I just lost my baby...
By lilianaboca
@lilianaboca (414)
United States
52 responses
@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Im sorry to hear you lost your baby. I know exactly how you are feeling. I lost my daughter last year and I just had one year anniversary since she passed away. I want you to tell you that your baby is in better and will be happy all the time.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Was your baby born? I couldn't imagine the pain that would have been to have held her, lived with her, have known her...I could not survive that!
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I am so sorry to hear that...I´ll keep her in my prayers...I am really so sorry to hear that...
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I agree...I think...I don't think I could survive a loss of a child you got to spend time with...
@Sheila_Abram (1908)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I am weeping with and for you at this moment. I am so sorry to hear this has happened to you. But, remember this child is in heaven with God and from some reason God chose your child to be with him right away. But, in the Bible it says you will be joined with this child when you get to heaven. Hold your head high and know that low and behold He is with you always even until the end. God Bless Jesus loves you and so do I.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
3 Nov 06
Thank you SO much! Reading your post really made me feel loved...I really need that. Although I keep asking God why he would do such a thing, I know deep down in my hear that it was for the best and God knows why he does things. Thank you for shareing your love with me. Even though I don't know you, I could feel the warmth and love in your words. God bless you as well!
@vickilouise85 (95)
• United States
3 Nov 06
With my first pregnancy I miscarried twins...to bring you hope for the future... I now have a beautiful 15 month old daughter! She is healthy and happy! There really are no words out there that can comfort you. If you are looking for a shoulder to cry on I'd be happy to listen to you...I wish I could offer you some uplifting words however, I remember after I had my miscarriage everyone tried to give me words of comfort and all it did was make me mad...they meant well but I was not ready to hear it. If you need to talk I'm here!
@vickilouise85 (95)
• United States
5 Nov 06
You will have that one day too hun! It's hard to be able to believe something like that but you will be happy again!
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Thank you SO much! I needed someone that knew the feeling. I also get very angry when people try to confort me. I feel like they don't know the feeling and they just need to leave me alone! I'm sorry about your twins. I hope your daughter has come to give you the light that you lost when you miscarried. How I would like that right now....
@citygirl (1080)
• Canada
5 Nov 06
that is one of the hardest things in the world to deal with I know. I lost my baby at 18months. It is many years ago now but it never goes away. In time it does get easier and better but only time eases the pain. Keep your self busy, don't let your self dwell on it in you mind. Don't watch sad shows or listen to sad songs. Do let your self cry. do let your self get angry but only once. Keep your chin up and I hope you have some support near you. God bless and keep your chin up
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
OMG!! I am so sorry!! You met your baby and held him/her in your arms!! And here I am crying and feeling sorry for myself when maybe your pain was greater because you did give birth. I am so sorry! I will try not to be so selfish...
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I lost my twin boys in my fifth month of pregnancy. A friend of mine told me that "they will know you in heaven". Later we released balloons with their names on them. It helped a lot with the grieving process. You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
5 months!! I'm crying just knowing that you had them 3 months longer than I had mine. I can't imagine the pain...Would it have been the same no matter how long you had them? Does it hurt more because they were 2? I have been trying to connect with my husband but I keep getting angry. I am praying for God to give me the strength to let him in so we can both cry together...
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
5 Nov 06
By the way...I shut my husband out for a while too. It was a mistake.It took a long time to get back on track in our marriage. In hindsight, if I had let him just hold me while I cried, it would have gone a long way in making him feel that he was helping me get through it.
Try really hard not to shut your husband out. Talk to him about how you are feeling. He is grieving too. If you stay connected with him through this, it will make your marriage stronger in the long run.
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
5 Nov 06
im truly sorry for your lost
and i will like to offer a hug to you
What's in a hug?There's something in a simple hug
That always warms the heart;It welcomes us back home
And makes it easier to part.
A hug's a way to share the joy
And sad times we go through,
Or just a way for friends to say
They like you 'cause you're you.
Hugs are meant for anyone
For whom we really care,
From your grandma to your neighbor,
Or a cuddly teddy bear.
A hug is an amazing thing -
It's just the perfect way
To show the love we're feeling
But can't find the words to say.
It's funny how a little hug
Makes everyone feel good;In every place and language,
It's always understood.
And hugs don't need new equipment,
Special batteries or parts -
Just open up your arms
And open up your hearts.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
You are right. But during this time, it makes me feel better to hear from others that have gone through the same thing or just talk to others that don't know exactly what I am going through. Advice from my loved ones right now only turns my grief into anger and I don't want that. I'm sorry if you can't understand this...I won't say that you don't know how it feels until you go through it because I would never wish this pain on anyone...
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Sometimes it helps to talk to people when you are grieving. Don't judge too harshly. Until you have lost a child, you can not understand.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
3 Nov 06
Yeah, but sometimes I feel like he is not there and he is playing a bad joke on me...
@chebel82 (417)
• United States
4 Nov 06
you shouldn't feel like that cuz, he has a plan for every one of us, and from time to time he needs to test our faith in him,and we should be able to trust in him that there is a silver lining in every cloud, so keep your head up and he won't let you down, just remember him every day and thank him for another day lived. I'm sorry u had to go through this, and I pray for you and ur lil one tonight.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Thank you! You words do bring peace to my mind and heart. I believe in God deeply and know he has a plan for me. But its hard...
@AprilNicole1983 (564)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm not even sure of what to say to you as I can not imagine being in your shoes. I hope you are able to feel at peace of knowing that your baby is in a good place now.
@nicky35 (747)
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5 Nov 06
you poor thing thats just terrible,i hope you find a light at the end of the tunnel,i wish i could give you some magic words to make the pain go away but i cant,maybe councelling,talking to friends,e mailing me if you like.did you have a miscarraige?i hope youre o.k.where are you?take care.x
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I'm sorry for your pain. Your experience with your baby has uplifted your life because you have grown spiritually and emotionally, and you still grow. The unconditinal love you feel for your baby is love from God. Allow God to love you. You will see your baby again one day...and until then, your baby is always with you in your heart.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
4 Nov 06
I am so so very sorry for you. If it helps your baby is with Jesus, someday you will get to se your baby again. This past year has been a horrible year for my family. My husband recently passed away. And also my granddaughter lost her first baby. I was looking forward so much to having a great grandchild.
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I am SO sorry for your loss...I could not imagine losing my husband and great grandchild so closely together... I just couldn't. I will pray for you I promise...God bless you!
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I try to everyday. Its hard but I think I am improving quite a bit. Thanks!
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
4 Nov 06
Not really, all I can say is that you have to move on with your life.
@Thewishlady (1057)
• Netherlands
5 Nov 06
OMG that must be soo hard,.. I am very sorry to hear this....
I wish you all the strength in the world and my thought are with you!!
Take Care,
Hugsss
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Thank you so much. Even virtual hugs help me alot. Thanks!!
@blondegirl1975 (4298)
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5 Nov 06
Oh i am very sorry, i really dont know what to say but please it will get better for you,
I am sorry that is really sad but you will be happy again in time. You will never forget but you will get happy again
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I sure do hope so. This crying all day and not being able to sleep at night is really killing me. My eyes are so swollen I can't even see sometimes...
@gittabest (1946)
• Iceland
4 Nov 06
I am so sorry for you, I don't know if it will help but
I am sure your baby will be waiting for you in heaven, don't worry you will see your baby again one day.
Knowing this has helped me with losing people I love.
I also hope God will help you get through this.
Bye
@lilianaboca (414)
• United States
5 Nov 06
Thanks! I know God had a bigger and better plan for my baby. I just need to learn to accept how things turned out...