Men are from mars,women are from venus....

Even if society insist that men and women are equal, facts remain that the two genders are really different... physiologically-wise and history-wise. According to the books of Pease&Pease, men have male instincts while women have female instincts. During the cave periods, men go out in the field for days to look for food, they are seperated from their families for a long time.. they hunt animals in broad fields, they tend to immitate animal sounds and looks to catch them... in this way, and through the centuries, men have developed long-sight vision [able to see places/things from afar and not those near them], they are practical, they communicate through what they sense and not through what they feel emotionally, they seldom communicate or show affections to love ones but they do love them.... while women, when their men are away, they protect their nest/cave/dwelling/home... they seek to it that the area surrounding their abode is secured and maintained, they take care of their children, being able with their blood-relatives at all times, being able with children at all times, she fed her children and her man.... Through this, as centuries pass, women developed short-range vision [being able to see and feel their surroundings], they are emotional, they can detect the slightest changes inside their house, they can detect the slightest changes in their kids, they can even detect the slightest emotional changes in other people, they know that something is bothering her child even if she's not told about it. Of all these differences, the one that amuses me s the example of long-range and short-range vision difference s in both genders. It's amazing how men couldn't find the butter that's just in front of them in the fridge, while being able to locate the nearest local bar. It's amazing how women can see the smallest dirt in the house while mane are not able to park their car properly. I guess men and women will be at peace if they're both able to compensate with each other. In a fight, a silence by the man would mean "I need some time alone." For women, it means "I'm mad and I want you to comfort me now." WHen the man is silent, the woman who dont understand the man would think "oh, my man must be mad and he needs my comfort." And thus, the women makes attempts to comfort the man, to which the man would get annoyed because his silence really means "leave me alone, i need time to think." and vice versa.

I've always known men to be simple minded, they dont think they might hurt you, so they do what they do (unless they're just spiteful). I understand my boyfriend, sometimes we have our little *misunderstanding* moments but part from that we get each other better then a knife and fork. I understand why he does/says what he does, but i dont understand the reasoning. WHY he didnt think-sorta thing.

I doubt if it is possible for complete understanding between the sexes, but with some patience and work communication can certainly be very good. Recognizing there is a difference in the way we think is an important first step! Another help is to agree to disagree. That means not caring which one is "right" but appreciating that each one may have different opinions as well as viewpoints. Practice using "feedback" listening. (It slows down conversation a lot, but really improves understanding.) Feedback is restating (not repeating) in your own words what you think your partner said. You'll be surprised how often we "hear" things wrong! Good luck and God bless.

Each of us are different. We have our own opinions on different things and we understand each other on different levels. I'd say what we really need is "Open communication". A simple honest to goodness communication with one another. But of course, it may not work with everyone. Sometimes it's how we deliver the message that gets the other party confused. But at least, being true and being yourself would help a lot. Hey, I dunno but I'm just guessing. I've heard that somewhere before. What women want? "If men are from mars and women are from venus" it may not be exact but the continuation was ", and you're the only man who speak venutian, you can rule the world."