Is your spouse or significant other nosy?

My husband and I have been together for so long that we don't really care about these types of issues.. If I need money and he has it in his wallet, I just get it.. He does the same with me, we have no secrets, if I am getting close to being in the hole at the bank, he is the first to know.. If I am overdrawn, he is the first to know.. We have been together for 40 years and there is little if anything that we don't know about each other.. I like it that way, I am not sure that I ever liked little secrets, as we have always been open and above board with eaach other..

As far as going through the wallet and things like that... I used to do this with my husband, only because I had previously been in a relationship where I was cheated on quite frequently. I am a lot more trusting now and no longer do this. My husband is a bit nosy, not because he doesn't trust me, but because there are things I do with my day that I don't tell him every detail of. I just don't think he'd be interested. When I'm writing an e-mail he will look to see what I'm writing. One time we got in a fight and he came and checked out every discussion or comment I made on Mylot to see if he could get information about me. That really irritated me.

Neither me or my spouse are nosy. We don't look at one another's email or cell phones or anything like that. I do check the bank account, but I am in charge of the finances so thats my job. I never go through his wallet and he stays away from my purse like the plague. It's a mess in there! lol

I know what you mean. I didn't look at it from his point of view. I guess I can be nosy, but I just don't think I am as nosy as he is. I feel as though everything I do he wants to know about. And its not in a curious just wondering type thing, but like I have to know just in case type thing. It's weird I guess and I little hard for me to explain. I do trust him however, but I guess then again, I didn't always trust him in the past and when something comes along the line that reminds me of the past I have to double take myself to stop. Hopefully, my husband and I will sit down and talk about our nosiness together.

I tend to be more nosy than my wife. There is reasons for this. I have caught her lying time and time again. And I'm just more technically savey than she is. I can find things out that she doesn't want me to find out. She just isn't a good liar!

My husband is the most un-nosy person in the world! He doesn't gossip, and has no interest in other people's personal lives. I'm interested in what friends and family are up to, but there's absolutely no way I'd go through my husband's wallet or check his email or phone. I have gone through a couple of my children's things at various times when I've been worried about their behaviour - but a general rule is, if you stick your nose into something, you deserve what you find!

I know I am nosy - but not in the checking on him all the time kind of nosy in the I want to know what is going on in his life too. As much as we are married as lead a life together we lead seperate lives because of our schedules. I work 8 to 4 he works 3 to 11 so we only see each other on Saturdays and Sunday mornings. I don't go looking through his phone or wallet or any thing but I do ask a lot of questions as does he. Its our only way of knowing what is going on. He takes care of all the bills and I don't check on them too often. Every once in a while I will take a look at the "bill book" but thats to see what we have coming up and see if there is any extra money. I don't check bank bills if he or I chose to spend money thats what we choose. We both know how much is in the bank and what we have to spend what we spend it on is up to us. If he goes to the bar I don't mind or call him a hundred times to see what he is doing. As his friends wife does. If he doesn't answer his phone for some reason I don't worry about it because it means he is busy and he will call me back. I don't worry about his not being where he said he would be. I don't check on him like his friends wife does. So yeah I'm nosy in a way but not in the "check" on him way. But in the normal I want to know whats going on way.

I am so not nosy. I see it like this. If i have to be with a person who i have to go and check out everything they are doing then i rather be alone. I think it is childish and shows a like of self respect when you think you need to check up on your spouse that way. I would not do. my grandmother use to say, What happens in the dark always comes out in the light. and that is how i live my life. my husband is always going through my phone and whatever else. I tell him all the time if you feel you need to do that then you need to ask yourself what are you doing here.

Neither of us is specially nosy. However we can certainly check if the other paid a bill that was due, we don't necessarily find that being nosy - we're just getting old and sometimes forget things :) As for checking wallet, email, cell phone we don't do it as a rule but we both have the same access to everything. Sometimes hubby calls me from work to check an email that has information he needs, or I ask him to give me a number in my cell phone. We have access to everything and nothing locked or without access for both of us. I agree with you that it is hurtful to be either suspicious or suspected all the time, specially without reason.

I would have to say that I am the nosey one in the relationship. I am not as bad as I used to be. I mean I used to be super nosey and always checking up on things. But I found that will just hurt the relationship. I used to go through all of his things. But there was never nothing in there that was out of the ordinary. I have not looked in his things in a LONG time.... lol And he has never done these things to me.

I think that I'm the right amount of nosy and so is he. He doesn't pry about my online life and I don't ask him about his job. Mostly cause I don't want to know. His job is very stressful and while I'd love to share his burdens, they are heavy and burden me down. I love him so much and trust him. I'm no fool. I know that men stray. But he is so obvious when he is lying or hiding something and he's a terrible liar. Most men are. You have to know what signs to look for. If a person has to resort to digging through the pants pockets or wallets looking for evidence then most likely they're not good at reading the cheating signs. Thanks for your interesting discussion!

My ex-fiance was extremely nosey, always going through my things and that is because he was guilty of many things. My current sweetie of 5 years is on the nosey side but it's in regards to what is going on in other peoples lives. He doesn't snoop through my things and I don't snoop through his. I am not that nosey because I am a private person and wouldn't want people to be all up in my business eventhough they are (they being my family).

Nope I won't call it nosey as for my spouse. We both don't dig into each other's wallet or even bag unless there's a need to take something maybe exhcange some loose coins or notes. Even then we would just inform each other. We don't go through each other's cell phone messages too like to see who and who text us or even our emails. We just trust each other and talk like after someone called up I would just tell him ....you know this person called up...blablabla and he does the same. Once in a while my husband or me would ask who's that on the line, who sent that mail or who said what...I wouldn't call it nosey I would call it concern.

I have had this happen to me and it does not bother me. If I'm going though his wallet it is because i need money for some thing. He checks my email and I don't care he is more curious then anything. If it is in a hurtful nature it is wrong. no one can live with someone checking up on them all the time. Put your foot down and tell him to stop.

i think i am more of the nosy one here as i am a perfectsionist and i can't stand to see anything that is not right or not in order... but i still respect my hubby and i know my limit... i know what can i do and what i can't do to respect his privacy... my hubby doesn't speak much and he also a very easy going person... so he doesn't intrude much into my life... take care and have a nice day...

we both are.. neither of us really care and are suspicious we just get bored and wanna know what each other are doing

he's really quiet and a bit mundane but that is what sails my boat if you know what i mean