How would you feel about...

maybe at first glance i would be really shocked, but on the other hand a food processor is a good thing to receive. it a hard days or life we have now i think we need to be more aware of life and not just gift. if she dont like then she just have to throw it away. its the thought that counts i may say

I would not mind at all its the thought that counts. I mean if it works and it was free to you why complain. I mean some people these days just cant afford much so you gotta be understanding. I got some brand new stuff that I would have traded anyday for a used food processor lol.

Many would think it rather tacky to give a used item. Perhaps it had never been used and therefore was being re-gifted. However under certain circumstance such as the gift giver not being able to afford to buy a new one. I would prefer to look at it as it was the thought that counted .

i would be offended definitely. i just can't think how a person can gift somebody a second hand item in wedding? its really sad. its better then not to gift something.

My answer to this will make no sense at all but it is the way I am. (Sounds like I have no sense hehehhe) For something as important as a wedding I would give nothing at all before giving a used item, HOWEVER coming from the side of the track where money has always been in short supply I would have been very happy to recieve the used processor. Outside of not having the box it sounds like it's only been gently used.

With the economy the way it is, some people just can't afford to go out and buy the gifts that they would like to. I have gotten 2nd hand gifts before and it is usually something that I need or love. I don't mind. I would not want my friends compromising their budgets just to buy me a gift they couldn't afford.

Wedding gifts and shower gifts, birthday gifts of that sort should all be new. NOW if someone is on an extremely low budget, I would not be judgemental, but I have never had that happen. As long as the present is clean, I dunno. Just my rambling thoughts.

I think it is ok as long as it is in pristine condition. I mean, a food processor is quite pricey and maybe the person would not have been able to afford to give a new one. I guess it depends on how well you know the person. Are they thrifty or snobbish? I think it was lovely to find something that would have been way too expensive new but was affordable this way. They probably thought it was something that they would get a lot of use out of. On the other hand, a check for $50 would probably been safer!

I might be, but I've recycled gifts that I've received in their boxes. I rarely give gifts from the second-hand store (I used to give yard sale gifts when I was younger), but if I can't afford anything on the registry, I'll just give a gift card for what I can afford and leave it at that (or not go to the wedding). My boyfriend doesn't have a ton of money, and he felt bad about my being here alone (we don't live together), so he picked up a snowblower at the thrift store (so he says) for me to use. I just recently sold it, since where I'm moving, it would be a moot point (gravel, etc). But it was the thought that counts.

I wouldn't be at all offended. it's more offensive to be offended by something someone has chosen for you, when they don't HAVE to give you anything. and as Kenzie said, it might be an ex-display model from a shop.

Well, I know you should be grateful to receive a gift, but I think I would be disappointed and hurt if someone gave me a used present for my wedding gift. I would be embarrassed to give something that was used as a gift. I think it is inconsiderate to give something that is second-hand. Wow, I can't believe it. That's really something.

umm, if they are poor or dont have alot of money then i wouldnt care (especially if the item worked)

I can understand where she may have felt offended as it was her wedding gift. It is not improper to give second hand gifts on any other occasion, but for this one it seems a bit improper. I would have taken it though, as long as it worked and was clean. Otherwise I may have taken it to a second hand store, but would not let the person who gave it to me know. Have a Great day.

I think it would definitely depend on the person giving it. If it was someone I knew well and I knew they didn't have the money to give an expensive gift (I'd consider a food processor expensive)but they'd gone out of their way to find a used one that was still in top condition with the manual and all I wouldn't be offended. I know a wedding isn't the same thing, but the year my youngest daughter moved out on her own she asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I told her I really WANTED a stereo that would play my 78 rpm records and my tapes, but I'd be pleased with anything she could come up with. She called me crying 2 weeks before Christmas because she just didn't have the money to buy a new stereo for me. I told her I didn't mean that it had to be new, I didn't even know they still made them new! That was the best gift I ever got, because she had to "work" so hard to find one she could afford! So it really depends on the circumstance of the giver. If they're just too cheap to buy new, that's a different matter.

I think it would be okay on any other occasion, but I would probably be offended for my wedding. If someone didn't have the money to buy me something I would be fine with a card and best wishes!

To be honest, your friend needs to come off her high horse because it's not about the gift but the thought of giving a gift that counts. Maybe the person who gave the gift didn't have the money to buy something? With the gas prices going up and up which has caused a ripple effect and caused so many other things to go up, it's no wonder people can't afford to buy gifts these days.

I would have been tickled pink as it was useable and free and the thought is what counts after all. maybe the gift giver was having a hard time financially so gave what she could afford.Be grateful and do not get your feathers in a'fluff as the giver did the best she could.I would not have been offened at all. some second hand gifts can be really good.

Personally, I think that people who invite folks to their wedding only for the gifts are the ones who are wrong. Just because there was no box doesn't necessarily mean it was used. I've worked in department stores, and sometimes the boxes from our display models disappeared. And, depending on the item, there might not be another box in the whole store that would fit it. We never really know the situation of other people, even our own friends and relatives. Sometimes they're living on the verge of homelessness or bankrupcy and still trying to pretend that everything is okay. A person who questions a gift given to him/her is ungrateful, in my opinion.

It depends really . If it was a gift with thought, or maybe the gift giver was low on cash . My aunt once wrapped up all sorts of used pans and a toster oven for me and well some were just horrible looking . I would not of minded if they were in good condition .Anyway, what confused me is my aunt is well off . But for the most part she wont share or be one to give good gifts.

I dont know, because I have givin second hand gifts off to other people but mine were not used. they were still in the box and so on. you know like if you got a fruit log for christmas, you dont like it so you pass it on. I have done that but it is not used.