A Horrid Friend?

Look, I am a guy but, if I go to my buddy's place and his girl shows up, one of us has to go. Now if they go in the back room and I am not invited, I can only assume that they are doing what they do. That is an automatic cue to leave. I can't say you are a bad friend. As long as you complain too much the day after, I would say you were a good friend for picking up on her cue. If she was scared of the guy, she should not have left the room with him to begin with.

Hi there, you are not bad at all but I wonder if you informed her that you are leaving, of not maybe she has a reason to be mad since it will also worry her since she invited you and it's her responsibility if ever what happen to you during that time!

No, personally you had every right to leave, and I think you were doing what is right when you left, as otherwise you would be an interference to that situation, and why should you ever stay somewhere where you feel uncomfortable and unwanted. Even if this was not planned in the first place, your friend was wrong disappearing with that guy like that and then expecting you to stick around, especially when you were over there first. Hopefully someday somehow she will come to her senses, and see the errors of her ways. But at the same time, I would not let it be bothering you as well. You did nothing wrong.

No, I think you should've left earlier. Clearly if they were in the room with the door closed, they were probably up to something you didn't want to know anyway. Also, I don't think she'd have liked it were the shoe on the other foot. The guy should've left and maybe they schedule a date for another day, instead of just pushing you off to the side. You want to know who was the horrid friend? She was in my opinion.

I don't think so. Your friend should have had more respect for you. Trust and friendship goes 2 ways. Turn it around on her and see if she can see how you feel. You don't have to be ugly, but just let her see how you feel. If she can't see where she was wrong, then she is not much of a friend. Good luck!

I feel you on this one! I WOULDN'T WANT TO SIT IN THE LIVING ROOM WHILE MY FRIEND WAS IN THE BEDROOM GETTING IT ON EITHER!

It sounds like your friend lost her priorities. I think it rather rude of her to head off to the bedroom with her male visitor and leave you alone to entertain yourself. I think you did the right thing. Now, don't you really know that already?

maybe atleast you had bid them farewell..but how can you when theyre inside the bedroom!! nope your not ..

No actually, I would say she is.

I don't think you are a bad friend. because they disappeared into the bedroom and left you alone without telling you any details. But confused why she got mad at you at last. if she really need you, maybe she should have requested you not to leave anyhow. oh.wish all of you be happy.

You are not a horrid friend.......you have been in fact the most understanding, tolerable and patient in the situation. If the guy just drop off something or drop by for a brief chat, then left and you made such a big deal out of it then you are considered horrid. But in this case, it was beyond dropping off something nor just a brief chat. Your friend should been decent enough to inform the guy thats its a girls night out. What ever plans made, they could just move it on the following day or morning if they can't really wait. Your friends should have also introduced the guy to you. If I were in your shoes, the moment the guy stayed for more than 30 minutes, I would have asked if they have some plans. Then would leave the moment he tells me no but still won't make that effort to leave. That would make me an horrid friend for being so frank but if my friend is really my friend, she should know me better and might as well be honest with what the real score is.

Of course you're not a bad friend! She was quite rude leaving you hanging like that:) And then she has the audacity to be mad at you?! Sounds quite selfish and self-centered to me and probably everyone else.. Welcome to myLot!

You probably should have left a note for her or something since she did ask you stay. But she's also wrong for choosing to hang out with the guy while you were still around, so she shouldn't be mad at you. Anyway, this seems like a small misunderstanding to me. I'm sure once you talk to your friend everything will be fine again between the two of you.

Well if I were in your shoe, what I would rather do is stay if my girl friend asked me too and when she left me, there was something to do like watch movies while eating something (hahaha) or anything to make me occupied. I don't care if they disappear for long, it's there business. I'm the type of person who prefers to be alone anyway. hahaha..

Consider her priority too, such things happen sometimes in life. Especially, when two favourite persons appear together. But bad it is if she intentionally keeps you sitting as a witness of her pure relationship with the boy.

you are not a bad friend. You are a considerate friend. If t=your friend disappears to her bedroom with a gut that could be her lover,the considerate thing to do Is to leave.You are not the horrid friend, she is. If the night was to be just you two and she lets a guy barge in, then she is the one not being considerate.You are nicer than I. The moment he arrived, I would have left. I would have told her to shoot me an email when she wants to do another girls night in and I would have left.doesn't she know the saying two's company, three's a crowd?A horrid friend? You weren't, she was.

I do not think you are in the wrong in any way. I felt that your friend does not even have the right to be angry and/or bad mouth you for leaving on several counts. Just to name a few here, I find that she was not being responsible with her arrangement. She should have at least let her boyfriend know that she is having an all girls gathering and that he should show up some other time and place. Even if he shows up, he could be asked to return at another appropriate time. Besides, this time is actually arranged and agreed upon already. I do not for one single moment doubt what her reaction will be if you had brought your boy friend along on this occasion. Also, her retiring with her boyfriend into her bedroom is simply gross, ignorant, irresponsible and no sense of principle here. I am sorry if I had voiced out harshly here but I just cannot stand such irresponsibility. I think you are not a bad friend and contrary I find my fingers pointing at the other direction on who the bad friend is.

No, you're not a bad friend for leaving, she's a bad friend for going into the bedroom with this guy and leaving you out in the other room by yourself. What were you supposed to be, the look out or something?

I would have left too because I would of been frustrated or annoyed . I would of maybe had a talk with her and said what is going on here and say the time has passed.friendship is important and you cant fluff your friends off for a guy .When i was younger i was foolish and spent all my time with my bf and that hurt the friendship .she has to make time for both of you.

You are not a bad friend, you stayed a lot longer than most people would have! Maybe you should ask her how she would have acted if things were reversed and it was you hiding in the bedroom with your boyfriend?