My sister is 18 with a 4 month old and thinks she might be pregnant!!!

she needs your support more than anything else.

Hi, for me I believed a soft word and comfort will not make her mad, although, I beleived she's now matured and can take her own desicion, still your word of advise will help, you really have to talk to her and share your opinion in a gentle and loving ways afterall you only wanted best for her. First thing, asked her for a baby check it it's really positive. If not, good for her she can concentrate on one, then advise to take full responsibility have some contraceptive whether she's sexually active or not . If yes, we have nothing to do with it, just accept it and let it grow,anyway that baby is still a blessing keep in mind. As you care, take an eye for her. Keep praying for her so she'll be guided. Thanks and have a good day!

I think its not very happy time for hr. she should have been more careful. its hard to bear two children a this age and manage them. one 4 month old and alraedy pregnaant. take care.

there is no advice needed by you sister, she is the one responsible to her life and the choices she makes in her life. as a sister, you can be there to support whatever decision she may have in her situation.that's the best thing that you should do.

Hello, Meganparsons_4. She is on her second son? And she is only 18? There is no advice that can be given to her, I think. Your family should pay for that system that won't allow her to be pregnant anymore, the Intra Ulterine Dispositive! For God's sake, she can't keep having babies when she is not an adult yet. There goes her life, on her children. You should also teach her how to use comdons. Unless, of course, those children were all planned. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

you can tell her that you worry about her health.

That is too close, besides she is still a very young mother too-my wonder is why did she have the baby so close? Today with education, pople get children by choice.

Any news on this yet? Has she taken a pregnancy test or found out either way? I don't think there's really much you can do at this point besides be a sister to her. It doesn't sound like a healthy situation with the soon to be husband. I know sometimes it's seems better to make things legal when there's a child involved but it never really works out unless both people are actually ready...and it doesn't sound like that's the case.

I think that you could give your sister support and understanding. If she is pregnant then there isn't much advice that you could give her. She is a teenager that needs support from her family. I hope that she and her future husband build a great future for themselves where they can care for their child or children well. I had a baby boy in May 2007 and one of the ladies from my pregnancy group got pregnant again when her baby girl was three months old. The early years will be difficult for her but when her children are 5 and 6 years old they will probably get on well being so close in age. Good luck to your sister.

Hi megan! There is nothing much you can do in the way of advice that i know of. If she is pregnant then she'll need all the support you can give. Being a teenage mom myself, i know how scary it can be,were it not for the support of my family i dont know what i would have done. You sound like you care about your sister and thats wonderful.Just be there for her and her children, and stress the importance of birth control,it's really expensive to take care of children these days. I wish both you and your sister the best.

I think the best advice for a mother-to-be that may feel that she's not in the best position is sometimes nothing at all. Just let your sister know that she's beautiful for agreeing to have her children no matter how many she may have. But also be realistic and caring and let her know that children are a huge responsibility forever. You don't have to come off as judgemental though because that's when she'll think you are butting in. Just be concerned when you speak of the situation. And very supportive words are the best words that have the most meaning.

I would suggest just to be there if she needs you. You don't have to say anything unless she asks you, or if there is a dangerous situation and you want to help. I suggest she and this guy of hers get it together. They aren't going to have a happy married life if they don't band together now. I threw my guy to the curb before we were married and we didn't have a kid coming into the world. I also suggest...condums!

There's really no good advice to give her. She has to make her own decisions. Just let her know that your there for her and give her your support. I'm also a mother of 2, a 5 year old and a 7 month old and I'm only 20 years old. I had my first when I was 15, my second when I was 20. I managed to finish high school and now I'm attending college full time for my bachelors degree. It's hard but it's not impossible.

i wouldnt say anything. let her come to you for comfort or advice, its nice that you can and want to help. but its a touchy subject. I would just suggest she gets a pregnancy test.

i don't think there really is any advice you can give her that won't upset her. just support her. my sister got pregnant on purpose with a guy she had only been with for 2 months. no one was happy about it. i just supported her because nothing i said would have changed the situation. be happy for her. now, if she isn't pregnant then suggest she take some stronger action to keep from getting pregnant for awhile. my kids are all roughly 2 years apart and i think that was about right. i couldn't imagine having them really close together.

No advice is needed. Stay away from it and out of it. Let her make some tough choices. Time for a litte "Tough Love." She has a brain..let her master it. Big enough to get pregnant and have a baby, time to be big enough to get off her behind and support them! It's called GETTING A JOB! If she is talking about getting married, the father will have to get off his behind and make a living. When the girl is pregnant, so is the guy! Let them work it out. It's not your place to be giving advice. Give space and whether they can make it or not financially..in the end, they made choices and now have to learn to face them. They will or will not be able to keep and raise this child. Hopefully, they will just become adults and handle their responsibilities, learning daily from the "school of hard knocks" like we all have to from tiime to time? I hear that you love your sister. But even sisters can sometimes make unfortunate choices. You have to step back once in a while and let her succeed or fail? It is tough to watch, but you take care of your family and she MUST become an adult and learn to raise and support hers now. Keep loving her..but I wouldn't give advice. Let her use her own brain. She will figure this out.)