I am not going to change who am I just to please anybody.

i definitely won't change myself just to please anybody... never ever... i am me and i am a unique creation of God... so if people want to make friends with me, accept me for who i am... not for who i am not... i don't like people who ask me to change for the sake of them... we have personal identity and that is what make us unique... otherwise, if people are all the same, this world will be a very boring place to live with... take care and have a nice day...

For me, a change means that there is something of value why you are changing your way. Like for example you want a new house.... What is the value of it? Well it is for my family to stay and live comfortably. You try to change your attitude like saving money for it to be achieved accordingly. You have to sacrifice something in exchange for it. Another when you want a BF, what is the value of it? Maybe because I want to share my love to a special man/woman and have a family. This examples are changes that you accept and openly do because there is a value behind the change. So when you are ask to change your ways don't just resist but be open and challenge yourself if the change have any value at all with you?

You are right. It is for everyone of us to choose what we want, decide what we need and do things towards achievement of goals set by us. All said and done, it is nice to hear about me, myself, mine, I am etc. but then, a man cannot live without the help of others in one way or the other. Therefore, there are some things in our life, like ADJUST, ACCEPT AND APPRECIATE. Therefore a wise man always listen to others (rather than advising others) and it is he who always gets the best. This enriches his knowledge about life and the way it has to be carried out.

hi grecy! i agree. we shouldn't change ourselves just to please everybody. because we can't please everybody! they would always see a flaw in and unless they accept us for what we are, they wouldn't be satisfied with us. and they would continue to tell you to be like this and like that. if they want us to change a bad attitude, if they want us to change for the better, then that is acceptable. they can help us do that. but if they want us to change even if we are not hurting anybody or we are not offending anybody, then i think that's too much. they are the ones who should change for being nosy and for minding other people's business. and besides, they should look at themselves in the mirror first before pointing the flaws of other people. last last week, i just got annoyed with some guy because he was telling me that i should be like this and like that and i should stop being like this and like that. the nerve! i wasn't even being mean to anyone! i wasn't even offending anyone! i got really mad. that's one thing i really hate.

Hi Sweet I can only say that you are a special person. You are sweet and loving and if that isn't good enough for your friend ... than she isn't much of a friend! Hugs Darling oxxoxoxoxo

I think you are right. You can't please everybody so I think it's better to please at lease yourself. It's very hard to be not yourself just to please someone and I think that's the problem with most people. They tend not to accept individual differences because they think that they are greater than you.

You should never have to change who and what you are. You are who you are and nothing can change that. These people who attempt to be like everyone else have problems.

Be your self!