You find friends or friends find you?

It's both for me. I sent friend requests to those who responded on my discussion and to those whom I responded too, they sent me friend requests. It's the same with my other site. But most of the time I wait to be requested. LOL. In real life, I'm like you, I am not the one who initiates, I just wait for friends to come to me. But if I really want to meet someone, I do initiate. Happy posting. HUGZ.

I'm a bit shy in real life - but I have made a few friends requests on myLot. The worst that can happen is they say 'no' - but nobody has yet! It's nice when people sent a friends request - cheers me up!

Mine are a mixture of ones I have sent and ones sent to me. I don't usually send a friend request unless I notice someone starts a lot of discussions I'm interested in. I can never think of anything to start discussions about normally. I don't openly seek out friendships offline but I'm a friendly person. I have a lot of acquaintances but just a handful of people I consider close true friends.

When i returned to mylot after a few months of hibernation... i logged in with 1 friend request... from that friend... i learned that in order for me to interact more with other members and to have more response to my discussions... i need to have a lot of friends of my own... so i started inviting as many as i could... and from there... i met a lot of nice people from different parts of the world... Right now... i rarely invite others to be my friend... but i always get a friend request...

Hi richiem, I guess we have the same scheme it comes to mylot and to real life. I'm also the one who sent friend requests and only few I received from others. Its really a big help here in mylot to have friends. To ask them information and advices. In real life I believe some of our help will bring us sometimes to the bad times and to some bad places to make fights. I believe thats not real friendship, its just a gang and nothing more.

Initally when i joined mylot, i'm the one who adds other mylotters as frenz.. Bur as time goes by, most people are adding me instead.. hehe But in real life, i dun make frenz easily.. Normally i will wait for people to initiate a conversation friendship.. haha

To be honest I don't believe I have ever even made a friends request?? Maybe once or twice in the very beginning? I do accept pretty much any request I receive though and it is very rare that I will remove anyone from my friends list too. The only time I do remove people is when they start spamming me with invitations to join other sites with their referral links etc. In my real life I have no issues with getting on with most people; but I also would not consider myself to be overly social either. I am certainly not shy and am quite capable of talking to anybody at any time. I guess that given the hours I work and the travel I have to do I respect and enjoy my quiet time!

Most of my new friends requested me. But for my older friends, I was the one to request them. Whenever I like the way a person answers a post, I send out a friends request.

I easily give my friendship to everybody. But then I learned my lessons very well. I can offer them my friendship but they have to prove that I can give them also my full trust and loyalty. I have many and had friends. But the latter just proved that they will only call your name if they need you the most and if not,most of the time they will just ignore you.

On mylot its ususally me who has sent a friend request though I received quite a few as well. Other than mylot I have only a few online friends. In real life I do not ususally initiate a friendship.

Hi, I am very choosy when it comes to friends. I always take a long time to choose and send friendship request. But mostly I get friendship requests from the mylotters who have been in my mind for sometime. Just before I send them, they send me one. So anyway the deed is done. I accept their request and that is it.

Most of the friends that I have here at mylot and some other social network sites are requests that people sent to me. =) It kind of gives me warm fuzzies because I don't suppose I'd get the requests if people didn't read my posts and like what they saw. As far as other sites, I tend to be added by people who see me in their friends' lists, so I am a mutual or common denominator among many friends. In face to face life, most of the time I am one who initiates. I used to be shy and I did not put myself out there. There was a point in time where I realized I was not going to get what I wanted out of life if I continued that way, and I faced my fears and stared them down. I took a speech class where I had to get up in front of people and talk while they stared at me. I took drama where I had to go learn lines and dress up and perform in front of people - in character - and remember my lines too. I started noticing other people who were sitting off to the side, in the corner, and away from the center of attention and I started drawing them into the circle, getting them to talk. I am not a typical hostess... while I do like to get around and talk to everybody, my general intent is to get everybody introduced to each other and get them all to start talking. Then I can go find somebody that *I* want to get to know better and go away from the crowd for a little one on one. No funny business people! I just figure if everybody else is relatively comfortable, then they don't need me, I can focus my attention elsewhere.

i usually request friends on mylot, but in life i usually will not go out to get new friends...

I waited for people who sent me the friend's request before . But now I find out that we should make friends by ourselves if we want to . I hope I can get along with anyone who regards me as a friend.

most of the time, i accept friends request here rather than sending one... i hardly send friends' request here and i prefer to accept one rather than send one... but i do send some friends' request to those people who i already know from here and responded most of their posts... take care and have a nice day...

friends find me. in mylot i have more than 650+ friends. i can say 99% of them added me. i added very few of them.its nice to get friend's request. i accept all.

I treasure friedship, though Friends are not fixed, they come and go. But as much as posible i focus on internal connections wherein I care every moment that i have with my friends. I make him/her comfortable when he/she is with our group. Who inititated the move? Bothways! There are instances that i have to initiate because i feel i like person... but in most cases i really love to trasure the bravery of those people approaching me because they are real person worth of companionship. Thanks to you & God Bless!

Usually people have to send me friend requests, in real life usually people have to initiate a friendship with me too, I'm kind of stand offish. However I also have a thing with online friend requests, because a lot of the time people are just collecting friends, to see who is the most popular. Personally I want to have friends I actually talk to. I have so far accepted all the friend requests on here, but on other sites I usually just turn them down, because they build up and I don't even talk to them. Personally I want people who are going to actually talk to me, and I make an effort with talking to them too usually, but when they totally ignore my messages I hit the delete button.

all my friends are requesting me at the moment lol i still have some waiting. but most the time i have to have spoken and got on with that person to accept their request. i wait til i think i might get on well with the person befor i request them. it varies in real life, im quite a loud person and seem to attract people.

Untill now friends find me. I am new in mylot, and I did not begin yet to search for friends that I will first make the request for friendship. So I am grateful for those who offered me their friendship here. THANKS!!