Break up or persist?

Hi ifglan, Parents always like that. my parents before dont like my boyfriend who is now my husband, but i proved to them that my boyfriend is a very nice man and hardworking also. Dont be sad, just explain to your parents and proved to them that even though your boyfriend is just a poor person, he is still willing to work hard for your future. thanks and i hope you will be ok soon.

HI Ifglan, Your parents are just worried about your future. If you and your boyfriend can come up with a plan for your future and are both willing to work at it, your parents would probably feel better about you and your future. If you and your boyfriend are hardworking you will be able to have a furture.

I really feel for you, it is hard when family are against a relationship, for whatever reasons. We get torn between wanting to please our family and loving our partner. I have been in this situation many times and I always followed my heart never listening to what my parents had to say. I always believed they were wrong with what they said to me, unfortunately turns out they were right and I should have listened, but that was my choice, to me it was my life. This is what you have to do, decide what is best for you, it is your life after all. You are the one who has to live with the choices come what may, not anyone else, you have the right to be happy.

you don't have to break him up because if you did..then,you just proved to your parents that he is nothing...that he's no good for you...all you have to do is go on..fight for your love..if you really love each other nothing can take you away from each other..even your parents...prove to them that he can give you a life they wanted you to have..and he is the best of all the guys around you...and it's not his fault to be poor...continue to struggle..and you will succeed soon...and if so,then your parents left with no choice but to accept him for you..and support you...because they love you and at some point they will see that he is a good guy..and they're wrong of what they think about him...gudlak may you succeed together with your bf.

Sounds like a tough place to be. I feel for you and your boy friend. Can he maybe find a place to live and work on his own. Then you can still be friends and over time your parents will have a chance to see what kind of person he is? Just do your best to consider all. Your parents have loved and helped you all this time. I know that will not end. You have the rest of your lives to live together and if the boyfriend is good they will see it and accept him at some point. then they may give there blessing and even help. sincerely :)

Hello ifglan, I am so sorry to hear about the heartache between your parents and your boyfriend. some times parents thinks they know what they are doing and yes they are only thinking if you because the love you very much, after all you are their little girl and they like to see you struggling, I can see their point of view. But remember if you truly love this boy and he loves you no about of money is needed. You go live in a tent as long as you have each other. If you really know that this boy is for keeps go ahead and be with him, eventually your parent will round to the idea and realise you both love each other, your parents will be there for you, they won't disown you in the end."Don't give up on your boyfriend he is working so and maybe you find someelse to live. Good luck. Tamarafireheart.

I guess your parents has some concerns about your welfare, they just need you to show them that they don't need to worry about it since you two will do something or has plans of doing something about it. There is some truth to the saying love goes out of the window when you lack money, be aware of that. Now you can still tolerate each other since you do not live together but when you finally is living under one roof and you are already earning very hard to make ends meet that is where the true test of your love is. Sometimes its so ideal that your love will last but practical living does have some points that you have to consider. So I hope the two of you does have the necessary plans in case you two should be married in the future or is planning to live together as a couple. I think that is the only proof your parents want from your relationship with the guy.

hi there again ifglan! sad to hear that from you.,i know you are hurting because your parents doesn't want that man for you right? but i guess, your parents just doesn't want to see you to have a miserable life.,as you've said you have a very greatful life with your parents, they've work hard for it for you and your siblings.,to make your life comfortable and satisfying and for sure they wouldn't want them to see you in the future to have a mess and miserable life.,do you think that man is responsible? can he also fight for you and wouldn't live you no matter what? just try to figure out the situation first and think not just once but hundred times if you can live with that guy even if you don't have money.,if thats the case then it is still your decision.,you have a choice but please use it wisely.,lets just be practical now.,we've seen a lot of broken family now because of financial problem and that is true.,one of the main reason why married couple is not succesful to live forever is because of financial status in life.,and lets face it.,thats the reality of life.,think of it. never rush , cause i know for sure you could find the right one for you.,Ü have a nice day ahead! see you around!!!

ifglan fight for your love, you love him, stick with him, and tellyour parents you are a grown woman. if will work out if you love and believe in each other. your love will not disappear if you truly love each other and suport each other. when you marry you leave your family for your husband, well even in living together your significant has to come first. you can make it as many thousands have made it, just take one day at a time.

i had been a lot of battles of life and love. and your experience is one that i encountered too. you just have to be brave to face it. you think about all the consequences you will face, then the good things you wanted to be with him. balance it and decide which will you choose. don't give up too soon.

I so sorry to hear that... I know the feeling in that situation because my friend has the same situation like you.. Actually, not really the same.. My friend had this boyfriend with different religion then her parents don't like the guy.. So, her parents keep separating them even though they knew that she will get hurt... Her parents want her to marry the guy who is the same religion like them, he is intelligent, rich and most of all handsome.. The boyfriend of my friend is really the opposite of that guy (you know what I mean ).. The guy really love her and he will do anything/everything just to be worthy for her and to her parents.. But no matter what the guy do still the parents find ways not to like him... Until one day, my friend cannot do anything to fight for her love.. She left her boyfriend and followed what her parents like.. It is hard for her to say goodbye to the guy but she can't handle the situation anymore.. Of course, the guy really felt bad of what she did since the guy do everything just to make her happy and to please her parents but then it seems that my friend didn't appreciate all of his doing.. I also feel bad for my friend because I saw all the hard work of that guy but of course I can't decide for her.. I also know that she really hurt a lot... Now, my friend has already a 2 year old daughter.. She marry the guy who her parents want to be son-in-law.. I cannot say that she's happy cause I know that she feels guilty and she still love her ex-boyfriend.. I don't know anymore what had happened to that guy.. But I hope he is happy.. If I were you, if you really love your boyfriend and just fight for your love.. Don't let your parents or anyone decide for your own happiness... All you had to do is be strong to face all of them and to show them how you both love each other.. Since, you have a good job then you can help him in the future and have a simple life but if you cannot live the things or your possession in life then it might be difficult for you to live with the way he is living....

Hi. It always easy to say before marriage. If one day you happen to be married with this guy and have your own children,then you will know how important money is. I think you should listen to your parents,not too close with this guy,try to figure out both of future,whether is really workable with your plan or not. Have a good day!

Thank you very much for sharing your feelings concerning your love which is nearly collapsing. Remember nobody forced you to love him, and nobody choose for you so the decision is on you. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in the evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Wow, what a problem. Your parents want whats best for you but I strongly disagree with their thoughts. I think that you should stay with you Boyfriend, you love each other, that is all you need, it is special. Money cannot buy you love, not everybody is perfect. A job is to earn money, it doesnt matter if he is a surgeon or a bin man, he is still earning money for his family and life. Parents often get like this in these situations. For instance I am 18 now, I left school at 16, made the wrong career decisions and pritty much I dont have a great lot right now. I have been with my Girlfriend for 3 years now and I dont think her father is to happy but oh well. We love each other, and I am going to go get some qualifications in the right thing I want to do. My advice is, stay with your boyfriend, you obviously love each other, explain to you parents you dont care what he is going to be, as long as he is trying to pursue happiness then there is nothing wrong here. thanks

OH.i am sorry to hear that. Such things happen,right.Thought i am 20. my mom often tell me,find a rich man. i am getting sick of it . i can understand you.It is true we all need money,but without love ...i can't imagine.If i were you ,i would ask myself if i loved him so much,is he realiable?how can he please my parents?how your parents can understand you and support you in the end.good luck!

oh sweet friend! I feel for you so deeply! Yours is not an easy situation, and many in this world have found pain in defending themselves against the ones they love the most. You both have already done so much to make things work, please do not let this stop you. Your family will one day be able to look past their own feelings and see your happpiness is what is important, not your money or status. It is going to be rough and not without pain, but if you truly love this boy, it is worth it. I myself have loved someone that those that loved me did not agree with. They had so many reasons why not to be with him. He moved away, and asked me to go with him. I had to choose between him and my life and family here. I chose my family. And now i have a nice home, children, a good man, and my family, but inside of me i have great sadness for the love i let go because "it was the right thing to do". I love my children. I would not trade them for anything in the universe. But I also know I lost my truest love. See? It is not an easy choice, however inside your heart you know the answer. If you love him, fight for him, do not let him go, because in the end the only person that truly has to live with your choices is you. Now go find that boy and hold him close. Love him and yourself with everything you got, and let Fate take care of the rest. Your family will come around in time, be strong friend.

it is really a tough decision when you need to choose between love and your family. you made a tough decision leaving your family. now it's time for you to stand for it. it will be really hard especially if both of you will start from scratch. you said that you're almost giving up, which is actually not a good thing. love is not as strong as it seems to be. but if you think your love for each other can really surpass this trial then go ahead. when you love you do need to sacrifice something.hey i'm not in anyway against your relationship. but i do hope that your boyfriend to is doing the best and sacrificing as much as you do to make this work. because if not, well you deserve someone better.

Persist!!!I only want to talk this word to you.

This is a very tough situation where in you have to chose between your boyfriend and parents but you had decided to live together with your boyfriend.I know your parents would understand that one day.There are times that you would sacrifice or suffer because of your love and you chose to be that way.I don't think theres nothing wrong with your decision as long as your happy.All you both have to do is to prove to your parents that money is not all that matters in a relationship and besides you can have wealth if you will just work together.

I can't understand why you chose him actually. He's less financially able than you and you say he lives far-away? How could you be sure that it's love? You talk often? You meet often? Talk in person often? If you can truly say that the two of you is really LOVE. Then fight for it. Just be sure what you're really fighting for. If that boy lives with you, just be sure that that boy do get a job. At least, make your parents proud! I believe that when you disobey your parents even if they're the one who's wrong, something bad will happen to you. we call it "gaba". I don't know if "karma" is a closer translation.