Woe is me.. and other annoying discussion topics

Depends on my mood for that day but Ill usually respond if I am feeling talkative and refrain if I am just checking in for a minute and just leave it alone. I think there is a group of posters that use the computer to have someone to confide in them and thats their comfort where as others us other means like eating or reading a book or exercise, guess its the same idea not really sure. But if I feel the person is genuine and not trying to stir up negativity then I dont mind offering my sympathy. You can usually tell the ones who are going to take your opinion to heart and take something out of it and the others that are not interested in listening but hearing themselves.

For the most part I ignore those discussions. I'm like you, they are just looking for sympathy, and I figure they really don't want opinions of what to do if they don't even take the time to reply back to the ones that take the time to post to their discussions. I would rather be a part of 'upbeat' discussions, there are so many people that use the internet just to get sympathy, or to stir up drama, or complain about all the drama in their life. If someone honestly has a problem and states the problem and asks for advice or help with it then I'll be more than happy to help out if I feel I have something to add.

No! I don't answer. In fact, I rarely notice them. I just sort of read the headline and if it sounds anything like what you mentioned, then I don't check out the discussion.

I try to help if I think the person genuinely wants to solve their problem. Funny, you're my second friend today who has commented on the negativity of discussions today. Maybe the heat is getting to everyone, it's starting to be a hot and muggy summer.

I'd probably give sympathy initially and try to cheer the person up - but if I noticed the person was a 'serial offender' and kept posting the same sort of thing, I'd probably end up ignoring them. If they just wanted to wallow in their own misery, I'd leave them to it. I think you'd get to know that sort of person after a while.

I mostly ignore them, especially if they seem to do it a lot.

If I don't think that something is worth responding to, I just ignore it. People are always going o post crap like tha. I really can' give sympathy to an almost-total-stranger, beccause I really wouldn't know what to say to them.

Hi dizzblnd, I have not encountered those topics but if ever I will, I do know if I will be dropping my responses, not unless if they are seeking for an advice..LOL!

I have become rather selective of the discussions I respond to, as the whole discussion can become deleted and we also want to generate more conversation, not less!

I ignore them only because I know my sarcastic side will prevail. LOL

I do not respond to them. I do not feel that those kind of discussions were what was intended when they developed this site and I don't understand why people think they should get paid for discussions of that kind.

You answer them because even if they're not coming right out and asking for advice: they really are.

It depends on the post and the emotions I sense behind it. Sometimes people need a good whine. I know I do now and then. If they make a habit out of it I may try and perk them up a bit. If someone sounds seriously depressed I will lend an "ear" and see if I can help. Now, for those who start multiple posts complaining about the same issue, I have no patience for that. Complain, and move on. LOL

I will respond to this types of discussions depend on how he/she expresses the feelings. I will see whether it's real to deserve my sympathy or not. If the person write a long description and it seems real then of course I will respond to it. Everyone is looking forward to be responded by others,if can make others happy, I think is not a big deal for me.

Some of them I will answer but if I see a pattern then I will just blow it off as them trying way too hard to get attention. That is happening right now and I just wish that person would grow up already. The point has been proven and they just need to move on.

i do answer them if i feel i know something about the topic and i only answer those ones. this is because sometimes i will ask questions (because mylot is so varied and the people come from all walks of life) it is good to get other people's opinions.

dizzblnd sometimes I do if the person seems to be genuinely'looking for some help but if its a pity party no I just go past for something I am interested in. I like to help others but do not like to be just dumped on for no other reason than somebodys rant for the day. I could rant all day myself but prefer to fight my own battles instead.

Hello dizzblnd, there are persons who lack self esteem and because of this they are unable to have a decent conversation without involving themselves in the negative way. There are person who live with their significant others who tends to put them down and in doing this they are unable to move away from this. We need to not sympathize but instead counsel those persons who are putting themselve in a hole. Sometimes when we are blunt and truthful it will be hurtful but still this will make this person see the damage that they are doing and eventually wake up out of their slumber. Having self esteem is wonderful but thinking negativeness can get you sick and depress each day of your life.

Thankfully, I have yet to see those kinds of discussions here on myLot.. maybe I just didn't choose the interests they like to post in. But even if I did see them, I would ignore them. They're seeking attention and validation- and through the internet, which is sort of sad. I could be more understanding if the person was seeking advice on, say, how to use beauty products/fashion tips on how to look better/how to lose weight or tone up... that sort of thing. But just whining is annoying.

Based on what I learned on college, it is best to ignore these types of individuals. Replying to these types of posts only encourage them to post some more of the same type of discussions, and I don't think a lot of us from MyLot would like these types of close-ended discussions flooding the system. I'm not being mean to them and I do understand their pain, but everyone has their own problems. I suggest these people quit whining, move on, and ask for help. The friendly MyLot community would be more than happy to do so.