ahh while the husband is away the wife will play

Since you ask, it seems to me that there possibly might be a lack of communication between the two of you regarding finances. How much money you have should be shared openly and discussed equally so that both sides understand why one purchase might or might not be necessary. Does he work in a decaying atmosphere or is his workplace clean and up to date? If he goes someplace nice and clean and works in a pleasant environment all day, he should not expect you to be home fighting off the germs in the grout. But if he is roughing it then maybe he expects you to rough it a bit, too. Is there a chance of his being transferred to a far away location so that improvements you make to the place would end up being a loss? Will improvements make the value of your property go up? Then will you taxes go up? Or will improvements result in your ability to sell this home at a higher price when you decide to buy a new one? All these things make a difference. Understandably he has to put your work-related expenses first. Those are not his expenses, just as the home improvements are not your expenses. The are both expenses necessary for you as a family, right? Does he consider the money he earns his money? If so, does he pay you for the housework you do? What is this about "his castle?" If a man's home is is castle, then where is a woman's castle?

Ooh sounds like an exciting project, too bad I don't live next door to you to come and help out. I love remodeling, I love the excitement of seeing something messy and then the finish product. Of course I hate the dirty part but I like going through the joy of picking out colors and watching the progress. Good luck and don't get scammed by contractors who take your money and never return to finish the project. Good and and have fun

O my gosh no, many men are like this. Mine is one of them. It's always, no that will cost too much. Well I like you have taken things into my own hands, like getting the new frig and stove. I also did other things and got things that were needed here. Best of luck with your project and with the response.

Go for it!!!

Hi trivibabiesgirl, its nice to hear from you that you wanted to fix floor for your bathroom. pls get it done neatly, precisely and with minimum expenses, so that when he return to home he will be surprised by your and praise you all your effort, In that way you can avoid his anger and surprise him with your feelings and responsibility. pls go for genuine expenses only. Good luck

Hmm.. Do it, Good luck.. but if i were you id save a tiny peck of dollars from that stash to calm him down when he sees those gleaming new tiles and those fixed floors. Men can be aggravated by non dirty things, u know .. well sometimes .. and some men. hahaha. Have a nice Day.

you go girl.....lol.. He would be thrilled to see a changed, repaired house, I a sure. You just be careful while spending and have a great time fixing. One day has almost past. Good luck hon. BTW, did you rob the bank?? just kiddin...

When my husband was alive,he always enjoyed fixing our home up. I don't see a problem with you doing the tile job, after all if you came up with the money, you should be able to do it if you want to.

Good luck :) hopefully it may be a good surprise for ur hubby.....am not sure if all husbands are the same.. ;) mine is not like that he loves a well maintained house...so for him everything has to fixed :) take care n all the best again :)

my guess is that once he sees it and realizes that it did not compromise the budget that he will not be very upset at all with it. He shouldn't be, at least.

I think that is VERY nice and I don't see why he should or will be upset about it. However, I do know the feeling because now that my husband is away for 2 months this house is going to be the way I always wanted it. NO CLUTTER. He is such a pack rat. I have cleaned out kitchen cabinets and given out most of those cans to the poor and I am having a garage sale next week. Don't worry I'm not selling any of his stuff but there is more room for his things now which I think will make him happy.

unfortunately, not all men out there are the "handyman" type...some doesn't have the know-how, some doesn't have the patience, and some are just plain l-a-z-y. the reason probably why you're hubby doesn't want you to do it yourself is because that would make you look more superior to him, since you'll be doing the job that he was supposed to be doing. but you go girl...it is your castle and you have all the rights to fix it the way you want it to look like...make yourself feel more at home. you won't get in trouble as i'm sure he'd appreciate your all your hardwork and not to mention the money that you have saved for the job, especially if the job will come out really good...like it was done by a pro. good on you!

Go for it !! I think this is a really good thing that you're gonna do, it will make you proud when you stand back and look at your work. No, you're not the only one, I have been waiting for almost 6 years for my husband to hook up my dishwasher, it's in my kitchen but still it doesn't work. I wish I had the know how to do it myself. I think your husband will be pleasantly surprised when he comes home and sees what you've accomplished.

you go girl!! i did up our bathroom a while ago and the other half loved it don't worry bout the male efo thing he'll really apprieciated when he gets home

good luck for trying,just make it nice so that he will not get angry with you.

lol and heres me thinking u were going to be up to no good! well good luck with it hun and i hope all goes well.

I think you should do it... This will be something that you are doing for your self... its time for you do something for yourself