The Difference of Loving and Being in-love
By selece
@selece (2357)
Philippines
July 3, 2008 10:02am CST
Believe it or not, there is a big difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone. At first I didn't understand but somehow I'm able to grasp what it really means. Although it might be a bit difficult to explain it...
Loving entails compassion, care, and affection towards someone. You wish for that person to be happy at all times, even sacrifice your own for that person. Loving someone is like sharing a part of yourself, understanding and appreciating the other person for who he/she is. I cannot fully imply how it feels to love someone, I hope you guys get my point.
Being in-love entails a surge of excitement or thrill when we see or spend time with that person. He/she becomes perfect in our eyes despite his/her flaws. No matter what, we want to be with that person. We are awestruck by what he/she says or do. It's like as if he/she has a special place in our hearts. There's tingly sensation that surges through our entity when we deal with the person or anything about him/her.
So there, I wish I had been successful in pointing out the difference. Some see it as one thing. Would you rather go for someone you love or someone you're in-love with? I say, we should go for someone whom we love and at the same time in-love with. It should be both because in the end, you'll actually find out that something is missing. To be complete, we should feel both... What do you think?
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16 responses
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
4 Jul 08
Yes. Very true indeed. That would be the ideal. 
Loving is more subtle and passive. You will feel happy whether or not the person reciprocates the feeling.
Whereas Being in love is more active. I always feel Being in love can be temporary.. Since such a feeling can come fast, it might go away very fast too.
Loving is more subtle and passive. You will feel happy whether or not the person reciprocates the feeling.
Whereas Being in love is more active. I always feel Being in love can be temporary.. Since such a feeling can come fast, it might go away very fast too. 2 people like this
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 08
It's a very big different. Being love will gt a lot, but loving may just pay out.
But I hope everyone will be insisted their love, so that the loving person will keep on pay out without receiving.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
4 Jul 08
You have made a very good point and I agree with you completely. I think both are very important also. Take care and have a wonderful day!!
Shelia
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@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 08
You explained it very well, the difference between the 2 states. Well, I would think that most of us start off with that dizzy feeling "in love", and as the relationship grows and survives, the excitement goes off, replaced by something warmer and steadier. Of course,as you said "someone whom we love and at the same time, in love" - that would really be ideal!
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@franze_jeanne (116)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
in my opinion, being in-love is something you feel...it is a great feeling... and it is only you who is disturb....
while loving someone is something you do for the other person...you feel that love and you do something for him/her to show that love...
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
3 Jul 08
Thy are one and the samething-being in love presupposes that you re loving-it is obviously a continuous tense if go by the words loving and being in love!
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I think you have pretty much hit it right on spot. Being in love with a person carries alot of sentiment and actions on our behalf.
This person makes our heart jump everytime we see them.
I'd rather be with the person I'm in love with. And pray that they love me just as much. There is nothing finer than having the person you love to love you too.
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
4 Jul 08
I do get what you are saying but the "being in love" that you described is usually what we feel when a relationship is new and fresh. As time goes on and we get more comfortable with each other, things die down a bit and can routine and even boring at times. IT is easy to take each other for granted. I think if you love the person then you will try to break out of that routine from time to time. If you both love the relationship itself...that is best of all for you will both be committed to keeping it strong. The comfortableness is good....there is nothing like it but you both have to be creative and do things out of the routine to keep it alive.
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
3 Jul 08
I agree with you selece. They both need to be incorporated so that you can get the full effect of a wonderful relationship. I too, know that there is a difference between loving and being in love with someone and yes, a lot of people don't realize that. When you see him\her coming your way and your heart skips a few beats, then you are in love. I love my co-workers, the church members but when I see them, my heart doesn't skip a beat but I am happy to see them. However, when I see the man I am in love with, my whole attitude changes and instantly become happy. Good post selece!
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@paid2write (5201)
•
3 Jul 08
I think you describe the difference very well and I there is another difference between the two. Those feelings of being in love gets less over time and the feeling of loving will grow in strength and will become more important.
A good relationship will have both but the way you feel changes. You may never fall out of love, and you may always be passionate about the one you love, but the deeper feelings will grow stronger and replace the early excitement of new love.
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
4 Jul 08
There are many, many different forms of love. True friendship is one of them and we must have that kind of friendship with the person we are in love with in order to have a complete relationship. I totally agree with you on that point!
You can be in love with someone, but not love them in that "friendship" sense. That relationship will never work, because you have to like that person. How can you be happy with someone you don't like?
Yep, I agree wholeheartedly that you must love and be in love with that person in order to be complete.
@mariamac (145)
• India
4 Jul 08
to be in love and being in-love would be like - to eat and the other to be fed. When u want to eat u would take all the efforts to have a good meal but if u r fed that is loving someone, u try to give the person yr best but the one who is fed may or may not be always happy with you. I am not able to explain it properly but i guess if u think over it u will be able to understand what i want to explain. So yes there is a differnce in loving and being in-love.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
23 Jul 08
That about sums it up. Mind you, I don't think it is possible to be IN LOVE without LOING someone, as you described loving someone. If you have the thrilling feeling without the LOVE hat you mentioned first, it's simply being in LUST, a romantic thrilling feeling with no foundaion. This was a very good explanation. As someone who is in love with someone I love, his says it all.
@selece (2357)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
Hmm... I guess you're right, but sometimes, Lust is also different, because you can actually have a romantic feeling towards someone but not actually to the extent of being a case of lust. It's hard to explain though. It is responses like this that makes myLot a good community. Thanks for sharing!
