What should i do when my friend is trying to do this to me?
By lamester01
@lamester01 (104)
Singapore
June 28, 2008 11:24am CST
Hi guys, i was perplexed with what my friend had done to me. She is a close friend of mine in school, and one day i came to realized that she seems to be interested in my boyfriend. By which she tried all means just to get my boyfriend over to the school and let her be close toward him. Throughout the months, i realized that her attitude toward my boyfriend has change dramatically. From what i can see in the first meetup, she was actually rather irritated by my boyfriend continuous humming, and right now, she has even take the initiative to view his profile without letting me know. what should i do?
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15 responses
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
29 Jun 08
I am sorry you are going through all this a friend should not have you worrying about such things . You need to try and talk to her . See what your boyfriend has to say , fill him in on things . Try not to think the worse of your boyfriend and I am sure he would let you know . Maybe try to hook her up with someone ? Get her mind off him.
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@lamester01 (104)
• Singapore
29 Jun 08
thanks metschica
I don't think that this friend of mine really likes my boy in such a way of saying love.. but in fact, she may be thinking that my boy does have a lot of money and trying to hook him up because he is a undergraduate.. sigh
@latriciajones (846)
• United States
28 Jun 08
i wouldnt even call her a friend, boyfriends are off limits. and for her to even act that way towards your guy is disrespecting you and your guy. i would let her know that i dont appreciate what she's been doing and unless she stops then we cant be friends. becuase if the shoe were on the other foot i am pretty sure she would be upset if you were doing that to her.
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@lamester01 (104)
• Singapore
28 Jun 08
Hi latriciajones,
Actually, I was rather upset of seeing my friend doing such a thing to me. But I do find some difficulty of confronting her straightaway.
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@lloydbelleza (1227)
• Philippines
28 Jun 08
You better talk to your friend. You need to clarify things. Also you need to talk to your boyfriend. You need to be sure of what you're accusing with your friend. Although you may have points that can backup your claims, but still if you're wrong that can be a big damage to your relationship with her. Have faith and trust. Do something now.
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@lamester01 (104)
• Singapore
28 Jun 08
Hi lloydbelleza,
I do not know how to confront this friend of mine as I knew that we will be still seeing each other in school for 3 years. it might turn out to be a disaster. I did had a talk with my boyfriend, and he suggested of making her to insinuate her love toward him rather to making us do the guessing game. (:
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@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
28 Jun 08
It does not matter if she has interest in him, if he does not have it in her.
If he has no interest, don't worry about it, but do ste boundries with hter and don't discuss him with her. If he does toy with her..better to know now. Let them have each ohter, cut them out and move on. Better for you to know! (Plenty of fish in the sea, dear!)
You are young. You won't end up with him anyway. You'll go to college, hopefully, and find a real noce guy! Think ahead! Date now and have fun. Don't tie down just yet!
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@lamester01 (104)
• Singapore
28 Jun 08
Hi Gargoyle0134,
the problem is I treat this relationship seriously. As I have totally committed myself into this. and yet, this sort of thing happened which becomes an obstacle.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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28 Jun 08
Hello lamester01
I am thinking she is very jeolous of you, does your boysfriend knows she is doing this? my bet is he does, then they are not worth it, she proberley pretending to be irritated by your boyfriend hummung, makeing you think she is not interested in your boyfriend when she clearly does, get rid of her you can Tamarafireheart.find may good friens.
Tamarafireheart.
@lamester01 (104)
• Singapore
28 Jun 08
Hi tamarafireheart
I think she is really jealous of me too. Because we are in the same clique, but everyone just seem to be having much more conversation to me than her. and during class, my lecturers would have the tendency of paying more attention to me.
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@princesspopo (3)
• Philippines
29 Jun 08
it happened to me already..u just have to let your bf know about your gutfeel. if he really loves you, he'll guard himself.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
29 Jun 08
short but precise! that's true. it's always better to be open to your boyfriend. atleast, he'll be warned and guarded.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
29 Jun 08
first of all, it's better if you get the strength to face your friend and talk to her. you don't need to be in a fight or something. just sit down and talk things out. tell her how much you love your boyfriend and how much you respect your friend's feelings, too. it's just that he's yours already and that she should atleast open her eyes to other guys.
don't forget to trust your boyfriend, too. and if you have time, let your boyfriend know how you feel about the situation.
anne
@ravismartcoder (179)
• India
29 Jun 08
I think you should have to faith on your boy friend... then you should have to discuss this problem with him and try to understand what hi wants.. because unnecessary doubts creates problem in your friendship .. so feel free to discuss this with him..
@yoongkheong (139)
• Singapore
29 Jun 08
It sounds suspicious how your friend became to see your boyfriend in a positive light when initially she was not. Could you have been talking good stuff about your boy such that she became to find him a good man? Then perhaps you can prevent yourself from talking about him in front of your friends for the time being.
On the other hand, could it be that your friend has been in contact with your boy all this while behind your back? That would be dangerous!
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@creative_genius (992)
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29 Jun 08
She isn't a friend if what you say is true. You have two options to wait and see what happen next, or to confront her. It totally depends on how much you trust your boyfriend and how much her behaviour is bothering you. I think if you're in a secure relationship then it would just be something funny to laugh about with your partner. However if you are feeling insecure it all needs to be nipped in the bud. Remember there is no relationship without trust, so get some new friends as she is not a friend.
@celticeagle (167001)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Jun 08
I wouldn't trust her. I would watch her and watch your boyfriend. This observation will show you alot. If they both do not treat you with respect and consideration I would kick them both to the curb. Life is too short. Good luck!
@bunty85696 (23)
• India
29 Jun 08
Its basically the human psychology that when a person likes anyone he may commit innumerous crimes to get that person.u may be having a friend like that.so try to be carefull from her.it also depends on the trust u put on ur boyfriend and if ur not planning to make him as ur lifepartner,then u must make sure that he doesnt deceive u in future
@myhairbow (48)
• United States
29 Jun 08
this is a hrd situation one that i have been in myself.when i was in high school i was dating a guy which whom my best friend liked.i didnt know it at the time.i went to go visit my family for the day and when i came back i found that he had cheated on me with her.i hope that this does not happen to u but if he is a trusting person id just have a talk with both of them together at the same time.see i am no longer friends with my friend but u still have time if u choose to save ur friendship but if she is interested in your b/f me personally i wouldnt want to chance that.good luck
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jun 08
your friend has turned out to be anything but a friend.
I would tell her to stay the heck away from my boy friend
if she knows what is good for her. tellher that she is not
acting like a friend and you do not want to be friends any
longer. if you trust your boyfriend, good but talk to him and then to her, and kick her out of your life.
