Would you be alright with...

Mmmm, I remember a discussion recently where he joked that you and him should get rid of S/O and get back together with each other so bearing this in mind I would say it is dangerous territory to enter. I know you see it as being there for your children but he should be able to work around the kids for a weekend anyway somehow. I can understand your partner not liking the idea he has probably picked up on something here so unless you want to get back with your ex I would say no to staying under the same roof with him. With both S/Os away anything could happen between you once the kids have gone to bed eh and then what. Ellie :D

Well, personally I think it's a great idea! My ex stays at our house all the time. He comes to the area to visit with my grown and gone daughter and she doesn't have room for him at her house. Not to mention the fact that normally when he comes to town, I cook a huge dinner for everyone and we all gather here anyway.

wow..that is quite rare...If you s/o is not comfortable about the arrangement, I guess you have to respect him, why not bringing your kids in your house and watch and take care of them while they other couple will not be available!

I wouldn't be alright with it, but if that's the only arrangement you two can come up with, then maybe you need to talk to your s/o a little more. You can't just stay with them while he's at work? They can't come to your house just while he's working? Your s/o can't stay too? Maybe a babysitter would be a better choice....

I would offer your current to come with. Honestly I would be a little uncomfortable, but if he wasn't going to be there and it's your kids then I would have to find a way to work through it. Can I ask why they can't stay with you?

it really would not be a big deal if u think it is not. But i am guessing you fear that something might happen between you and your ex because i am guessing you still have feelings for your ex, then i sugeest you just meet your children elsewhere.

If all of you were in agreement with it, I would say that you should do it. It sounds like it is not alright and going to cause trouble at home and I would not do it if he was not comfortable. It is not worth stirring up things.

I don't see anything wrong with you staying there to be with your children. If your s/o don't trust you then you are in the wrong relationship. Because any realtionship is based on trust, and if it's not there then there isn't much of a relationship. Go spend time with your children is what I say.

If it were me, I'd be a bit uncomfortable staying at my ex'es house. Why does he want you to stay the whole time? Why not just while he is at work? I think that's a better arrangement. I could see my current boyfriend being ticked off about me considering staying there for a weekend-- but if it was just during the time while my ex was at work, he'd probably be more understanding. My boyfriend however is a jealous type. Your ex'es girlfriend seems pretty cool about the whole thing, but if I was the girlfriend, I probably would be a little weirded out by it. What are you going to decide?

Definitely a sticky situation you have there. I guess my question would be how do you feel about it? You mentioned everyones feelings but your own. And second, does your s/o have any reason not to trust you? Perhaps your s/o can go as well, or at least be invited whether the invitation is accepted or not.

Well its your children and your ex and his girlfriend is all for it, I would advise you to go. Yes go and spend time with your children. This weekend you will learn so much from each other that you will unable to. I don't see it as a problem. If his girlfriend was against it then I will say no because before I finish reading I was going to say no then upon finishing I realize that it was a combine effort so don't mess this up. It is a golden opportunity to enjoy your children so go. Enjoy and tell us all about it when you come back home.

yuor their not because of something but because of your children,it seems that you can take good care of yuor children much rather than anyone else...for the children sake why not,sincerity is what we talk about here,

well they are going to spend time with you either way so if someone is against it then i wouldnt do it. And if you dont mind me asking what exactly does s/o mean?

Regardless of trust, or the situation, it's not appropriate for you to spend the night at another man's house if you are in a relationship, but that is a personal opinion of mine. If my girlfriend requested it I would let her know my feelings. I'd go through any extra effort to make sure she had an alternative that did not involve her spending the night at another mans house. If she insisted and did it anyways I would simply end the relationship, it sets a precedent that I would not be willing to live with. You know getting into a relationship with someone who has an X or who has kids that there are going to be certain situations that are awkward and certain things you simply will not accept. If you cross one of your boyfriends lines in the sand don't be surprised if he walks away. There is no right or wrong just what is acceptable to individuals. Do what feels right to you and the relationship will survive or not.

How about if your s/o were to spend the weekend there as well? I mean, if there's nothing between you and ex-hubby, and he's got a girlfriend anyways, why not? Just a thought...but i think it'd bother me too though, honnestly.

I think it is great that you, your ex, and his current girlfriend all seem to get along and want to do what is best for your children. I can understand why your S/O would be upset though. Some times they can not understand that it is truly over with the ex and they may be a little jealous of the time that you and your ex had together. If the relationship is new it makes it even harder because there is some uncertainty there. I think as the relationship grows he will be more accepting of the situation. Those are just my thoughts and solely based on assumption. I do however think it is great that you and the ex can work out what is best for your children. My new hubby had a problem with me inviting my ex to one our childrens birthday party. Our relationship was new and the divorce was not very old. I had to explain to him we have to get along with the kids dad and try to be friends. Now my husband is more friendly with my ex than me. We all get along well but my ex has his bad dad moments which makes it hard for me to be nice all the time. I hope your S/O can learn to accept the situation because it makes it easier on everyone if they all get along and do whats right.

I can understand your current s/o's trepidation towards this issue but I think that if it's just for the children and that if you and your ex have a good relationship you should go for it. Would your ex and his current gf mind if you allowed your s/o to spend some time there with you? I think that it might help you s/o feel better about the whole situation if he can spend some time with you and your children. I hope that this gets resolved for you, but the only thing I see here that could hold you back is you s/o's feelings towards the situation. Have a Great day.

I think if you are going there to be with your children and the ex-hubby is not going to be there then there shouldn't be anything wrong. I would completely understand if my b/f wanted to spend time with his kids and that was a way to do it.

I don't think I would have a problem with it because I trust my husband and he also knows that I would walk away from everything if he ever cheated. It's not like you are going there to get together for the weekend, so I don't understand why he is against it. I think that it is great for you and your ex to be able to be in the same room without killing each other LOL!

I would go spend time with the kids!If the girlfriend does not mind why not? If you are comfortable over there go! as for your other half tell him to kiss your butt! some times us moms have to do what we have to do! Wouldn't you rather watch your kids yourself?