well keep praying til our home is flooded with kids~!!~
@smileyandponcho (1)
United States
June 27, 2008 3:23am CST
hubby 36 on 7/01/08 myself since 36 since 5/10/08 married 9 years june 19th. 8 days ago.. & together 16 years in october. we have been unable to have kids. & if you could hear all the failed hopes and fallen dreams of adoptions you would cry. this last one we really thought was our final blessing. but it lasted 5 months, we set up our complete nursery & prepared our lives for this new baby girl, then 5 months later, 1 month before delivery they change their minds. so now were just praying one of these young girls or? will be sent by god to us to raise their baby, cause ive kinda given up hope & faith that i will ever bare one. my hubby says when its time, well i dont want to be like sarah" in the bible days..i want to be able to enjoy my kids growing up. there are so many girls killing, throwing away, dumping their babies & i know god could lead them right to us. i just dont understand what weve done to not deserev what were put here for to have children & bare good fruit, why not us,? why babies are born to drugs, abuse, neglect, and un-wanted when here we are begging, we will take any and probally all kids, any race,and love them forever...we are good people, my mom is with us also, of the 16 years together weve lived in 4homes, 2 of which we owned,1 this one we live in we still own...we are very stable, my hubby is a heavy equipment driver.we dont have a lot,but we have food, all utilities,everything we need & so much love to share. please spread our story and get it out, we will love any child forever as our own...thanks for reading & god bless you & yours amen......
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
12 Jul 08
I hope that you get to adopt some children soon. Sometimes there are sibling groups of children that need a home. When I became a teacher I taught in a catholic school. I taught a little boy that was being fostered. His foster parents decided to try to adopt him and his older brother as well as his younger sister. The older brother had lost all his hair through all the harsh treatment he had received from his birth parents. The little boy in my class had challenging behavior at lunch time. The youngest sister behaved normally. The adoptive mother told me that she and her husband found the two boys very difficult and if it wasn't for the girl they might have given up. Another little girl in my class was also adopted and she behaved quite normally. In a different school I taught a little girl from Colombia. She was happy with foster parents then social services found someone else to adopt her. Good luck and may you become adoptive parents in the very near future.
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
14 Jul 08
Ladies, please, never give up hope. I am a firm believer that things happen when they are supposed to .
Easy for me to say, right?
I know it is hard, I have been there. I have two children but, I was pregnant 7 times. I was soooo disappointed and hurt that people were leaving babies in gas station bathrooms to die and, I could not have one at all.
We started to look at our options. There are lots of children out there without parents. Foster care and adoption are options. And, I know that adopting is a long process but, isn't it worth it to be able to raise a child in a loving family and home?
Like I said in the beginning of this post. Never give up hope. Things do happen for a reason.
To those of you who need it, I am sending lots of white light and prayers for a joyous addition to your families.
@bevvy22 (279)
• United States
28 Jun 08
smileyandponcho, I am so moved by your story. I have always had a soft heart for those just like yourselves. So soft, that I have actually donated my eggs twice in the past. I was an IVF Donor several years ago before I passed the age limit of 35. I am unfortunately 38 now. I would do it for you in a second.
The fertility doctor I used was wonderful. He had such great success with me, he called me and recommended me to a second couple. I would be glad to give you his information in private.
The first time I donated I actually produced 26 eggs that met the requirements to be extracted. The couple decided to have 2 eggs implanted. One of the eggs split and she had a set of identical twins and the third one. They froze the rest.
The second time, they extracted 19 eggs. The second couple decided to have 2 eggs implanted. Unfortunately it didn't work but, they froze them anyway.
I just got a call from the doctor last week and he said they are going to try again and unfreeze 2 more. Due to costs, it took them a while to save again and a while to get their hopes built up again for something wonderful to happen.
I could keep you posted if you want. Good luck and God will bless you two in one way or another.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jul 08
hi smileyandponcho keep trying to adopt as there will be one
special baby for you I am sure. pray to God and keeplooking as you will find the baby you want, and adopt him or her as
soon as you can.I will send my prayers to you that you find
a baby to adopt and very soon. good luck and God Bless you.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
27 Jun 08
You know I really don't understand it. There are so many well deserving parents who are unable to have children, and as you said, too many that are capable of having children, but not deserving.
My husband's parents adopted him and his sister (not blood sister) by way of being foster parents. Even they weren't completely deserving, because both of the kids spent their whole lives being told what a huge mistake it was for them to be adopted!
Okay, enough of my sob story...
I hope someday you find the miracle you're praying for, one way or the other. Best of luck to you.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Have you considered opening your hearts and home to an older child or sibling set? There are many, many children out there who need good homes-- not just healthy white infants.
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Have you considered or tried to adopt toddlers or older children? Perhaps you might serve a foster parents - there may be children out there who need loving parents such as you and your husband.
@autismmom2 (155)
• United States
27 Jun 08
You should become a foster parent. A "friend" of mine had a baby in late september, and the baby was taken by early november. This little boy has been with a wonderful foster mom ever since. You could become a child's safe haven after being taken from an abusive/neglectful home. If you foster, you could take in special needs children.
You could also offer to help a single mom with babysitting, maybe work in a daycare, or as an aide in a school.
Don't take this wrong at all please, but I think if someone isn't able to have children, it's for a reason. There are so many children that are born and dumped, children abused because of a disability, or just because they were born. So many people do not see their children as a gift, they're a burden. There have to be families that are willing to give "unwanted" children a good home.
Good luck, and God bless
@kezabelle (2974)
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27 Jun 08
I feel for you I truely do im a mother of two small children and they are my absolute world I cant begin to imagine how much it hurts you to have your dreams ripped apart time and again. I agree though about the fostering maybe that can be the way in which you and your husband give the love you so obviously have and help make not just one childs life better but lots.
Keep hoping and dont ever give up xxxx
@lieanat (1137)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 08
Hi,
I believe God will surely bless one to you. Have faith in Him. Try read the bible and be encourage by it. Remember, God will make a way, when there seems to be no way. My brother is facing similar things too. They've tried all their ways, yet till now, they still childless. They've been married for 8 years plus.
@AnneMarie39 (77)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I will pray for you and your husband to be blessed with children. I have been blessed with two children. Also, I've had 2 miscarriages and both were in the second trimester. It is heartbreaking to lose a baby, so I can understand how heartbreaking it must be to have someone change their mind about letting you adopt. It isn't fair and doesn't make sense why so many children are abused and unwanted. why some people just keep pumping them out like puppies or some of the things you listed above and people like yourself are just praying for 1. I hope your prayers are answered soon!
@gamgee (116)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
I know its quite unfair that parents who dont want children are having them, then they just abort them or dump them or even hurt them, but have you tried to let science help you? There are so many advance methods now that are available for us to take advantage of.
Theres a couple from here (Philippines), both in their late 30s who have been trying to get pregnant for several years, but to no avail. So they opted for IN VITRO FERTILIZATION. It was done in Taiwan, and cost around php500,000 ($11,400), this includes their air fare, hotel, food, doctors fee, etc, and their stay in Taiwan for 1 month. They are now the proud parents of twins, a boy and a girl. Dont lose hope, I know you will be great parents someday, all in God's time. Take care...
@joeykckass (9)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Im sorry to hear that you have not been able to start the family you long for. You say you have tried adoption. This can be very frustrating as you have well found out. 8 years ago, (as a single parent to my 8 year old birthdaughter ) I became a fosterparent. Although I never planned on adopting, Iam now the proud parent of 3 girls and another that will be adopted in Aug. By being a fosterparent, I was called when a newborn needed to be placed often within a few hours of their birth. This puts you first in place to adopt if the child is not placed back with birthparents. By fostering, it put me in the position to be in "the right place at the right time". Consider fostering as a way to fill that home with lots of little ones! Lots of luck to you and your hubby. kariann
@jamie62476 (33)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Ti's hard to understand why things happen the way they do. God has a reason for everything. My aunt tried for 10 yrs, ended up adopting 3 and then at 45 got preggo for the 1st time. So, who knows.......Keep praying and God will work it out.
@thing17 (106)
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27 Jun 08
I can imagine your eagerness to have at least 1 baby because of the time already past.
You know you are not alone in this kind of situation. Every aspect of our life has a purpose and don't lose hope, I do believe in your prayer God is there watching and hear you as you pray for a baby. In HIS time he will answer your prayer.
You know you are so important to GOD and because of that HE will give you a baby and not only a baby, the best 1 baby or 2 or 3 babies. Just keep on praying. God Bless you!
