Love marriage Vs Arraged marriage

I believe in love marriage. If you marry for the wrong reasons it can cause a relationship to break down. Love is the foundation in a relationship. If you as a person is happy then everything around you will run smoothly. A happy home is a sweet home. If there is tention in a relationship the marrage wouldn't blossom. Arrange marrages are unfair and forced. Everyone is an individual in life, and has the right to make their own choices. I am aggaist arranged marrages for that reason, not having the choice to have freedom of speech. If my son came to me and said he wanted to do an arranged marrage, I wouldn't be ok with it. I would let him know the reasons for my dicissions. I would bring my children up to love and start a foundation. Thanks B

I believe self-arranged (love) marriages are better than marriages arranged by the respective parents. In self-arranged marriage one get the choice of knowing his/her partner before hand, while in arranged marriages, it takes years together to know your partner. Given the choice, I would prefer self-arranged (Love) marriage. What about you?

well...one should marry then and only then ...he/she thinks that he can spend the whole life with the other person...i am not against arranged one ....there are many couple who found love after marriage....but i myself for love one....

Love is more important than anything. I don't think as a parent, that you have the right to choose who your child should fall in love with. Parents are meant to guide and care for their children...anything more is questionable. Choice is very important to me. I would never deign to know better for a culture other than my own, but I strongly believe in a child growing up with the freedom to choose, ultimately, what they're going to do with their lives and relationships.

Of course I won't arrange a marriage for my children. they are free to choose whom they want to marry. I don't want to interfere with their feelings. Though as you said, each has each own preference and the culture or tradition you are in plays a vital role. Like for Muslims, arrange marriages is normal for them so its okay.

First off, if I'm a parent and my son has fallen in love, I will give him the freedom to choose. I believe and freedom, and since freedom is what I got from my parents, I'll give to my son the same freedom my parents had given me. But I'll tell my son, with this freedom comes the responsibility. he is responsible for his actions. I won't restrict him from choosing who he will love, I'm just here to guide him, as his mother. About love or arranged marriage, again, i believe in freedom. I won't force my son to marry someone only because I like her. But if it's not me and my son, well, there's nothing wrong with an arranged marriage. Marriage is not actually only for love. It's how two people engaged in marriage work things out for their relationship to last. I've known a lot of people who married for love, but happened after is that they got separated, annulled, or divorced. I've also known people who had an arranged marriage. But up until now, I can see them living a happy family life, together.

i think there are pros and cons of both.Personally i do not much advocate for araranged marriage. its life of children taht is concerned. its hard to live your life with someone without knowing the person. parents have more experience, but let them choose.

Well I grew up in a parent that does not believe in arranged marriage anymore. I guess there are just few who does that kind of practice in my place. If I am a parent I would like to see my son to be happily choosing the partner they want in life. I think that is the ideal way to find your loved ones. It is not the parents who are the ones who will lived with that and my son alone will determine which is best for him not us.

I do not live in a country where arranged marriages are the norm, so the only experience is a love marriage, but often in that case, the parents do have a say. If you are talking about eloping and running off to the justice of the peace, or the marriage commissioner out of the state or the province, then I can give you my opinion. As a parent I met my son's fiancé who he married, and my younger son's fiancé who he will marry. Had we not met any of them, there would have been no marriage or promise of marriage.

To me arranged marriages used to seem cruel and unusual punnishment, but there is a lot to be said for learning to love someone. With the divorce rate on the rise, and people mistaking "falling in love" for lust, then realizing they have nothing and divorcing only to move on to the next partner, sometimes leaving the children as emotional refugees. I think the rate of divorce is less with arranged marriages is infact less than those in self-chosen for love marriages, and I believe that due to a moral slide in society, arranged mariages still have a moral guideline, usually based on belief. To some degree we all want our parents approval of our mate, especially if we are close to our parents. Arranged marriages just go one step farther and have the parents choosing the mate they approve of based on what they know of the child. That being said all of my four children will be free to choose the mate of their choice when it comes to marriage, as that is the popular belief system in western culture. Though I would like to believe that if I really had a problem (and I am not choosey) with their mate, they would at least seriously consider what I had to say before making them an intigral part of our family. As for myself I am living common law with my boyfriend of 8 years, and I am in no hurry if to ever walk down the isle, as to me the sanctity of marriage has been so morally been tainted. Thank-You!

Love marriage is the best. I know that there are some marriages that are arranged, but if you do not love the person you are with, then when the arrangements are met in the arranged marriages, then it will not survive. You get all sorts of cheating and things of that nature.

Yeah Love marriage is better than arranged marriage.If ever my children will fall inlove i will guide them in that situation and i will not arranged for their marriage coz i want them to married the person they love like i did :)

Well, I don't agree with arrange marriage... If I am already a mother, I won't choose for my child the one they should married... They should decide whom that want to be with the rest of their lives... It is hard to set an arrange married if the child doesn't like each other... I don't want to see my daughter walking in an altar, wearing her beautiful wedding gown crying... I want to see her smiling and very proud that she married the man she wants to spend the rest of her life... And most of all, I don't want my daughter or my son that in the future will blame me because they are not happy in their marriage life... I don't want that they will hate me because of wrong decision...

If I'm in a parent situation ,I hope my child could consider to choose a one who have the similar backgroud with her or him which could reduce so much contradicts in long life in future! Besides, if she or he really love him or her,I will give them some my suggestion and hold out with my child! We should let our Child happy which is so important!

Hello, For me its better love marriage rather than arranged marriage. Love marriage we can know each other better than arranged marriage. For more, love marriage is more lasting than arranged marriage. Arranged marriage are popular in olden days. Olden days people are more caring and loving not so materialistic. People nowadays, more material and not so caring. Have to find someone really care and love us more than anything. For me, I allow my kids to choose whoever they want and important to allow parents to know them first. The background, family background, working, all must be stable in financial strenght for future and for their kids. This to ensure, they are secure and the man/woman their live with is responsible for anything that will happen in future more. Their relationship must last until they die. Thanks.

Of course love marriage is better than arranged marriage. As love marriage means the husband and wife loves each other. An arranged marriage is the selection from the parents. The couple may not love each other. Of course I will let my son to select anyone he loves. I can only give an opinion to it. I can't arrange the marriage for him. As marriage is like a pair of shoes. Only yourself will know whether the shoes are suitable for you or not. I love China

there's no doubt! marriage without love? i can't imagine that, as love is the most important thing in life.

Sriki, first thing first how will you feel if you really love someone and all you'll like is notting more but for your parents to love this guy? But they don't and decided to arrange a marriage for you? You tell me who will be living with this man? I don't think your parents will be, so you will. I can't see any advantage with arrange marriages unless you see this guy and really and truly fall in love with him.i'm a parent of a 5 year old son and i'm also young i'm 24 now although I may not like all the ladies he may bring before me I guess i'll have to live with it.I love my son and all i'll want is to see him happy. So no I don't believe in arrange marriages.P.S{although some child really makes bad,bad,bad,choices}

love marriage helps to decreae the love from hundred and arrange marriage helps to increase the love from zero. It may happen that love can be increased in arrange but there is no any chance to incerase love in love marriage. Having achieve the 100% love and after marriage the is no further space to love so it goes on decreasing but it can be stable in the middle.

hi,in my places,mostly favoured is arranged marriage.and i also like it.do you why our parents arrange for us but there is not compulsion of marrying them.you can choose the suitable one for you.just imagine to do something extra leading a life with strangers.