Being so protective is this good or bad in our child??

Most of case I just let my son do what he want to do!

I have learned over the years that it is not good to be a "helicopter mom" - in other words not to hover so much. Its only natural for a mother to worry, but you have to let your children spread their wings and to learn from experience. They will make mistakes as we all do, but you need to be supportive and not judge. They need to know that you love them, no matter what. I have learned that you need to talk to them reasonably, not scream, and you will find that you will get along with them better.

I have always believed that it is important to create independence and self-sufficiency in children early in their lives. As parents, it is our job to protect our children and to keep them safe, but we do them no favors by limiting their ability to grow and explore. Sometimes we hold our children close - not because it's a good thing for them, but because we need it as parents - we don't want to see them grow up - we want to keep them dependent on us so we feel needed. We must let go and let them experience independence.

It's very natural as moms to be protective. Sometimes though I think being too protective will make the kids rebel more. You have to give them a little space to find things out on their own and make their own mistakes. Unless of course they're in great danger, then step in.

in other side is good and other side is bad just like what i did to my little one.being so ever protective now she become spoiled!i am the same too! so now she is spoiled coz she knows that mommy is here with her all the time so she cannot stand without me and its my fault anyway.

I am also a mother like you.But i will try my best to not to interfere in my kids activity.It is better to leave them freely as possible to build their self confidence.If we are in every situation they may fail to build a self confidence.Allow them to grow independently to a certain extent.They have to face the world challenges of the world future.

I think you have to let them make their own mistakes but also keep an eye on them, as they get a little older you can advise them and hope they listen as nagging sometimes sends them in the other direction, it is not an easy job bringing up children especially these days.

HI centura, i think you have noticed that they get irritated and angry, so they have to learn few thing them self. do you remember your mother has done the same - give instruction and let them do.. if they fail then tell them "where you were wrong". you didnt listen to my instruction. so next time they will understand that follow the instruction. I also do this when iam letting my child to go out to play. first i tell him 1. not to fight ,2. not going on road, 3.if you feel affraid come back to me. and other thing is but i am keeping watch on him. let them do thing them self but keep a watch. dont interfer if you see something wrong (small thing) interfer only if you feel that this will hurt him or anyone else. dont get worried enjoy :)