SINGLE for the rest of your life??

I cant imagine myself being alone for the rest of my life one needs have his family in his life. How can a individual live forever away from his/her family members. These kind of incidents are seen only in big cities where working individuals have not time to spend with their family members or their loved one or their life partner. These kind of incidents dent their relationships.

Ahhh...you're being a bit judgemental, don't ya think? I have to say that I love my family, maybe I will have kids one day, but maybe I'll just skip the getting married step and just adopt. Because, if I can't find a guy who loves me for who I am, and is stable and doesn't mind helping me out with paying for the wedding...than I will stay single. There is no point in getting with a guy who isn't going to support me. Don't get me wrong. I kind of want to be in a relationship. But, in my last one, I had to pay for everthing and then he thinks I should listen to his Mom over mine (who didn't even put in her own opinion except when I asked for it). So, yeah, I can see myself single till I'm an old crone and living in a mental institution...that wouldn't be too bad...

I dont plan on or ant to stay single forever. But I want to make sure I can find a guy thats not going to leave me the first time things arent going his way either. I can understand why some people want to stay single. I think its being selfishness that causes a lot of marrage problems when everyone has to have things their own way. I would rather stay single then get stuck raising kids all by myself because my husband didnt want to deal with kids . Cheers, Tianna

Hi Cetura_abram, i too could not imagine leaving alone for the rest of my life. I'm considering not having a child but not to get married is never going to be my choice. I could not judge these people's decisions. They may have some other personal reasons like having been badly hurt because of past relationships. It's scary to think about them yet i believe that there are also a lot of things that we will get to miss if we won't take the risk. I guess there are advantages and disadvantages in both sides. It's just up to the person which ones he/she will choose because everyone does get hurt whether we like it or not either these are results of wrong decisions or not. What i mean by wrong decisions is getting married to someone at a very, very young age or making the decision of getting married unprepared. Also, when we love we also take the risk of getting hurt not only in boy/girl relationships but even in families and friends. So yes, we do get hurt in one way or the other. That's why forgiveness is also important in any relationship. I think to remain a single for the rest of your life is not a selfish idea but a choice.:) Have a good day! :)

i couldn't agree with u any more!!! however, i have to say that u r not alone. there r hundreds and thousands of people breaking up, divorcing etc... this is the life! we need to remember that we are strong, tough, smart, pretty and successful. but we just need to learn how to become much more successful and outstanding. to be honesty, it is tough to get over everything very soon, but we have the faith.

Some people destined to be single. It's their choice to be single. It's not because of commitment, being hurt or afraid to have a broken home. I knew some persons who are single and happy of it. Some people think being single is boring, some says its kinda weird...but for them, it's kinda unique. Let's just give them a freedom to choose for being what they are and what they want... it's their choice not ours. It's their happiness not ours.

i can never imagine being single for the rest of my life... i just can't handle it... it will be very lonely and i don't have anybody to share my life with... i love my hubby now and i am glad that he brings so much joy and happiness into my life even though we tend to have big arguments as well sometimes... take care and have a nice day...

I'm quite happy being single. This is the modern day and age, after all, many people choose to stay single for the rest of their lives these days. Some people simply devote their lives to business, or a cause, and it's not like they don't love someone, it's just how it turns out for them. For me, love is a double edged sword. It can be the most wonderful and most awful thing at the world -- it's even capable of being both things at once. I'm never afraid of pain, you really can't help it when relationships get broken. I'm the most committed person in the world, probably, I'm never the one who wants the relationship to end. I'm never the one who has a problem with being in a relationship. I just don't NEED to be with anyone. I was raised to be independant and self-sufficient, and so I am. I just also tend to be a loner in addition. I am what I am, why should I stress myself to being anything else? To achieve love is not my top priority. It's not even on my to-do list. I have many people I dearly care for, and they'll tell you my devotion and depth if you ask them. Even my ex's have kind words to say about me. Being alone is not the worst thing in the world. And yes, love is nice, without it, the world would probably be a very dank place. It's not even that I don't believe in marriage, since I believe any relationship one enters into should be with the intention that you'll love that person for the rest of your life. It's just that, there is so much to do in this world. So much to learn. And most people are nowhere near as unconventional as I am, so it may be unlikely for me to expect to find someone who's good for me to live the rest of my life with. I need someone who gives me freedom but doesn't just want to be with me for superficial reasons, I need someone that I can adore and make them laugh without them being needy. I need someone intelligent and capable. If I'm going to be in a relationship, that's what's needed. Because I rarely find this, I don't really mind. Life's full enough for me not to dwell on such matters. And yes, of course it'd be nice...but it's like...to me, it's always been like this luxury I'd be fortunate to have but would never expect to get, you know? Knowing that it's aloof from me keeps me aloof from it. You see?

This is a concern I struggle with. I am currently divorced, and haven't had a relationship that lasted long enough to get to remarrying. Then I notice there are men that I love to be with, but for some reason or the other, they are not with me. Then there are men I wouldn't care to be with but they running me down to be with them. I was pursued with one guy. He got on my nerves bad cause he had no life. Then there is another older man who want to be with me, but from what I can tell on him, he doesn't do the things I am into, and he's making himself a nuisance. I told God that if he didn't want me to be with anyone, then let me accept that because I don't wish to be in alliance with someone I have no peace with. That's not helping me at all. I think if your alone, then make the best of it, but know your limitations and all and stop worrying about WHY you have no one. Just do you and be happy when you do it. I don't think it's selfish being alone so long as the person is at peace with himself.

i would never want to trade the thirty four years of a great marriage that I had for all the singlehood in the world.or my fine son of whom I am to this day so proud. he is now fifty and a fine person. I am now a widow but I had a long and happy marriage and am glad I did, so very glad. To be alone all your life without a lovedone, that would be total 'misery for me.

i think it doesnt make any sense...

its all a matte of personality. wanting to be single for some people isnt a scary proposal. I have been married and enjoyed the feeling of having someone to come home to at night. but noe i'm singl raising three girls and am vary comfortable being alone. I am 44 and have been alonemost of my adult life, my original family and kids are very important to me. but to worry about if I will be alon the rest of my life is a wate of time and energy. on of the biggest things i have found out is if you have plans for what will happen in the future always have different options because most things dont go the way you plan them.

I think this is a selfish decision. I have a sister who's 37 and says that she likes her freedom so she doesn't want children or a husband or even a boyfriend. She too old to think like this. She not doing anything else...well she is crocheting me a white blanket right now...

I think single isn't fearful. The partner will be the fam, closed friends, the people who care for u and so on. Don't worry whether u r single or not, treasuring the ones u have~