Can a few words change your day?
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
June 19, 2008 7:35am CST
How many times have you taken a minute
to say a word or two to someone to change their day?
You know the words:
Get out of the way!
That top is a great color for you!
Can't you do anything right?
Isn't it a great day?
Waa Waa Waa...
Smile Smile Smile...
I have been both at different times but I
struggle to be the smile person. When I am having a bad day
I try to stay away from everyone so not to pass
on that black cloud that is so contagious!
I could always charm my X into a better mood..
Too bad I wasted my charms for so many years!
xoxoxoxoxoxo
"When [my wife] comes around the corner and finds me at the top of a ladder changing a burnt-out lightbulb--a task that might have been on the list for days or weeks--she'll look up at me with a surprised, fetching smile and say, 'Oh, great, you're changing the light bulb. Look at you up there! So manly...' And, sometimes, a comment like this is all I need."
—Christopher Russell
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29 responses
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
24 Jun 08
Yes.It can really change my day especially if these are encouraging words from my partner.Those are just some things that are keeping me alive and sane.
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
It is true how few words can affect your moods. It changes your day somehow. I always experience such at work since I almost spend most of my time there. Whenever I received calls from my co-employees who are having system issues, payroll issues or issues about their employee benefits and the issue got resolved, by them thanking me and telling me how huge the difference I made in their life that day, it gives me an unexplainable fulfillment.
@dta_kitty (191)
• India
21 Jun 08
I agree with you..sometimes thats all it takes for a person to have their best day...I've tried it many many times...giving surprise calls to friends and talk about the good times or appreciate and encourage efforts taken by them with a simple but heartfelt compliment...it sure does go a long way...:)
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
21 Jun 08
I try to at least say something nice to everyone whether they are a friend or not..this way maybe they will in turn do the same for others and help affect the way their day is and was!
@scorpiobites (298)
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21 Jun 08
When you comment say it nicely like don''t ever say you'er fat, chubby is better.It's always nice to hear OH! You look Good and that will make your day.That will leave smiles on your face.
@owntuilp (422)
• China
22 Jun 08
hi,raydene,
in my mind,every morning,i always hope seeing a angel smilie,but most of time which is not come ture.however,it dont make my days become so bad and dont say it will ruin my all days.even if each person have differnt view of point on som word chang your day,but i belive ,you will have a good day if you always miss the happines things ,which may be a little thing you and your families get together or ou do have take other one happy yet.of couse,mybe some one tell us some encourage words that will make our day so wodnerful and beautiful.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
20 Jun 08
A few kind words do much to make my day a bit lighter. I wouldn't say a few unkind words kill the entire day but they do throw me off for a bit. There is no need of it but it happens all the time. As I've grown older, I've grown to appreciate the kindnesses of people more and let the negative ones bother me less. When I was younger, one rude comment could outweigh 100 nice ones and kill an otherwise good day....not any more.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jun 08
raydene some words change not only your day but your
whole being like what I have heard said to peoples own
children. you lying little brat, why are you so dumb,
now whats wrong, and this one,so charming I never forgot
'it, mydad said this when he was angry at mysister,to me,
I wish youd never been born. oh he apologized afterwards
'but to a eight year old that was too late. However these
words made my day Pattytricia, that was my husbands nickname
for me. My mom is a crytoquote genius. my son bragged about me'to
his best friend,that made my day too. lol.
@kissmyamstaff (41)
• Australia
20 Jun 08
i think that words have huge influence over the mood and coarse of a day. for example if my partner and i part with nice words in the morning i look forward to seeing him all day and i at least start my day happy. if we have had a tiff or an unresolved argument for the night before it affect my whole day in a different way. and my mood. a kind word can ease pain, a complement form a stranger that owes you nothing can lift your self esteem. a smile given for no reason can help you get thro the day. even down to the service at the supermarket - you run around doing your groceries then you stand in line and wait and if your lucky enough to get a check out person who is friendly and chatty it makes (for me at least) the experience of dragging my kids around the shop a little nicer. same on the other end of that too btw - nice customers make the day a little easier believe me!
so smile and tell some one to have a nice day, or that there shoes are fabulous or you love there hair. it may not always seam to be of any importance to them at the time and in a society when then habbits of common curtasy have fallen by the way side it often received with shock but i can almost guarantee that at some point they will think about it, and most of the time it will make them smile in return!
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
Yes it does especially if the person who told me that is someone new to me. Whether offensive or compliments, it matters. I'm sensitive most of the time hahaha.. Maybe because I don't hear much of it. I don't like talking to people actually, I prefer to be alone so I don't hear much things from other people. So whenever I do, I'm sometimes surprise of how they talk even though it's normal for them.
@ken5254 (18)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
We can't be at all times in the light mood, but the courage starts here. how can you deal with somebody with that bad mood. I tell you it's one of the hardest thing to do, saying good words at bad times. But we must very careful, a hurtful words can truly make a damages you can never imagine. The good life and examples we long tried to maintain can be ruin in just a flick of a finger. The person got hurt by unintended words may never forget that for a lifetime. The words you said may be forgotten but the feeling never vanish.
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
One thing I learned since I was young is to say "please" and "thank you" with a smile. And so many times, I have proven this can change people's day. Most of the time I see security guards, janitors, helpers return a big big smile when I say thank you for as simple as opening the door for me or something.
Even a simple good morning works wonders too.
have a good day!
@coolimrose (539)
• New Zealand
20 Jun 08
Yes people have given me coments like Rise and shine.In college i onmce failed to cleary a test and my madam said why didnt you study didnt teach you well.I just looked at her and saw a sadness i cannot define in words.I scared fu;ll marks in her paper the next time.
There are times i really feel like like saying but I really dont know why I am stopping myself from doing it.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I agree a few words can change your day. A few bad words can put a bad spin on a day. Then there are the words that can make your whole day special. I love you mom. That one does it for me. Another is I just wanted to give you a hug. Even two little ones can have a nice effect. Thank you!
@ellie333 (21016)
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19 Jun 08
Oh yes the power of the word. I am guilty myself some days and don't mean to be but ingeneral I will always have something good to say to someoone or I don't say it at all, that is how I was bought up. The words that always make me smile and change my day is hearing 'I love you mummy' from my little boy and I will always answer with a big hug and tell him that I love him too that much and spread my arms and he laughs and spreads his as ar as he can and we have a giggle. How can one stay sad at that one eh! Ellie :D
@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
19 Jun 08
Only time words can change me is when I am upset, and then when he says something nice and makes me smile, then I change, but if I am in a good mood and I am around a lot of argumentative or negative people. Usually, I stay the same way and take it that they are having a bad day, and I do not take it personal. No reason to take it personal if I can help it for it may or may not be my fault. but it is their fault they cannot change their attitude, It does not take much for me to get happy once I am upset, which is been a blessing for me.
@IneedMONEY99 (82)
• United States
19 Jun 08
A few words can definetly change a person's day. A single insult can leave a person feeling sad for a day or maybe even weeks. There are some people out there who just don't care if you insult them or compliment them. This is a good and bad quality because they aren't affected by mean comments but don't seem to be happy a lot either. I call them stubborn.