to sow some wild oats I was a mother at 17 yrs of age and I really wasn't grown up enough to take care of two little one's. So my family helped out for awhile. The kids don't remember being there that long I was always around and I seen them pretty much everyday. Today my two oldest one's are grown and they have their own lives and I miss them when they are gone I enjoy seeing them sometimes I wish they where little again just so I could do fun things with them but that won't ever happen I guess thats when Grand Parenting gets to be fun, spoil them and send them home

I have a daughter who I do not have custody of and don't get to see very often. The feeling is like your heart being torn out and dragged across that distance. I hate not being able to see MY baby grow. Our over the phone relationship is definently not enough for me. There are so many things I have missed out on that I will never get back. I missed my babies first steps. Her first words. It is awful. I really cannot express how bad this feels in words. It is not good. I am NOT okay with it.

Oh..God, that can never happen in my life, i am so very careful when it comes to my daughter, i just keep her in my eyes...i wud just not be alive if anything like that happens (i was even afraid to write that sentence)

now i am still a young girl.but as a daughter, i know my parents love me very much .if they lost me ,they would like lose everything.so i think children are parents` everything.

I agree with you. I dont understand how this can happen. If it is my kids i don't let them to be away from me so many time.

I couldn't imagine being apart from my kids for that long when they were younger, either. When my younger daughter was in grade 8, we moved (still in the same city though) at the end of September. Because we were moving out of the school district though, they were going to make her change schools. She was very upset, because she had been going to that same school since junior kindergarten. So my inlaws let her live with them until the end of the school year. She came home on week-ends though. It was very strange not having her in our house every day. I could never have left my kids especially when they were younger, in the care of anyone else for longer than a holiday. Even grandparents.

i cannot stand even one night that my kids are not with me, in our house. there are times my parents "borrow" them for one night to sleep over and i let them, but i feel something's lacking when they're away like that. once, they went on vacation for 3 days with my parents in baguio (that's 6 hours away from where i live) and i missed my kid terribly. my husband feels the same way too. sometimes, we talk about how we'll get through their teenage years coz now, our two kids are below 6yrs old.

I Would DIE without my kids. When I was a single mom, I had to move to a new city to finnish my degree, and I had to leave them with my mom until I got set up. and until my son was done his term of grade one. This was about 2 months and it was the most difficult time I ever had. I miss my kids so much when they are gone from me, I can hardly wait until they get back home to me safe and sound again. I don't know what some people think, but unless it were really in the childs best intrest, I would fight tooth and nail to have my kids with me at all costs. I can not imagine that there are people out there that don't accept having kids as a great privilage in life. If they don't want kids, they should be able to get fixed so they don't have any!!!

I cannot even begin to imagine my letting anyone have my kids ever. and I never did either. we visted but we never let my mom have our kids. they were our kids, our hearts blood, and we loved them and nutured them.I would have felt just awful had my children been with someone else like that. no way.

I could not imagin it. My son is almost 3 and I have never really spent any time away from him. I don't even think I could do a week-end yet. LOL

I couldnt even imagine how i would feel if something ever happened to my kids. I would feel empty i know that because each one of them fill a special place in my heart and if something happened to them that space would be empty because they werent there.

I don't have a kid but I know if I did I don't think I could ever forgive myself for letting something like that happen to me.

I have known a couple ppl over the yrs who've sent their kids to live with others...On in particular sent one child to the Islands for a yr and the other was living in the Northwest Territories for a long time too...I PERSONALLY wouldn't do it "just cause" or for no good reason...I DID have to for ONE MONTH (3 weeks to be exact) becuase I'd gotten evicted and having my kids live in a hotel just wasnt an option for me but other than that time which was in the best interest for them (and me so I could work double shifts) I'd never dream of it....I've always been the type of mom who hates her kids being gone for a weekend nevermind LIVING somewhere else....

I could not imagine letting my children go live with any one else. I have let my kids go stay a week some where once or twice in their life times and missed them terribly. I have even been on a romantic vacation with my hubby and still missed the kids so much I had to call them. I could not leave my children in some one elses care long term. I don't understand how any parent can walk away from their kids like that. Even having them on weekends or phone calls would not be enough for me. They are the reason I am alive and my life would be so very empty without them in it to make me laugh and smile.

i cant imagine letting them go theat long. i could use a break domtimes but it would be shoort lived because im a stay at mother and its just drives me incsane when my kids arent here. i know someone also that used to pawn her kids off to her mother and i mean for long long times then shed want them bacj like they were never gone. and the mother would let her,,,that is so wrong those kids deserved stability

My older brother and his wife both work. She's a flight attendant so sometimes she's got a stretch of days off, then other times, she's away on work for up to 2 weeks. They've got two daughters. The elder girl will be 5 in September and the younger one will be 2 in November. My brother lives and works in Malaysia's capital, which is a 5 hour drive from both my parents' place and his mother-in-law's place. Since her birth, the eldest girl has been shuttling back and forth between the grandparents' although she's now mostly at her maternal grandma's house and she's going to a local kindergarten. The younger one has also been with that grandma since birth. My brother comes back to see his kids at least once a fortnight. My sis-in-law also visits the girls whenever she's got the time off. I feel so sorry for the girls as till now, they've never spend any significant amount of time at their parents' place, not to mention that the parents are not there all the time to watch the girls grow up. Maternal grandma complained that the girls are a handful, so my brother got her a domestic helper to help out. Unfortunately, the maid tells us that grandma spends most of her time watching soap operas leaving the maid to do housework as well as care for the children. The 5 year old is not even potty trained for a number 2! She's an intelligent child but because the parents are not around, there's no one around to enforce discipline. She still drinks from a bottle although she also knows how to use a cup. My mum tries to remove some of the bad habits when she comes to visit but the problem is when she goes back, other grandma is not bothered and lets everything slide. By the way, the in-laws don't get on. Before the younger girl was born, my parents tried looking after the older girl, but my mum's not a very healthy person, and she found it difficult to look after her. Of course, my sis-in-law prefers to have the girls at her mum's so she can visit them and her mum at the same time. My husband thinks the girls are going to have some psychological problems in the future. If you're wondering why my brother and his wife don't want to take the girls' back to their home and have the maid look after, it's because he's so afraid of them being abused by the maid when he and his wife are away at work. I've met the maid and I don't think she will do that. She's got a child, that she's left behind in Indonesia with her family, who is the same age as the older girl, and of course she misses her son a great deal. In any case, it's my niece who sometimes 'abuses' the maid!