What do you think of this relationship?

By the sounds of things this guy just wants her around to use and abuse her. Yes he may not be physically abusing her but he is emotionally abusing her. She needs to move on with her live and find a guy who will treat her right all over. Not just in certain areas. Just because this guy is giving her gifts and affection now does not mean that he has changed in anyway. He is going to lure her in and do it all over again. It if far healthier for her to move on with her life and forget him.

I think she should forget about spending her time or life with him. I also think she should not date them anymore either if they are going to use her for her money and treat her as a maid. She can remain on friendly terms with them if she likes though, but she should not out of her way for that person anymore.

in my opinion, her ex-boyfriend only use her for his own benefit so its better if she looking for another better guy than this person. it seems that she already sacrificed much than he ever done to her. however, its still in her hands either she will accept this person back or not cause of some gifts or sweet words from this guy. but in my point of view, since i also female too, she will be stupid person if she accept this guy back (sorry for saying this)

I can understand that you feel for her. now its upto her how she behaves next time. she has to control herself. otherwise people will take advantage of her.

I will be do the same thing if I will be her place.There is no love between the relationship.Then why should she continue the relationship?The guy just try to exploit her.

Obviously she should forget about the guy. He doesn't love her and he's just using her money. Being with that kind of person is just a waste of time and your friend deserves someone better. What you can do to help her is try to tell her frankly that she doesn't need him. The truth is sometimes hurtful but its the only way to give her a reality check on the situation.

I think as an outsider, we cannot really speak much about for the both of them. In a relationship, as fragile as it is, there is another complex side. IMHO, your friend may be complaining but what is on her mind is equally unfathomable. When we love a person - we do not just accept the good side of a person but the bad side as well. Non of us is perfect and as damnable as it may seems to you but you are not your friend. So I don't think we can speak much but to listen and hope for the best. On the hindsight, I do not believe her boyfriend is a totally hopeless case. I am sure there is still a good side. Also, there is this case of willingness on the part of your friend to be a supportive partner. I do not for any reason at this moment would advise you to advise her to break up this current relationship. I hope that you can understand your position here.

I hate guys who doesn't know how to treat their girl right... She doesn't deserve that kind of treatment and shouldn't let it happen all over again... to whoever she is please tell this to her... "I don't know you at all... but I believe that you truly deserve a man who will be the one to serve you or at least just treat you right... because if you don't I don't think this friend of yours who started this discussion would care about you this much... please forget about this guy and find a man who will sweep you off your feet not just during the times he is courting you but throughout your relationship... sweet talks and gifts shouldn't be enough to melt your heart if he treats you that way... only true change should be the reason to ever be with this guy again... please stop letting him hurt you this severely..." sincerely yours, drsparkle314

I believe its better she be for herself rather than spend her money. He is just using her. Good that she has broken up with him. I can understand the situation of soft hearted people as am one among them. They believe and trust everyone soon. For your friend: Trust me lady, you will get a guy hundred times better than him. He doesn't deserve you. Have faith in your self! cheers! Happy Mylotting titaniumsoul!

It is very clear that the guy is using her. I think the girl is blinded to this guy that eventhough the guy treats her like a maid she still stays in their relationship. I guess the guy fooled the girl when he court her. that the girl thought that was true. I think the girl knows that the guy is using her but she is denying to herself. I guess she is afraid. I suggest that she leave the guy and wait for someone to come into her life and treat her like a princess and not a maid. Try to know the guy better before answering him. A guy can fool a girl with his words that tend to cover the real them...

The thing is, some guys just doesn't take relationships seriously. It appears to me like he's just using her to get another girl's attentions and as soon as he get another girlfriend, he'll dump your friend. Its better for your friend to leave him and break-off with him as soon as possible. Your friend appears to be a good girl and Good things happen for Good people.

To forget or to give up depends on the love between them.If they love each other,all the things can be ignored.

in my opinion,women should love own body ,heart and soul.if a man don't cherish you,pls leave him.Though you feel sorrow,you will meet the good man who is really love you!

im not even gonna read the other commits b4 i wright this. if that was my friend that was getting used and being treated as anything else but a girlfriend i would go over to that persons house and kick his ***.this is what i would do but if you think your friend can resist that guy long enough to moe on with her life then that is good.

sorry to tell you this but your friend is stupid...she must be kidding...she is being used like that and she didn't lear about what happen...she must grow up!!!thats not a relationship that being goldigger...being a user!!!

i think she should speak her feelings to her boyfriend about how she feels that he treats her like a maid, and i would certainly speak up about the expenses she is dishing out on dates. if she falls to sweet words, let them be backed up by her boyfriends actions to her. after communication and a change from her boyfriend perhaps these things can be resolved. otherwise, she will only keep getting hurt and sad and no one needs that, then yes, i would go on to someone else definately.

If it is exactly on the way you put it, advise your friend to stay away from that guy. It sounds like he's more of a gold-digger than a lover. Love can actually make people go blind, your friend probably loves him so much to let this happen but I hope she realizes that he is only using her for selfish needs. It happens. She deserves someone better, material gifts cannot heal the wounds he left. She should forget the person definitely.

you know what it's really hard to give advices to in love persons because they tend to ignore what we are saying..as a girl, i would never allow that guy to treat me like that because i know.. and i believe..that we all deserves to love and be loved...also we have to think if that person is making you a good person then he deserves your love but if he exploits you the way he do, then it's not worth it to get him back into your life...you deserves someone better..and besides there's a lot of fish in the pond...don't allow him to degrade you and disrespect you...make up your mind...well, i think she's matured enough..let her learn her lesson..

This is a very serious thing if she said was true. It's not only can't be relationship as lover but almost can't be like general friends. How could her boyfriend treat her like that...like a money machine or maid. How did your friend could face to this, just because of loving him, so she would like to pay her all over love to him. But i think she will get nothing back from him but only more injury if she hasn't got to change. Open your eyes, look the new world, there are lot of happy things, good person, attractive job waiting for you, don't worried afraid of losing. Just for seeking new things you haven't met. tomorrow must be better. Of cause, maybe she can't forget all things about that cheeky boy, perhaps she could remeber the little kindness from him. However, my suggestion is forget it, and never say that any more. you should start your new life, finding your new love. If you feel that very hard...somebody also has the same feeling like you, ok, it dosen't matter, just pay more your attention to your job, study. or you can even travel with your new friend. Remeber that tommorrow must be better. Some day in the future, when you have had a new boyfriend, when you rember this sadness memory, you will find it funning.

I think your friend should move on. Tell her that she should be wise on having a boyfriend. A relationship should always be give and take. She should try to think first before deciding on something and she should try to see her self worth.