Don't parents teach their kids manners any more?

Oh I understand what you are going through. My daughter is too young to have "visitors" yet but I have friends with kids that are like that. Its one thing if you know the person (very well) and you knock and walk in because they are expecting you, but to just walk into some ones house its uncalled for. I don't even do that to family. I will at least knock and walk in. My suggestion to you is keep your door locked. I agree about the going into rooms too. Growing up I wasn't even allowed in my parents bedroom let alone some one else going in there. You just don't do it. Kids today have no manners. I have 2 neices that come over and destroy things in my house. After the last time I told there mother that from now on we will meet out or at her house. I can't keep up with them. They have NO reguard to what clean is or manners. I had made dinner for them. They didn't say thank you or wipe there dirty grubby hands after dinner then were jumping on my couch. That was the mothers fault too! She should know better. I think that a lot of parents are mannerless so you can't expect much more from there kids. My suggestion to you aside from keeping your door locked is get some paper and write the "rules of the house" down. When a kid comes over tell them - these are the rules of my house you may not do things this way at your house but here we do. If you can't follow them then you can play outside!

Wow, that's pretty bad manners for those kids! Their parents obviously didn't bother to teach their kids and perhaps even spoil their kids by the look of their behaviour. Anyway, perhaps you could do something to really teach these kids proper manners; you could make stricter rules for people entering your home and you could for example keep your door locked and only open when people knock, or you could also make a rule that people who don't abide by the rules of your home will get chased out of your home and "No entry" again until they change their bahaviour. Well, I guess most kids behave like this nowadays is because they think that since they are friends with your granddaughter, that makes them have privileges like your granddaughter has in your home.....overall, I guess parents are just being very negligent in handling their children's attitude these days, and something should be done to bring these parents to awareness.....

I really do not think people take time with their children these days.They are either working and leaving them in day care or else they just don't care...I had 5 children but i was a stay at home mom,and i always knew what my kids were doing..I think people should take time to teach their children manners,a child that comes into the door and will not shut it behind them has not been taught..If this girl spends time with your daughter i would teach her myself,in a nice way..When she comes in the door ,you should tell her shut the door please...Someone will have to teach them if their parents won't.I mean you are not put here to teach other children but while she was at my house i would nicely put down a few rules..

i dont think so. i find that a lot of my daughters' friends (we have two daughters ages 15 and 11) dont know how to even say please and thank you! and yes, some of my older daughters friends have come in without knocking but we soon put a stop to that.

Talk directly to the parent and child and say that you'd like for them to PLEASE..SIT DOWN! That prevents kids from wandering. Make it clear that the room they are in is the ONLY one you entertain guests in. They'll catch on.

Being a parent is the hardest job you will ever have with sometimes very little pay or appreciation. You teach them to say please,thank you, yes mam...etc. You do the best you can. There are and always will be those that will appreciate your teaching and those that go against it..Let your kids know that this is your home not a motel or a restuarant. Dont let your home become the cool house that all the kids hang out at. Make sure your kids have a good group of friends and allow them to come over and hang out at your convience not theirs. Dont be afraid to speak up when they step on your feet or invade your space.. I am not an expert just going trough the same thing here. I have 2 teenage boys.. I am just glad to know it is happening to someone else I thought I was the problem...

indeed. kids nowadays seem to be very unpolite,ruud towards other people but also towards their parents.. they don't listen if their parents tell them not to shout or not to go there..and parents just laugh and say..eh..kids.. what ..kids ?? i was nowhere near like that when i was a child.. one time in a restaurant a waiter came and ask my parents if i am sick ,because i was just sitting at the table watching them dance, while the other kids were making a whole lotta noise on the dance ring, ..so he liked me and took me in his arms and we went to see big parrot cage,i think it was a special room where they had coloured parrots ..it was nice:)

My son has had friends like that over....and when it happens after repeated warnings....I make sure they are not welcome anymore. I've had a sleeping baby and noisy boys running all over the place (which was rule no. 1 being violated...no running inside the house). If I know the mother of the child, I have a talk with them about it (in a nice manner)...if not...I tell my son not to invite his friends home...because my answer is 'No'. I also tell him the reason for it. Sometimes, my son makes sure his friends behave. I've never yelled at the kids...but I've told them firmly what the rules are. But I also have to point out that my son has had some very well mannered kids over too. It's just this concept of 'freedom' that parents give the kids that I don't understand. How will they learn if the parents never teach them to respect another person's space? When my son was younger, I saw him walking into someone else's room when we were over. They didn't mind it...but I did...and I had a talk with him when we got home...and also made him knock at home and wait for an answer before he opened a closed door. At that point, my husband thought I was being too rigid to a child...but now he sees what I meant and is glad I made that a rule.

I know I taught my daughter manners- She is 11 and she knows better than that- Of course if we are some where that she goes often and knows that she can help herself to the fridge or whatever - I have no problem with that. Some of my daughters friends are the same way- It drives me crazy. I don't want to be the cranky mom that the friends hate-- but it's called manners and respect!

It seems like parents these days expect that these things have become the responsibility of the school to teach them. Yes, that's a bunch of crap. More and more, I hear on the news and on talk shows where parents try to shirk the responsibility and blame it on other people, other institutions. It's one thing if you specifically tell one or more children that they don't have to knock when they come over, but the ones that don't bother to do things the right way the first time generally aren't taught any better. You need to find a way of being more firm with those that don't listen so that they fully understand what you expect of them when they are over there. If they can't be respectful and follow your rules, then they don't need to be there.

I know adults that are like that. Who knows what their children will be like . Doesnt appear good so far.

Sounds like some of your untaught child visitors need to be informed on your house rules. While informing them of the rules you can also inform them of repercussions. Such as being banned from your house. Its your house so you will need to be the one to take charge since the parents are either not there or do nothing. If this shituation isnt resolved it could develop into something far worse. They have no respect and it could develop into theft. They say when someone steals from you, its usualy by someone you know and has beeen in your house and knows what you have.

To answer our question, the answer is, "For a good portion, NO!" I have been teaching since 1973 and the amount of manners kids have are less and less each year. Since I do not put up with this stuff, kids without manners learn it really fast in my classes or they are out. Since I teach dance, I can toss any child out of class who is a brat, and I WILL do it if they don't conform. I would have walked that child out the front door and said, "You are no longer welcome in my home unless I get an apology and you learn that you cannot do that again." My kids always had manners, or else, and I never had anyone complain that they didn't. My best behaved students come from other countries. What a sad statement for the USA.

Absolutely, absolutely, absolutely. I would freak out if my children were to go to other peoples homes and behave the way some of the children in our neighborhood do. I always tell our boys to not give anyone a reason to not invite them back. I'm not sure if it's the generation or if it's a lack of parenting but we never did this as children. It was always please, thank you, yes sir, no sir. And as far as going from one room to another that was just a big no no. We have trained (and I don't mean that in a rude way) our childrens friends how to behave when they come over because many of them acted the way you mentioned above. It took about a month or so of them coming over before they realized that our rules were a lot different than their rules. And I am so happy that they all adjusted because they are a great group of kids. Our boys love them and we really like the kids in our home. But there are some children that just won't get it. It make me want to pull my hair out some times. For instance, my hubby worked really late the night before and was sick with the flu. He was up in our room and I went in to check on him. He was finally able to rest and our children had a friend over who was very polite and well mannered. Well another little guy came over and he walked into our house with muddy shoes (all the kids know they are to take their shoes off when entering the house) and he was talking so loud that you could hear him down the block and then to top it off, he came upstairs to where my husband was sleeping (in our bedroom) and flung the door open and walked right in. I was so shocked and very upset, as my husband was. Some kids just don't get it and then when we see how their parents are we understand why they don't

Yes, you are right that some parents forget to teach manners to their children. One should be very particular about inculcating good habits in kids since their childhood. Earlier they learn about good manner, better it is. Some people do not see negative side/points of their kids, thinking that he/she is a kid, with the passage of time, she/he will learn, but they forget that they are supposed to tell a child what are good manners and what are bad manners. We on our part, always tell our kids about manners, hopefully, they will learn most of them, if not all the good manners, but we continue to tell them, if they go wrong anywhere, that they were not right in their approach or behaviour and they need to mend themselves.

Activities in which kids are involved suggest that parents are not teaching any manners to their kids. It is hardly surprising as parents themselves display bad manners. I read somewhere that if you do not teach good manners to your kids then someone else will teach them bad manners.

I must say that i agree with you on this issue. When i was a child my parents thought me not to enter another persons home, unless i was invited in first. If i did something wrong and my neighbor saw they were allowed to discipline me. As a child i had to have respect for other peoples space and property. I also was taught not to wonder around in peoples home nor to just pick up myself and go exploring. If i needing to go to the bathroom ask first, don't just go on my own. Children these days are indiscipline and unmannerly and no longer show respect for their elders. In my country a parent can beat a child,but these days that form of discipline does not seem to be impacting any more. Children are left at home to run around freely with out proper parental supervision. Parent no longer sit down and take the time to train their children. I'm a teacher and even in the school kids bring their poor attitudes. Some kids don't know how to even say good morning or even to sit in a class room and pay attention to their studies. it is sad what is taking place with our kids these days, but manners first starts at home. Parents need to take there responsibility to there kids seriously.

Unfortunately I've noticed that parents these days are often to busy to worry about such things. Kids are growing up, rather than being raised. I know of one woman who has her child in every activity possible. She said she has no time to spend with the child. I asked her why she has done this. Her response - she wants her to be "well rounded." I said well were you in all that stuff as a kid? Her reply no. I said well you seem fine to me. LOL Parents and their schedules don't seem to allow for normal dinners and conversations with their children. I'm happy to see my son is the exception to this with my two grandaughters. Now granted, they aren't angels. LOL But, they do have basic manners and do what they are told. Son told me on the phone just tonight - thanks mom for teaching me, now I can teach my girls. Makes a mom feel proud. :)

hi i have a child of 2 and a half and i live in france if you could see the children in france, most of them don't have respect for their parents so they aren't going to respect other people, but that is the way most of them are brought up, i don't agree with the french way of children, i want my children to come in when they are told and do as they are asked and be polly when asked something, ive already started with my 2and a half when he burps i tell him to say pardon and he does, when we give him somthing he says ta and if he askes for something he says please, i don't think its alot to asked to be respected by your own children

Unfortunately, children seem to have less and less manners as generations pass. There are still a few that are respectful though.