My boss is having a party for me and I don't want to go

I think you should tell your boss that you really are missing your family members and want to spend some time with them . Do not give any sickness excuses at the time of the party thats rude according to me. I am sure that your boss will understand considering the fact that he is holding a party for you.

yes I think it would be rude for you not to go to the party. I think you might regret it later as well. You'll soon be home with your family and friends, and I think t would be nice if you could spend the rest of your stay in the US really living it, not just wanting for something else. I really think one should always try to be present in the moment rather than pining for or regretting something. I am sure you can manage a few hours not chatting with your fiance. If you really are not going I think you should say to your boss that you'd rather not have the party. It is not very symathic to have him go to all that trouble if you know now that you'll not go.

i think you should go. you don't have to stay, but it is a show of good faith that your company would do this for it's employees. i say go, stay for an hour and then leave. have a good time before you leave.

You should go to the party. As much as I understand your feelings of being homesick, you are spending all your time talking to your fiance and it is making it worse. Go to the party, your fiance will still be there to talk to after. Besides, your are going home soon and will be seeing your loved ones.

I think you should suck it up and go. Your really homesick, it may get your mind off of it for a few minutes and besides, you've got the rest of your life to be with family and friends. You boss obviously values your hard work and would like to show appreciation. It's a few hours out of ONE evening in your life.

Hey even i am been through such situations quite often. And if i were in your place, i wont prefer to go to the party either. Now the question is what should be done to avoid going to party. A blunt no can strain you boss and sub orninate relationship. So what could be the gentle and polite way to refuse or what could be an excellent way out of this situation. Case 1 you straight forward say no by giving a reason about your problems...A BAD WAY Case 2 You avoid by giving bad health reasons...ANOTHER BAD WAY Case 3 THE BEST ONE ... Tell your boss that you wish to spend more time with your Fiance..or rather introduce him to your boss. And a good option...call your parents and fiance to party.(if possible) And if you call in sick at the day of party thats the worst option you could have ever choosed.. coz the party has been arranged for you and just imagine if your boss comes to know abt the reality of not coming to party then that could go negative for your future growth. So be careful. Talk to your colleague who is also invited to the party. have some time together to understand and come out with a good reason to avoid the party. A good way out-Try to arrange some personal meeting or a sort of farewell so that you can tell the boss about your own plans and you cant come to his party..I think this is the best way.. Organize a party with your friends and tell the boss that they arranged a surprise party for you..And you can even convey this on the day of your boss's party. by this way your boss wnt get hurt...!!

I think you should go. Yes, you sound homesick but home is not far away! You can still go to the party, make an appearance, have some munchies, tell the boss thanks for the party, but you are very tired and will be leaving early because you don't want to miss your phone call from home. This way you still show appreciation for your boss and for the party. I think you will have fun once you are there also! Don't pass it up, it's not often a boss will throw a party in your honor! Have fun at the party!

Well I think since you are going home soon anyways, you should at least go to the party for a little while, you really should make an appearance. I know how you feel, I get homesick too, but your colleagues and friends probably really want to see you before you leave. You might never see these people again, and they want to honor your time with them with this party. And you could always call family and friends from the party. But really, in the end you HAVE to do what is best for you, in your own heart!

Hi There, I do understand how you are feeling. There is nothing worse than being homesick. That is for sure! However, in this case I think you should go to the party. It is being thrown for you so there really is no way to get out of it without insulting somebody. I also think if you don't go it will make you feel relieved at first, but then you will begin to feel guilty which will just add unwanted stress. Just go briefly, make an appearance and then you can leave with a good feeling. My two cents. :) cheers,

I think that you should go to the party. I believe that your boss would be very happy if you do. He is throwing the party for YOU so you should be there. I understand that you are homesick. However, you are about to go home soon. You will soon see the people you love and miss.

Hello meleshia. Here is my 2 cents' worth on this rather interesting discussion here on myLot. I do not know what kind of professional position you hold at work. Will you still be working for the same company when you leave? Is there a possibility you would be returning to the U.S. to work for this boss again? I ask these questions because, to miss the party could be like "burning your bridges", if you know what I mean. You might not get another chance to demonstrate to this "boss" that you respect him and are a responsible person. Or worse, you may have to work under him again and he may remember that you skipped a party that he had for you. I've had similar experiences where, at Christmastime, my bosses held parties that I definitely did NOT want to attend (too busy, had shopping to do, too tired, had to get my own house ready for guests, etc.). However, I consistently made an appearance, even if just for an hour, to demonstrate respect and responsibility to the boss. Good luck with making a decision on this one. Take care. PearlGrace

eh,. cheer up,why do you feel like that ? be sportive,take it easy,attend your boss party and as well as enjoy with your family too.

Hi meleshia,, Na, you sould,t lie . I know you don,t want to go to you,re going away party but it,s too nice of them to offer ,rememeber it the thought that count , you can always have time to spend with family and freinds you know? so don,t let your boss down go ahead and go ,,that,s what i,d do if i was you... Happy 4th of july! Gateway78

xiangzenmeyang on how their own kind.mainly as their own ideas.

how much time the party can take? if your boss is giving the party in your honor, you should attend it. it is what i think. i also understand your point. try to make it.otherwise it may show rude.

Actually I cant understand your predicament. As it is you are going home soon, and your party is i presume in the evening. So are you going to talk 24 hours with your family and fiance. I am sure you can spend some time at the party and enjoy with people with whom you worked for so long. When you return home, you should not have a guilty feeling or that of regret at having missed a wonderful party from a wonderful boss.

If this party really planned for you, then why you will not go. When we are kids, we are very happy having a simple party for us from our parents, it is the same the way we are right now, so go with them and enjoy. I guess they have developed a nice program or activities intended for this party. It is up to you if you want to finishe the whole party, you have the choice to go home early if you want, but the thing to do is to attend with that party, it's for you.

You could find some excuse to refuse the invitation,I think you'd better not always do this thing ,only one or two times!

Go there and enjoy the last time what you could spend with your colleagues. You will value it very much when all the things turn to be your momery. good luck and enjoy yourself.

you should go to part! it's a regard for you, your boss have a part for you, it means he likes you, he considers you are a good people.so you must do it, you don't refuse them.