Because I Love You
By p1kef1sh
@p1kef1sh (45681)
June 25, 2008 5:21pm CST
Imagine this. You are successful in your job. You have a wonderful lifestyle, stylish wardrobe, sports car, foreign holidays. You know the inside of the swankiest restaurants and a partner who floats your boat. Their job is very pedestrian, doesn't pay that much but you love them unconditionally and want to spend your life with them. You are offered twice your salary and a fantastic promotion to move thousands of miles away. Your partner is pleased for you but says that they don't want to move. They love their job, their friends and this town where they grew up. You have 48 hours to make up you mind. Would you stay or would you go?
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27 responses
@GraceWull (35)
• China
26 Jun 08
if i were him, i prefer to stay. as you discribe, my life is so fabulous. Not most people lead such a life but i do. Therefore, it means i taste all the delicious food that i can taste, i drive the best car that i can afford, i live in the best room that i can do, etc. To me, it is enough. Cause may some people spend all his life to get such one luxurious night. But it is my normal day!!!! I prefer to stay with my partner cause it is worth me spending my whole life to love!!!
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I don't think that I would go and not for the sake of my partner, but for myself.. If I had all of this going in my life, I would be satisfied.. I definitely stay where I was at and go out to the swanky restaurant to celebrate my decision..
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Tell the lovely gentleman that I said thanks for the Champagne.. It was wonderful..
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@nannacroc (4049)
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26 Jun 08
Being a bit dim, I know I would stay. To me being loved is far more important than money and status. I may have felt different when I was younger but I don't think so as I chose Mr Croc over a fellow with a better job and prospects.
If you tell anyone else this you're in trouble.
@pumpkinjam (8763)
• United Kingdom
29 Jun 08
Not very secret here is it Mum? You wouldn't have your three lovely children if you hadn't chosen Dad. Well, you might but then we'd be parallel children.
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
26 Jun 08
What a love you are, nannacroc. No wonder p1ke likes you so much. And he'll keep your secret, no worries there.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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26 Jun 08
Hi P1kef1sh, I f I already had everything why would I want to risk losing it for double salary without the love of my life being there to share it with me? I would stay absolutely. Reminds me of the only Buzzcocks record though 'should I stay or should I go now' I don't think I would resent my partner for making the choice of wanting to stay either as this is where we had met and been very happy, why change something that works, and for what, more money? People are more important. Only my opinion though. Ellie :D
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jun 08
hi pikefish. if I truly loved my mate, no job would take me
away from him and we would continue as we had before as
the job would not mean anything to me if my love was thousands
of miles away from me. I have always loved people more than
possessions so would not change for some fantastic new job.Guess
I am a bit nuts but thats just the way I am.
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@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Wow, tough decision. Me, I have moved hundreds of miles away from my hometown...a couple of times, but I didn't have that much going for me at the time. Honestly, if I was successful and had a good lifestyle like that, I wouldn't move to increase my salary more. I could see making that kind of move if we were both struggling to make ends meet and the new job could make life a lot easier, but if life is already pretty easy, why move thousands of miles away to have even more than what is already good enough? For me, though, more is not always necessarily better. I think I would be happy with where I was in that situation.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
26 Jun 08
well, i am married but i don't have a child yet... it comes back again to my motivation in working... is family or career more important for me??? i will seriously ask me this question... and since the answer is clear, i put my family first before work, so i won't be leaving... i will stay in my current job even though the pay is not that good... but at least i am close to the person who love and care for me... money is not everything, money is not nothing, money is only something... we need it to live... but we can't look at everything in the money perspective... like in this case, family and love can't be valued with money... so i will stay... take care and have a nice day...
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
Well I guess there are times where you really have to make a decision. Is is career or your loved one. I think you should weigh base on how you feel about the situation. I am pretty sure if your career minded you would choose career over love. But if your an emotional person of course you would chose the one you loved most. So its up to you which weighs more and which one will make yourself happier.
@jazgottt (1180)
• Poland
26 Jun 08
hi p1kef1sh. For me it would be easy choice. I'd stay with my partner and resign from dubeled salary. I don't put much attention to money. Of course I gather them, because we all need them, but I don't need a lot of money to be happy.
I don't care much about my salary. It is good when it is high, but I don't spend much money, so it is ok when my salary is an average salary. Love is much more importnant in my life than job.
Have a nice day, jazgottt.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I would stay. It sounds like I'm already doing great and it doesn't seem like twice my salary would be worth giving up an already great life with a person that I love. So I would definitely stay. If not for anything else, then for love.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 Jun 08
I don't think the relationship, no matter how loving would last if one partner was unhappy. Eventually it would begin to corrode things. But people are eminently
adaptable, so who knows. Me -- I'd stay with the person if I really loved them, and KNEW that to take them from their comfort zone would be detrimental to the health of the relationship.
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@travibabiesgirl (1690)
• United States
26 Jun 08
If your partner is the love of your life there is no question but to stay. If you already have a great job that pays well why would you need to take the promotion. If this partner was just a I think I love them but I might be wrong type love then Heck yeah go for the gold.
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@ettenaej (39)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
for me il stay..luxuries is not that important than the person i love to be with. i believe that it is easy to earn money, prestige and luxuries but it is hard to find happiness. though i may sound realistic but i would choose love than money/luxuries.
@jazzd4me2b (13)
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26 Jun 08
If I am already successful and have a wonderful lifestyle and a wonderful partner, then there is no way I'd jeopardize that for more money. If you're really happy, why give that up for more money? To move away from all the things and people that make you happy to make more money and be miserable? Makes no sense whatsoever!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
26 Jun 08
If I love the person and I love the place where we are now, I would stay anyway, we are both stable and I don't need anymore money just to be away!
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
26 Jun 08
If they really loved you, they would move with you. However, that wasn't the question lol. If I already had a successful career, and everything else to go with it, I would stay put. Why give up a successful life and a great relationship for a job? After all it is just a job, and if you have everything you need in your life, why change that. Like the saying says, if it ain't broke don't fix it.
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@novataylor (6570)
• United States
26 Jun 08
You already know what my answer would be, p1key. Love wins out every time, hands down.
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
26 Jun 08
Thats a good one. I say, go with the human. Its better to have a sidekick or partner you love with you than all the money or lifestyle in the world.
I know people place real importance on the living but think of all the times you will be saying to yourself - I wish he or she were here.
And that can go on for a very long time.
In my view, anytime you have a decision like this you go for the human.
It works better and there is a lot less pain and regrets.
You don't want regrets.
Those are the worst.
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