Is True Relationship possible in mylot?
By ebookyoung
@ebookyoung (184)
Nigeria
June 21, 2008 6:00pm CST
When I joined this league of mylot a week or so ago, I felt I would make plenty of friends. So I started responding to other people's comments and some times sending them messages, but guess what, none of those friends ever sent a word back, so I have double checked myself and am asking this question, has anybody made true friendship as in exchanging phone calls, emails etc at mylot?
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18 responses
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
22 Jun 08
i did use to have some friends here like 2 years ago,when mylot was at its begining, we didnt exchange emails(i did with one but lost connection in time) but we did have entertaining and in the same time profitable discussions ,based on the system of mylot,of asking and answering.. we were really feeling connected, but we somehow lost track when the community became bigger and bigger,and discussions started to become just silly questions or copy pasted answers,in order to get money.
but if there is a will there is a way,so if someone is worth to be your friend they will reply back;) if they dont,then dont bother to even think about it anymore
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
22 Jun 08
Looks like I'm am guilty of being one of those people you sent a pm to. I apologize for not answering your message, but I don't think my husband would too keen on the idea of me chatting to a stranger over the Internet. I haven't found true friendship with others on here, but then again I'm not really looking. Good luck in finding friends you can chat with on here. Take care!
@ebookyoung (184)
• Nigeria
22 Jun 08
I read your response and was beside myself with laughter. You are actually one of them. You are so honest and straghtforward that I am beginning to think that you are an open book..well, I am really looking for true friendship male or female, married or single, old or young lotter...just someone to be close to..am a comrade person...I beleive in myself and like to trust others...be my friend again.
@ebookyoung (184)
• Nigeria
22 Jun 08
With the greatest respect, may I ask if you are one of the people that one could meet, who will return emails and participate in discussion, my dear olivemai?
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
22 Jun 08
Yes, I am one of those people! I have never been to Africa, or any country except Canada once and the United States! But I do like to meet people and all that! If you send me a message through myLot, I will respond! I remember moving to a new neighborhood once, and feeling the same way! How do you make friends if everyone already thinks they have enough friends? At myLot, you can make friends by participating, adding interests, and requesting friendships! It all works out in the long run!
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
22 Jun 08
Yes people has make true friendship in MYLOT. This is how Newbie first feel when coming into MYLOT. I did. Don't worry you will get over it. Just post and response with quality and you will find that friend list of yours fulling up. It is good to have friend but you should remember that there is a message part on your profile that you can write to a friend. You doesn't have to give them your personal email address. You can correspond by using this.
Welcome to MYLOT and continue to enjoy yourself here. If you haven't then start. This is a stress relief site.
@fafinette79 (943)
• United States
22 Jun 08
This is great response. I'm a newbie to mylot and would love for all my friends to respond and comment on the discussion that I have. Right now I'm just loving mylot and all that it has to offer. I can post a discussion and get a response almost immediately about almost anything. I really think that this site would be best called a "penny4thoughts" cause it's more like that than anything. It would be great if the amount that is given would be a little more than .01cents.
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
22 Jun 08
i just exchange messages back and forth on here. I just started a couple of days ago and only started really to respond to discussions for a few bucks. Though i have accepted four friend requests, but that was because there discussion contained some information about some things i was interested in. The only way i would probably go as far as exchanging numbers is if someone actually can relate to alot of the same things.
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@CrashO (698)
• Romania
23 Jun 08
I don't think you could make REAL friends online here or anyone else, its really hard, but they should PM you back, I mean I allways do, and I'm always looking for friends who might post in my topics and I would do the same, but its hard to look for them.. :)
@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
Well, I have been in mylot for over a year now though I just came from a long hiatus. But before that hiatus lots of user here in mylot are really friendly. Theres this one time that they even send gifts and card to each other I think they both live here in the Philippines but from different region. Some got to meet at others forums too. I think you can really built a good friendship here but rarely for a true or a lasting relationship.
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
22 Jun 08
Well,this concept of existence of true relationship at mylot purely exists if and only if you believe it urself. If you believe in online relationships turning real then perhaps you can think of getting a true friend over here.
I am not joking. I have a true friend here at mylot with whom i talk daily on phone.Perhaps we have been thinking of meeting soon.
Online relationships do work but only if you are ready to respond equally.
I know there are many constraints here at mylot. Most of the people are not from the same place you belong to. Then most of the people are too much elder or either married. And then many of the people are not active over here.. And there is no direct means of chatting..
But surely, you have to be patient. I haven't seen people replying over messages but i have seen people commenting back again and again just to know them more. Perhaps that helps..
Anyway, all the very best to you. Hope you find out what you are actually looking for
@ellie333 (21016)
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22 Jun 08
Oh most definitely I have only been here a few months and have already developed very close relationships with a few people on here and have also met two MyLot friends in real life too and they were as lovely and as geniune in real life as they appear to be on hear. Keep posting, keep responding and sometimes you will not get a message back but that is due to the PM messages not always working, I receive many but I am unable to respond as there is a glitch in the system, don't get disheartened, just have fun and the friendships will develop. I also find that by responding to any responses you receive on a discussion your post can help build this too. Ellie :D
@figjam00 (1445)
• India
22 Jun 08
I am having lot of friends on mylot but none of them is good friend of mine. Although I do get response from my friends. I think for making a realtionship you need to spend more time with that person. I come in mylot for posting and starting discussion and after that I log off. I don't send any personal messages that often.
@drsparkle314 (529)
• New Zealand
22 Jun 08
I have read all the previous answers to this discussion and most of them say that true relationships can indeed be found here on my lot... and well yes I honestly agree with them... well four of my friends here are my friends in real life but in here you won't be able to see we are related at all... we somehow prefer it that way so we can respond to each others discussion without bias but when we are together in the real world we still discuss about it... well just like you I'm looking for mylot friends that could eventually turn into something real... be patient... I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for if you truly believe in it... and just a tip be yourself... not your cyber self... because some people here can be just their cyber selves... do you understand what I'm trying to say? anyway back to being yourself... if you are true I'm sure you'll also find someone who is true in time... =)
@kisanchhantyal (420)
• Nepal
22 Jun 08
I don't think so because its the virtual world.Relation can use up to temprorary but not long lastin I think you are hurried up to tie the ralation ,be aware that may make you crazy.
@benhilo (871)
• Tripoli, Libya
22 Jun 08
Anything is possible. As for me I was traveling accross country and met this lady on the bus who was traveling from Georgia via New Mexico thru Denver then on to Portland where she was to finalize her divorce. Bottom line is she turned me on two this space and have subsequently kept in touch. So my answer would be yes since the relationship continue thru this space. I think I may also have made at least one enemy though because of my comment on a discussion related to pets. Oh well can not please everyone so as the song goes you got to please yourself.
@knight_rlc26 (362)
• Philippines
22 Jun 08
I think as time goes by, we can meet a true friend here. I am hoping for that instance... but, because of the distance from each other its kinda be impossible. Nontheless if are both seriouss in building up your friendship eventhough those obvious hindrances. I am crossing my fingers that someday it may happen to me. I am a newbie also here and hopind that, it is gonna be possible. whatever your race or country...
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
22 Jun 08
anything is possible but i came here to hang out.. i have way too many sites i have made friends on so if i dont on here i dont care lol.. i have made some good friends through yuwie, myspace and livejournal though but other than that no.. ive been here 4 weeks i think but i havent tried to make friends either so maybe that is why.. i figure if i cant keep up with all the ones i got now then its kind of unfair.. keeping up with 2,000 people that sign in all the time is hard enough.. maybe there is some interest you could post in?? like the ones where your goal is "making new friends" category and then post a discussion there and maybe some other people will wanna chat back and forth.. i know with sites like this and other places friendships just seem to happen when your not looking for it.. at least 99% of mine happened that way.. if you are just talking about friends for your friends list then just start asking anyone interesting
@Ready_Freddy (1)
• Spain
22 Jun 08
I haven't...but I've only been a member for 13 minutes. I will give you an update next week.