does my husband deserves another chance?

Truth, when they cheat, they never change, If you can live with this then keep him, knowing he is going to cheat on you. yes, he may be good for a little while, however, he will cheat again. Unless, he is able to accept who he is, and gets help, don't expect anything else. It is not like he does not love you. but it is like a person that beats their mate, it happens, and it continues. Good Luck and God Bless What ever you do, know all the facts, look up on the net about cheating mates, self esteem, and other things, I cannot think of off the top of my head.

In my view, it's up to you. Just remember that old saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me." If this is is his first straying, think about forgiving him. If think about forgetting him; just my opinion.

No way. Most people will react like that when someone is leaving them. its the fear of change. my boyfriend and i tried to break up like 5 times. every time we did we got scared because we had been together so long, so we would stay together. but things were bad. finally we did it. They don't say "once a cheat always a cheater" for nothing. in most cases people don't change. if he's already cheated on you more than once he isn't going to stop. you don't deserve to be put through that pain any more. move on and find someone who respects you and loves you the way you deserve.

I imagine his cheating must have been very painful for you. When you say many times, do you mean with many women? If so, you may request that he get some kind of professional help before giving him another chance. If you mean many time with the same women, then you need to address the affair and what that relationship has done to your marriage. Once again, professional help might be required. You are the injured party and only you truly know how much pain you can indure and what he must do to make it go away. Remember how good it felt to have that big release..... and then protect yourself. You deserve to feel that way and not let anyone take it away from you.

Sophie, I am sorry that he did that to you. But, if they do it once, they will continue to do it. I know it is hard to let go. But you deserve not to be hurt anymore.

Make him pay. I'm sorry no woman should ever tolerate your partner cheating on you or vice versa. Its unacceptable. There are really honest and good men out there who would love to have a faithful woman. Girl leave his clothes in the boxes play him a song to on his way out. If he loved you why would he sleep with so many woman and do all sorts of things with these girls. He could bring home something to you and he wouldnt care girl cause he is thinking with whats between his legs.

I was discussing your topic with my boyfriend and heres what he had to say: Don't give him another chance, if he's done it many times before then he can do it again. It gets easier each time. You deserve much better, and over time it'll get easier to forget about him and the pain he's caused you. I obviously agreed with my boyfriend (we're very alike). And you wrote he cannot promise, but he'll do everything to make it work... well, how can you tell he's telling the truth, he clearly cant promise he can make the marriage work. A cheating man is not an honest man. I think if you've given him chances before, he doesnt deserve any more. You're better off without him girl, i know the feeling.

In a simple word: NO! The key words here is that he cheated on you 'many times'. If he had done it once or twice, we are all entitled to second chances, even third ones because no one is infallible, or without faults. But this gentleman has cheated several times and you still put up with it, even though it must have been a very painful, lonely and anxious time for you. That reinforced his actions and encouraged him to keep doing it. Your husband has not treated you with any RESPECT at all, and that is the key part of any relationship. We cannot say that we love someone and don't respect them. That would be shallow and insincere. Once respect goes, it never returns because one party or another begins to take advantage of the other, which your husband has been doing up to now. If you are not sure you are doing the right thing, always trust you instincts. It is a very powerful silent protector and you are acting according to your instincts now. You have had enough and you are doing what you should have done a long time ago, doing something about your life. Do not let self doubt take you back into the abyss. He is feeling insecure and rejected now, but as soon as he feels comfortable again, and someone else catches his eye, he will be back to square one. Only this time he will probably be even more secretive about it. It is not the cheating that should really be cause for concern between you both. That is just a major symptom, a sad consequence of the state of your relationship. What needs looking into urgently is what is wrong with your connection that he feels the constant need to cheat. It could be that he has fallen out of love with you, the attraction is no longer there, he is incapable of true commitment or he is simply a user who doesn't care about your feelings. Whatever the reason, it needs to be addressed, not just the cheating, and you need to let go. You have acted as your head and heart have dictated. Don't go back on it now. Hold your head high and move on with your life. That is the only way you will make yourself available to find someone who truly loves and cares for you. But you won't get that sitting in the same marriage. You will simply get more of the same because he will continue to please himself when the dust has settled. Your pain will simply continue and you will feel even more resentful then when he has broken his promise yet again. I will almost guarantee that! Nothing changes unless we change ourselves. By sticking with him, you are hoping he will change, but he won't. Change will only come with you. Forgive him by all means, but get a new life for you. It's time you had some real loving too and, above all, regain your self respect, even he has none for you. Good luck, but you'll be fine if you follow your instincts.

you have to think many times in this situation, you heard him saying that he says sorry to you for the first time. that is worth enough to give him another chance but after his promise dont let him do what he wants, you have to give him a order or you are now the boss in your family.

Your 20 years old...Do you really want to live like this? I married at 18, he was 19. Within 18 months he started cheating and it was a constant battle for many years. (I was married to him for 19 years) Now when I look back; I see all the years I wasted on this man. He didn't beat me, he didn't call me names, he just didn't have any concept of what being faithful to one person meant. We wont even go into the damage it does when a trust is broken like that. When I would threaten to leave, he would threaten to kill himself, he would get on his knees and pull at my clothes and beg me not to leave him, he would cry and swear he would change, he loved me, yada, yada, yada. His behavior even escalated into other repulsive acts as the years went by. If I had listened to my heart and left him right from the start it would have been much better for me and the children. Instead I listened to what everyone else said. Family, the preacher. I would ask you this, what does your instinct tell you? There is never a reason for unfaithfulness. Sometimes weird circumstances can put us in a postition to do something out of character. But if those circumstances aren't there, and a cheater cheats just for the thrill of it. Then it's time to put them down the road ASAP. You're young, you're beautiful...don't tie yourself to him any longer. He has a problem, it doesn't have to be your problem too.

don't think of the pain, think of the good times you had together and if the pain remains, then it's time to let go

how many times does he ever cheated on you?is this your first time to confront him?there are many things that you have to consider..do you have children..think about them..they sure don't want to grow up without a father..but for me..if that's the kind of father that they will grow up to..i'd rather kick him off our house.. he doesn't deserve to be a father..he needs to grow up!he should be responsible for whatever he's been doing.. and i'm telling you..it will not be the last time he will be cheating you again..he may seems changing..but i'm telling you..it runs in the man's blood..

Give this man, one last chance because he really loves you but he can't resist temptation, and it gets him every time. So what you could do to stop making him cheat on you and break you heart... Is to you know... show him, why he should stay with you only and love you only. Keep your relationship a little more sexier but that is only a suggestion, you must do what is right for you and (if you have any) kids... Just keep on thinking and remember to be sexier hehe... keep him wanting to love you.

I told my husband from the beginning, I won't be cheated on and I won't be hit. Not all men cheat. Why would you give your husband another chance? If he really loved you, he wouldn't have cheated the first time. If he actually told you that he won't promise you anything, he obviously doesn't understand the sanctity of marriage. Pack his bags and get yourself tested. He may have given you more than a broken heart.

We men are weak, even if we stray, it doesnt take away our attchment to our wives, it is a weakness as old as humanity itself-remember the biblical Solomon-he had 800 wives and he loved them all-but that is not say I enjoy this weakness in men-marriage vows must be kept by both men and women-as for your case, please give this man a chance, but most od all, understand his human weakness

I hate to say it but a leaopard never changes its spots. this is a decision you are going to have to make...can you live with his cheating ways? He said it himself when he said he could make no promises. It is just another ploy to have his cake and eat it too if you are willing to serve him his cake then stay if not then get out.

The question is, are you strong enough to deal with another pain that he might caused? If you feel like it, go for it. Another change. But if you just feel like sick of it and "oh please "not again thing" pops up to your heart and head, then don't makes another mistake. Enough

Rip his thing off, and go get yourself another man.

He should be taught lesson. Apart from leaving him you should have slapped him and shunted out from the home. You should not have packed up yourself rather made him to leave. manjeet harjai

you should do what your heart tells you to do. Even if he has asked for one more chance doen't mean that you have to give it. You need to sit down and think about things before you give an answer but go with what your heart wants. Maybe try some consoling or threapy together if you want it to work out.