Early marriage or late marriage?
By yenwie84
@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
July 4, 2008 7:13am CST
Which one better actually? Is it better to get married when you are young or when you are mature enough? For me, I think when everything is stable(financial,relationship,career), then it's time for a couple to get married. What do you think? Any factors to consider some more? People always say, the good thing to get marry early is by the time you are still young, your children are big enough to take care of themselves,so by that time, you can enjoy life. Is it true? Or the other way?
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18 responses
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
4 Jul 08
I think if you find someone you love and want to spend your life with,you should get married whether you are younger or older,just make sure that you are financially stable enough to handle it,and make sure you are responsible enough to handle it too.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
5 Jul 08
I agree time is not,and should not be a factor when it comes to getting married,have a great day,good luck in your life and good luck with all the goals you set for yourself,and Happy Posting.
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@nandigamharika (159)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Inorder to get married there are lot many factors to be taken into consideration
Firstly,you should see the age of both the people who are going to marry,then you should see the age gap between them-it should not be too long.
Secondly,the person who is going to marry is ready to manage that girl with his earnings or not.
thirdly,whether both the candidates are matured enough to lead the life or not.
Age is also one of the important factor that has to be taken into consideration.At the age of 22 for a girl and 25 for a boy is right time to get married.
After that age,children born to them may not be that effiecient as you think at the early age.
so all this factors include in early maariage or late marriage which is an important part in life time.Wise decision has to be taken for this.
@nandigamharika (159)
• United States
6 Jul 08
ya what you sald is right in only some conditions like joining in an institution,going for a job,health care etc,because these are only part and parcel of our life.But when you come to the situation like marriage you should see all this conditions inorder to avoid a future problems and you should not think in future that" arey i did a mistake"
so, i think there should be minimum approach before you decide for a marriage.
You will agree with my opinion i think!
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 08
I remembered my colleague told me,she said that sometimes when you plan a thing too long,it will make you think too much and you will not have the courage to move forward. In the end,you might lose something important in your life,maybe you will have the chance once more or you will never have it again.Is it true?
@aryajayaprakash (1643)
• Japan
5 Jul 08
I married when I was at my 30. After living with her, now I feel, I should have married her earlier, so that we could live more together. (My better half is not near to me and right now she is far away from me !)
It depends Yenwie84.
@sweethomecatring (1563)
• India
6 Jul 08
I think by the time one get adjusted socially/financially and has fulfilled liabilities towards parents/society/ can get married with spouse like minded.
manjeet harjai
@zhaosonghan (1039)
• China
5 Jul 08
If we consider the normal life that we should have enough economic capability and we can pay for the cost of daily, then we could get married and we can buy hourse, have a good work, get a good salary. but sometimes a good married is not only a good standard of living, wife and husband are happy together, it's important . I consider that when we are enough mature and get married, it's a good time for me, you must choose it by yourself with your condition.
@anjalirawat29 (119)
• Singapore
5 Jul 08
see i got married so early like i was 21 when i got married and at that time i used to say that it is very unfair that my mom and dad you know they told me to get settle down have babies and all that stuff but really now i have realised that they were right because if you get married on time everything goes smooth you do not have to face problem in conceiving babes as we all know that after certain age you actually face problems when it comes to get pregnant.....
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
5 Jul 08
A later marriage is probably better because both people involved have had time to think it through. Again, marriage is a big deal. It is a huge step. That is the person that you are going to be with for the rest of your life. Honestly, I do not believe in divorce because it is expensive and messy, and if you did not want to be married to that person, well, you should have thought about that before making that kind of committment. Marriage has become such a joke thanks to divorce and the way people get married now a days.
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 08
I think if you planning to build up a family with children, it's better to get married earlier, before 30 year old.
The couples nowadays getting married late. The people nowadays mostly are educated. They will have their own planning, either early marriage or late marriage will be planned nicely.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
Late marriage is the best for me because you are matured enough to face family life. Early marriage
usually don't last long or work out well.
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
It doesn't matter how early or how late to get married. What matters for me is someone you love and being ready for the next step of your life. That is being wholly stable and willing to accept each ones differences. That's the time I would get married.
@twistershot (736)
• India
5 Jul 08
It's depend on the condition, it depends on the situation, some times very important to get marry for settle the life,but one thing is very important for marriage, you have to establish your financial status, or some get good job, these two things are very important for married life, along with that age must be mature condition, otherwise many things have to know for happy life with partners. some times late age mean it, but not soo late period it may effect the childrens life, so marriage should be on time.
@pitchblack (4)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
For me, it is not a question of whether you marry at an early age or get married late. What matters most is that two individuals, a man and a woman so deeply rooted in love, willing to offer each other as a sincere gift of self, and able to withstand the trials of the relationship before and most especially during the marriage.
Although some marriages will have some difficulties especially if both spouses are not financially and emotionally stable. But these things (financial and emotional instability) are not permanent. Couples have this what we call a change in outlook and perspective. They will eventually cope with this crisis.
@chandan3371 (35)
•
5 Jul 08
late marriage becz of we can bright our carriers before marriage. so that's whay i like just late marriage.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
4 Jul 08
Marriage should neither be early no late-it should be at the right time-early marriage is dangeous to young mothers, late marriage gets a toll on the virility of men-men are at their best sexually when in the youthful years-lat marriage oms with reduced libido.
@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
I think, more than age, what really matters is the maturity level and the preparedness. You're right, stability in finances, career and the relationship is important. May I just add that some other things that need major consideration are: communication, alignment of values, principles, religious beliefs and practices, and other similar things. Minor ones are: hobbies, vices, wants, etc.
@mariechin (426)
• Philippines
4 Jul 08
Factors to consider would include, ehem, if the person is capable of having a child. hehehehe. What i mean is that if you reach the age 30 you are at risk of having a child with chromosome disorder. You should be aware also of the financial stability.. With our growing world, financial stability is not actually stable.. You should have extra extra income... And of course I'm not that religious but you will know that God gave you that feeling of "Sparks..." Hehehe...
@kiley4 (72)
• United States
5 Jul 08
First I'd like to say that just because you are married doesn't mean you have to have children. Sometimes circumstances deem it best to NOT have children.
I'd say maturity is essential.
If you are mature enough you'll KNOW whether or not you're ready. If you are mature enough to ask your parents or other persons much older than you whether or not you are ready for marriage and they give you a positive answer, go for it. If they tell you you have something to work on, work on it.
True as a first-timer you'll have a lot of things that are new that others haven't experienced, but if you're too immature to take counsel that you're NOT ready to get married, you're NOT ready to get married.