Not His Fault??!!??

I think your right no spouse can be seduced against their will, he must have been looking for something on the side.

Good day...Do oil mix with water? of course not it's unacceptable otherwise cheating your spouse is not a sin/crime because it's excusable, they're not at fault, they're just seduced. And they should be pitied because they are the victims.

excuse me??? i find it as a very lame excuse to say that you are being seduced and that is the reason you have an affair... if everybody can use that excuse to cover up their adultery sin, then what this world is going to be??? i agree with you... you choose to be seduced or not be seduced... it is entirely your choice and nobody can force you... so you can't say that you are being seduced if you commit this sin... it is just an excuse... and i find it hard to forgive my hubby if he commits this sin... take care and have a nice day...

Heck no! Last time I checked no person was able to be seduced by another person. They're not a butter dish (which someone could easily remove from your house and it has no mouth either to object) after all. I think like you that this woman just wants to find a reason to justify her husbands actions. He probably will do it again as she's such a doormat and will put up with it.

That is quite a cop out. Anyone can control having an affair. Don't put yourself in the position and it won't happen. I can't believe someone would actually believe an excuse like that, but I guess some people refuse to see the truth. If I were married and my husband cheated on me I might try to work it out if I had kids. If I didn't have kids I'd make him hit the road.

Not his fault in a pig's eye! spit! I suppose my X's bed trompings were not his fault either! puke puke I'm sorry but that makes me sick. I hope like me she kicks his lying as5 to the curb and never takes him back... I might feel alone at times but I'm not awake at night wondering where he is!

Even with the most artful seduction, the person can leave if they want to, they aren't forced into a cheating situation. Everybody likes the ego boost of being in a seductive situation, but the person I really admire is the one that can close the door because they know seduction is not a winning situation. Victims of seduction are not victims at all they are people looking for the greener grass that isn't there, they are people capable of self delusion and they are liars. Once you stray you pay and that is how I see it.

oh my goodness i can't believe someone actually said that. how can someone be not responsible for having an affair? it's not as if he is raped or something. this is totally ridiculous! i'll never accept a lame excuse like this. it takes two hands to clap and certainly more than that to have an affair. i pity the wife whose husband can't even be bothered to think of something better to appease her. ;[

As I have long said, if my brains were continually getting squeezed between my legs I might act the same way. LOL

It takes two to tango, an affair cannot start without two willing parties. But let me just say that I understand why she would say that it was not his fault, because she wants to forgive him and so to tell herself this would make it easier to believe. She is not the only one who does this, I too have done this. My hubby cheated on me for a year, I forgave him and am still with him I told myself for a long time it wasnt his fault it was hers. I know that it is not true but at the time it made it easier to deal with made it easier to stop the hurt somehow. If it happens again, then I will leave but I decided for my own reasons to give him another chance, the whole thing was complicated and a mess, but a year and a half on we are doing well and so that is what matters.

whiteheather thats one really lame dumb excuse,she made me do it, right . I dont think so. If my husband had done that to me I would say , there is the door, dont slam it on your way out, and don't have a nice day. ta ta. ex husband. The only time anything close to that happened to me was the bit** who grabbed myhusband, threw her arms around him and kissed him, and when I blew up he claimed she kissed him, not the other way around, but I told him I did not ever want to see her again or see her do that again, or you do that again, and I told this married woman with her dumb husband looking on that she would keep her hands off my husband or I would deck her, I really meant it too.they all looked at me in shock,me, meek and mild. lol.

Hi, I totally agree with you. It takes two people to do the deed and unless there is rape involved, no male or female can be seduced against their will. They always can say no, but it sounds like to me in this case, they went ahead and did it anyway. She can forgive him, but can't say it wasn't his fault. Have a great day! Char :-)

Hello whiteheather39, What a excuse I'll tell him to go live with the girl and don't come back and yes I agree no amount of seducesing will work unless you are willing, well you know what they say about men? they only have brains in their trousers. Regards Tamarafireheart.

That is a hilarious excuse, now who exactly put him in a position to be seduced? Himself I bet. I wouldn't accept that excuse, but if he could give me a good one, I might be willing to negotiate on the forgiveness part. I understand things happen in relationships, but if he can't tell her why he really cheated maybe the lack of communication is the problem in the first place!

its a big no for me i guess..and its funny a man not willing and yet it happened and bloom into an affair..thats absurd!!maybe i will forgive him but had to part ways ...

Oh yeah sounds like something my husband would say!! L-A-M-E!!!

That is the lamess excuse.I dont like when people cheat.To me it seems they have no respect for their significant other and dont care about thier feelings.I have known women to put up with it though.My cousin's husband beat her and broke her toe and she still wanted to go back with him when he left her for another woman.My aunt said that she should have let him be with the other women and that she would have been better off.Thanks goodness her kids were taken away and put into homes.I would horrible and bad if I did something like that.I would never do that to my husband.I think the husband that had the affair it was his fault as well.I think he had it in system that he has been wanting to do that for a good while.

Um, no. That's the lamest excuse ever. Hasn't he heard of resisting temptation and getting the heck outta there? Dude wanted to be seduced. His poor wife!

That isnt an excuse and its not acceptable. I would have a very hard time forgiving a man for cheating on me. A guy who cheats is obviously open to the idea even if he isnt the one doing the seducing.

I had heard several times about that.They they were seduced that they have to stand for being a men.Well, i don't believe it.He can avoid if he wanted to.The fact is he also like what happened and not anyone's fault but theirs.