Do you feel like you are in control of your life?

I am in cotrol of my life, and I am going to make sure that I maintain total control of my lie. I am not a very nice person to give advice to, and I will always tell he unsolicited advisor where they can put their unsolicited advice. LOL

No, absolutely not. Even after spending little more than half of mylife I dont find things in my control. With my best efforts I am not able to earn what I desire to earn. Professionally also I hae not achieved that post what I dream. I have a dream to earn so much that I need not to earn and then I live in a distant village , a calm life, teaching childrens and helping every poor and needy. But I am far away from every thing as I am still not able to control my life.

I am in control now of it but have only been the last few Years My Ex Husband and my Friends used to control all the time no matter what I said I wanted to do Oh no that is not good and things like that I had a lot of Problems with my Friends when I decided to move away to move here to be closer to my lovely Man but I put my foot down and told them it is my Life, I have known him 6 years been with him for 3 years as a Couple and I did not want to live 3 hours away from any more and I moved, they are hardly talking to me now but who cares I am now in control of my Life and with the Man I love

Oh yes at this age I am contented with life and am in full control. The decision I have made, the upbringing of my children is solely my own decision. I am glad I have made wise decisions pertaining to my children's education and career , now I see the fruit of my labour. I wouldn't like to be influenced by anybody when making up my own decision. I know best what is good and bad for my life. I choose the life I live.

I am in control of my life. In my work, in my everyday living. But a suggestion and advice from my loved ones is given consideration and weight.

I took control of my life a while back by realizing I had no control over life....lol. It seemed the more I tried to control it, the more I failed so I gave up and now realize I am in pretty good control. You have to watch out for yourself because nobody else is going to. That's the one good thing about being single, I only have to worry about my daughter and myself.

i used to be dictated by my parents and sibling when i am still a child... i never make a decision for myself and let other people to make decision for me... as a result, when i grow up, i grow up to be a dependent, not confident and not assertive person... i can't express myself and i am very indecisive most of the times... but as i grow older, i try to make decisions for myself and be responsible for them... also, i try to be more confident and assertive especially in my workplace as my indecisiveness and non-assertiveness had hindered me to get a better career in my workplace... i can't answered the interview questions confidently and hence, i lose the opportunities... i am getting better now and trying harder by each day... take care and have a nice day...

Basicly I'm calling my own shots in my life, but what my parents or boyfriend think or want is important for me too. Sometimes you need to decide something that not just affects only you, and in that case it feels only right to ask the opinion of loved ones and consider it. It doesn't have to oblige you to do it, but you can at least overthink it to see if there's something you haven't thought about yet (certain consequences, etc).

I would like to think that I am but there are times that I still feel that the people around me is controlling my life. It will seem subtle but my bosses at work would control everything and I tend to forget the line before between what is required of me from work and what is something that I can say no to. Right now, I am slowly working on running my own life and risking everything just to say what I want to do and what I don't. I get satisfied knowing that I stood up on what I really feel and believe.

I think I am in control on my life, but there is still people that is dictating my life to me, and I would like to get rid of it, I think I will able to do it soon, I hope so because It is stressing when you know that there is thing that you can't control at all, and other people is who is actually taking decisions about my life, I like to hear opinions of people but I almost never take them because in many cases those opinions don't work for everyone, for example when I want to start to study my degree my family want me to study something that I don't like and I decide to wait until I was able to start the degree that I wanted, and I am happy doing the thing that I like, I have a friends that always have do the things that other people say to her, and she always got in trouble for it because like I said not all the advices work for everyone, she wanted to study psychology and for advice of some of her friends she started to study accounting and she did very bad at it because it was not that she liked, I think that is the important in life, just doing the thing that I feel good doing, and in what I am happy doing, that is all for me, if I like something I will take it even if there is many people that dislike it.

Sometimes I do, sometimes I do not. Sometimes it feels like things are really complicated in my life, I need more independance. I make my own decisions and really resent being told what I can and cannot do but I do listen to advice if it is given, not that I ever ask for any!

Well , just like you I used to take everybody's opinion seriously and came to know that they want their dreams or desires satisfied through their advices and I changed myself. Now I do what I want and What I will for. I take advices, because that's something you can get for free and is useful sometimes. Many people have tried to influence my life and the way it will turn out later, but they have always been futile. I love the way I am and will be. bourne

yes i do... i like o control of my life because very important next my life and my planning soon... and mybe our my live can be simple and calm..

In the eyes of my friends, I may be the person whose life is controlled by my mother. hahah.. but i don't think so. it's because in fact, the one who is in charge of my life will always be one person; me, myself. As for seeking advices, I would keep an open mind just to hear what opinions people have for me which it could benefit me in life by indicating the route i should take for the best out of me.

AS much as we would like to say that we are in control of our own lives, we may not be unless we are totally disconnected from the people around us. We get influenced so much by the actions and influences of people around us. Are they not so many instances that we have already decided the course on, but have changed it by looking at what have done or said.

I feel I am very strong person and I can take decision by my own, even from childhood days I always use to stand by my decision, I hardly approach others , I am a mother of 2 daughters now and even I want them to be like me , no one can control our life, our life our wish the way we want we can live , as far as we are not hurting others for any thing it is fine, my husband also gives full support for me, he takes his decisions but he never says no for my decision orhe never tries to keep me in hiscontrol even I dont do that with him , I hate people who try to keep others in controly, it is okay with kids or children but not with elders or same age group.

I won't lie, I am not. I came back to this part of the country because I was having my divorce proceedings here and after it was over, I stayed close due to the children and aging parents. Now they are 16 and 18, and now yesterday, I got a voucher for Sec 8, and after all I went through, I am like, I want out of there. But I have a mom almost 80, and though she is pretty independent, the day is coming when she isn't. I struggle with what to do, and I know that changes are in order and suprisingly, things are working for me, but it takes time.

You brought this up at the perfect moment in my life for it! You know well how out of control things have been in life and the crazy thing about that is that for once I feel in total control. At the start of the month there was a crazy psycho stalker ex who was trying to control my life and he has been able to do for the last 12 yrs with his "connections". I felt like I no longer controled my life, I was so broken down by that and everything else hitting at the same time. Like the on/off relationship with the one I thought was the "one" for the last 8 years, the job situation, the having to move, my health, finances... all of it pretty much hit the bottom at once. Then somewhere in the middle of all that I realized that I had a right to be here in this life, in this world and that I really could control my life. That was only a little over a week ago but I feel so in control of my life and good things are starting to happen. I let go of the relationships and items that cluttered my mental/emotional/physical space with no regrets and happily. I trusted myself to make my own decisions and I did, major ones too, lol. I took the job situation into my own hands and ended up with a sale on my shop, some future custom orders and with 20-something resumes and follow-ups out there. I made the choice to control my current situation and things are starting to take shape for the best. I have to say the one thing I don't control is petting time, lol. The cat has total say on that one and these organic vitamins have given her this "in your face" energy and she will not be ignored, lol. Maybe she's decided to take control too? Great discussion!

Yes, I feel I am controlling my life. I'm 50 now, so nobody really gives advice - and my husband and I decide on the big things together and talk them over. I found when I had little babies there were plenty of people wanting to give advice - but I generally did what I thought was right for the baby and for me, and only took it on board if I felt it would help.

I don't think I'm controlling my life completely. A have a little control but my fiancee calls the shots in our relationship. Sometimes I wish I were more independent, but I'm not sure I have what it takes to make my own decisions.